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SerenaBlackCat

34 F Phoenixville, PA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:31am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from two-year college
Job
Other
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Relationship wise:

Just ending a long term relationship. I think it will be nice to meet like minded people in a friendly way without a lot of expectations. I'm not looking to jump back into a relationship. I only want to go forward with a relationship if it feels right.

I look for people who accept me as I am and aren't likely to be harmful to me. If someone meets this criteria and we mutually like each other I don't let the details get in the way.

I like people of lots of different gender identities, yet I don't have a big problem with the word "bisexual". It seems a close enough description.

General:

I have lived in this area for a long time and chances are I remember when your McMansion was woods. I'm not the typical affluent person who lives in the King of Prussia/Phoenixville area, and I don't have all of the material status symbols that so many people think are vitally important. I've also never been in debt. Things even out.

I have several different groups of friends and seem to be on the outskirts of many subcultures but never firmly entrenched in any one of them. I get along better with people outside the norm even if I'm not the fringiest person in the world. It takes awhile for me to accept and trust someone as a close friend, but I have had friends really help me out in the past and so I like to help friends in need whenever I am able.

I like writing and poetry and I also like to sing. I am non skinny, but also healthy and I enjoy hiking,dancing, weightlifting, biking, push-mowing (yeah, that's a workout!) and swimming. Other interests include thrift shopping, experimental cooking, making beaded jewelry, abandoned houses (also old houses in general...mostly anything before 1950 or so...and unique houses after that) ,elephants, black cats (OK all cats, really all animals too) karaoke and drag queens. I think man-on-man action is extremely hot. I usually like obsolete technology such as records, cassettes, real letters, and in general things from about 100 years ago. I am close with my family and am very lucky to have them. I'm childfree but don't require others in my life to be the same.

From back in the day of "I am ____, ____, and ____" : I am unbroken spirit, obscured, and disquiet
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm going to try not to make this profile into a life-resume, because: 1. my life-resume isn't all that exciting, and 2. I don't think a life-resume, with a long list of degrees you have and countries you've visited, is that effective in making yourself appear approachable.

In the process of an uncomplicated, amicable divorce. Like, we went on a road trip to his new place, and cuddled till the very end.

I found one of my dream jobs: professional cuddler. I've also been working as a caregiver for several years, and although not a lucrative job, it's a job I enjoy where I get to help people. Before this, I had a long history of dead end clerical jobs. Going back to school seemed to make me even more unemployable than before at Regular Office Jobs (tm) so I found other things to do. I admit I'm not that career-ambitious; someone has to be at the bottom of the ladder.

I'm a local to this area but have gotten to do some traveling in recent years and want to do more.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
jobs where I act as a quasi-friend, dealing with old people, getting nice things very cheap, spotting spelling and grammar errors in advertisements, finding 4-leaf and 5-leaf clovers, cooking without recipes using whatever is in the house, feeling good about feeling bad, cuddling, sleeping, singing, typing, word games, cryptograms, anagrams
...all other things I'm just sort of good at, OK at, or I just like doing. I'd like to reclaim the word "dilletante". I can't decide on one specific thing to devote all my attention to and instead my interests go in cycles. Or should I say octavariums.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Other than having a sizable rack and not being very tall, I wear Indian clothes sometimes and I'm usually either writing something or have my nose in a book.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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BOOKS: Here are some writers whose writings I have strongly liked more than one of: Marge Piercy, Marilyn French, Amy Tan, Judith Rossner, E.M. Forster ( because Maurice will forever be the best gay novel of all time), Jhumpa Lahiri, Soheir Khoshoggi, Ayaan Hirsi Ali, Theodore Sturgeon, Isaac Asimov, Ray Bradbury, Barbara Ehrenreich, Carl Sagan (The Demon Haunted World changed my life!), and probably some others I forgot. I like all different genres. I've read more classics, modern classics, and classic science fiction lately. Young adult books can be surprisingly good also. I get a lot of books at Goodwill or the library.

MOVIES: Priest, Fire, The Gods Must Be Crazy, Ghost World, The Kid, Metropolis, Kumare, the Hebrew Hammer, The Pick of Destiny (crazy rock guys are usually funny)...mainly gay movies and funny movies. I also like old-school Bollywood movies with beautiful clothes and music. Of course I love silent films (also fond of old black & white movies) and I love to see them when they're playing. I have a crush on Charlie Chaplin. Harold Lloyd is also awesome.

MUSIC: My favorite genres must be metal, progressive rock, 80s (new wave!), classic rock and multicultural (esp Hindi and bhangra, but I also like classical piano, music from different time periods and other random songs. Dream Theater, Renaissance, Steeleye Span, Clannad, Queensryche, Porcupine Tree, Dead Can Dance, Lush, The Smiths, are just a few bands I love. I have a soft spot for women who can shred!

Once I was asked "How did you get into Dream Theater? Let me guess, some guy got you into them?" Answer: Hell no! I got into them when I was 12 and have since gotten my brothers, my best friend, my mom, my boyfriend, and many others, to like them.

FOOD: basically I like almost everything except caraway seeds, wasabi, and ham. Some favorite foods: bruschetta, barley, tomato/basil/mozzarrella, eggplant parmagiana, Italian hoagies, anything from El Burrito, chips with homemade salsa, guacamole, curries, samosas, kurkure and other Indian junkfood, chocolate, candy, popcorn, water ice, smoothies, and lately I've gotten to like sushi which I used to hate. Not the biggest carnivore, have lots of vegetarian/vegan friends, but not good at permanently giving up large groups of foods. Except I quit gum, and switched from coffee to tea.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
backpack full of various journals and notebooks that I bring everywhere

orgasms

sleep and dreams (they're pretty connected). I love dreams, even though I don't think they have interpretations.

some form of workout...I love the endorphin rush of weightlifting.

medicine...boring but true.

mouthguard...unsexy but true. I don't want to sleep without it b/c I'll ruin my teeth.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately I've been thinking that it's impossible or extremely rare to fall in love reciprocally, because of reverse psychology. If the pursued person doesn't get scared off, they might like the attention they're getting and grow to love the pursuer, but that's the best that most people can hope for.

places to go, things to do...in the meantime, books to read

what constitutes "having a personality", being an "interesting person", and what people base their self-worth on.

Leagues, as in being "out of" someone's league, because there are so many different criteria that are different for each person, and people are a little flexible about them, but they still exist.

how audiences/appreciators are just as important as performers/creators, but are undervalued...the same with low status jobs vs high status

my characters...I got very attached to them

crushes

different time periods--especially the late 19th and early 20th century

types of relationships, their ethics and impact on society, what they reveal about people

other geographic locations

chains of events/people that lead to significant life events/meeting significant people.

the universe, and how it turned out to be much crazier than anything religions came up with to explain it

I also occasionally wonder if the matching questions and percentages and other stuff here alienate people that would get along if they met by chance.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going to poetry readings, dancing, gay bar karaoke, working a night shift, or reading or watching movies at home. That covers most things I could possibly be doing on a Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I now live with my parent, we both benefit from this arrangement, and I like it just fine. I look to meet people who don't have the typical American view of who it is OK and Not OK to live with.
You should message me if
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You don't have a problem with how I live, what I do for work, or what kind of relationships I have, and you want to talk to me. That's the bare minimum, anyway.

The "I'm looking for" requirements (above) are guidelines more than rules. You don't have to have everything in common with me or agree with me on everything. I don't read the match questions anymore. They're too much like being rejected by total strangers, so it's up to you to look up your precious dealbreakers. I'm not big on dealbreakers b/c most of them are more unlikely than impossible. I'm pretty accepting of people so long as they are accepting of me. I probably like you better if you're not so perfect, as long as you don't drain my lifeblood.

I've always wanted to just have people to travel and go to stuff with (like camping and road trips!), whether friends or platonic partners.

I don't have a particular level of seriousness that I am seeking; whatever feels right with that person. At the very least, friends-with-benefits should be FRIENDly toward each other.

Things I will definitely/probably never do: monogamy, closed triads, childbirth, OPP, being a unicorn, being a unicorn hunter, or any other "I'm only allowed to be with women if my boyfriend is involved" scenarios.

Couples: I would only be with a couple if they were open to different things and we all realized we liked each other, without any pressuring or nudging toward threesomes/triads. People want whatever they want but I still think the overwhelming preference for FMF has to do with double standards.

People I check out include healthy non-skinny women, South Asian men and women, bisexual men and men with long hair, but I've liked people of almost every type so none of these things are requirements, and obviously personality is much more important--which should go without saying. As time goes on I find more and more people beautiful. I have met a few friends/more-than-friends from here either directly or indirectly, but these things tend to emerge in their own time, too.