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34 Phoenixville, PA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
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5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Read the whole profile if you want to talk to me. Find out about your precious dealbreakers now, because I probably have several of them.

I am now single after an amicable ending to a 10+ year non-monogamous marriage. I think it will be nice to meet like minded people in a friendly way without a lot of expectations, and if we choose to meet again or anything else, that's a bonus, not a default. Friendship, the kind where we talk to each other and are considerate of each other, but with benefits, sounds very appealing, but could be difficult to find.

Not interested in childbirth, monogamy, helping you cheat on your wife, being in the closed fmf triad you and your husband have all planned out. Otherwise open to many possibilities.

I look for people who accept me as I am and aren't likely to be harmful to me. If someone meets this criteria and we mutually like each other I don't let the details get in the way.

I like people of lots of different gender identities, yet I don't have a big problem with the word "bisexual", because close enough.


I have lived in this area for a long time, don't have any immediate plans to move, and chances are I remember when your McMansion was woods. I'm not the typical affluent person who lives in the King of Prussia/Phoenixville area, and I don't have all of the material status symbols that so many people think are vitally important. I've also never been in debt. Things even out.

I have several different groups of friends and seem to be on the outskirts of many subcultures but never firmly entrenched in any one of them. I get along better with people outside the norm even if I'm not the fringiest person in the world. It takes awhile for me to accept and trust someone as a close friend, but I have had friends really help me out in the past and so I like to help friends in need whenever I am able.

I like writing and poetry and I also like to sing. I am non skinny, but also healthy and I enjoy hiking,dancing, rock collecting, weightlifting, biking, push-mowing (yeah, that's a workout!) and swimming. Other interests include thrift shopping, experimental cooking, making beaded jewelry, abandoned houses (also old houses in general...mostly anything before 1950 or so...and unique houses after that) ,elephants, black cats (OK all cats, really all animals too) karaoke and drag queens. I think man-on-man action is extremely hot. I usually like obsolete technology such as records, cassettes, real letters, and in general things from about 100 years ago. I am close with my family and am very lucky to have them. I'm childfree but don't require others in my life to be the same. I am liberal but not a leftist.

From back in the day of "I am ____, ____, and ____" : I am unbroken spirit, obscured, and disquiet
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm going to try not to make this profile into a life-resume, because: 1. my life-resume isn't all that exciting, and 2. I don't think a life-resume, with a long list of degrees you have and countries you've visited, is that effective in making yourself appear approachable. I realize I may appear less approachable here than I actually am.

I found one of my dream jobs: professional cuddler. Also I do some fetish type things. I also have another more conventional job where I don't get paid a lot but I help people. Before these interesting jobs, I had a long history of dead end clerical jobs. Going back to school seemed to make me even more unemployable than before at Regular Office Jobs (tm) so I found other things to do. I admit I'm not that career-ambitious; someone has to be at the bottom of the ladder.

I'm a local to this area but have gotten to do some traveling in recent years and want to do more.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
jobs where I act as a quasi-friend, dealing with old people, getting nice things very cheap, spotting spelling and grammar errors in advertisements, feeling good about feeling bad, singing, typing, word games, cryptograms, anagrams. And then there's cuddling.

...all other things I'm just sort of good at, OK at, or I just like doing. I'd like to reclaim the word "dilletante". I can't decide on one specific thing to devote all my attention to and instead my interests go in cycles. Or should I say octavariums.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Apparently I often look like I'm thinking about something, people ask me what, and it's something inane.

Also I have a sizeable rack.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
BOOKS: Here are some writers whose writings I have strongly liked more than one of: Marge Piercy, Marilyn French, Amy Tan, Judith Rossner, E.M. Forster ( because Maurice will forever be the best gay novel of all time), Jhumpa Lahiri, Soheir Khoshoggi, Ayaan Hirsi Ali, Theodore Sturgeon, Isaac Asimov, Ray Bradbury, Barbara Ehrenreich, Carl Sagan (The Demon Haunted World changed my life!), and probably some others I forgot. I like all different genres. I've read more classics, modern classics, and classic science fiction lately. Young adult books can be surprisingly good also. I get a lot of books at Goodwill or the library.

MOVIES: Priest, Fire, The Gods Must Be Crazy, Ghost World, The Kid, Metropolis, Kumare, the Hebrew Hammer, The Pick of Destiny (crazy rock guys are usually funny)...mainly gay movies and funny movies. I also like old-school Bollywood movies with beautiful clothes and music. Of course I love silent films (also fond of old black & white movies) and I love to see them when they're playing. I have a crush on Charlie Chaplin. Harold Lloyd is also awesome.

MUSIC: My favorite genres must be metal, progressive rock, 80s (new wave!), classic rock and multicultural (esp Hindi and bhangra, but I also like classical piano, music from different time periods and other random songs. Dream Theater, Renaissance, Steeleye Span, Clannad, Queensryche, Porcupine Tree, Opeth, Dead Can Dance, Lush, The Smiths, are just a few bands I love. I have a soft spot for women who can shred!

Once I was asked "How did you get into Dream Theater? Let me guess, some guy got you into them?" Answer: Hell no! I got into them when I was 12 and have since gotten my brothers, my best friend, my mom, my boyfriend, and many others, to like them.

FOOD: I like all kinds of food, healthy and unhealthy. The only things I hate are caraway seeds and wasabi.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.

orgasms (no, I don't need your help)

sleep and dreams (they're pretty connected). I love dreams, even though I don't think they have interpretations.

some form of workout...I love the endorphin rush of weightlifting.

medicine...boring but true.

mouthguard...unsexy but true. I don't want to sleep without it b/c I'll ruin my teeth.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what constitutes "having a personality", being an "interesting person", and what people base their self-worth on.

Leagues, as in being "out of" someone's league, because there are so many different criteria that are different for each person, and people are a little flexible about them, but they still exist. (Maybe most people think of leagues as appearance based, but I think of them more based on other factors.)

how audiences/appreciators are just as important as performers/creators, but are undervalued...the same with low status jobs vs high status

my characters...I got very attached to them

crushes/seducing people/being seduced

different time periods--especially the late 19th and early 20th century

types of relationships, their ethics and impact on society, what they reveal about people

other geographic locations

chains of events/people that lead to significant life events/meeting significant people.

the universe, and how it turned out to be much crazier than anything religions came up with to explain it

I also occasionally wonder if the matching questions and percentages and other stuff here alienate people that would get along if they met by chance.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going to poetry readings, cuddling, dancing, gay bar karaoke, working a night shift, or reading or watching movies at home. That covers most things I could possibly be doing on a Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I live with my parent and it is mutually beneficial. I want to meet people who don't have the typical American view of who it is OK and Not OK to live with.

I have always paid my share of household expenses whoever I have lived with, whether it was a roommate, spouse, family member, etc. I'm not going to pay more money for less quality of living just to get boys/girls to like me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You don't have a problem with how I live, what I do for work, or what kind of relationships I have, and you want to talk to me. That's the bare minimum, anyway.

You like to cuddle (and are OK with it not necessarily leading to sex).

Quite a few "straight" guys have messaged me to confess their interest in other guys, and I have to!

The "I'm looking for" requirements (above) are guidelines more than rules. You don't have to have everything in common with me or agree with me on everything. I don't read the match questions anymore. They're too much like being rejected by total strangers. I'm not big on dealbreakers b/c most are more unlikely than impossible...and I don't remember making a deal with anyone! (Well all right, a copy of Mein Kampf in your bookshelf is a dealbreaker, things like that.) I'm pretty accepting of people so long as they are accepting of me. I probably like you better if you're not so perfect, as long as you don't drain my lifeblood.

I've always wanted to just have people to travel and go to stuff with (like camping and road trips!), whether friends or partners.

I don't have a particular level of seriousness that I am seeking; whatever feels right with that person. At the very least, friends-with-benefits should be FRIENDly toward each other.

People I check out include healthy non-skinny women, South Asian men and women, bisexual men and men with long hair, but I've liked people of almost every type so none of these things are requirements, and obviously personality is much more important--which should go without saying. As time goes on I find more and more people beautiful. I have met a few friends/more-than-friends from here either directly or indirectly, but these things tend to emerge in their own time, too.