I am a passionate, incredibly open and honest, and reasonably
intelligent person. I have a strong sense of morality and
indignation at injustice and suffering, but my understanding of
morality has been formed through a long and arduous process of
introspection, and so it is markedly different than what most
people understand as morality, a set of abstract and static rules
slavishly adhered to for their own sake, without any understanding
of the values they serve or their meaning and connection to
reality.
I am independent, skeptical, and contemplative. I love to read, I love philosophy, I love to argue, and I enjoy learning about and using technology. I am fiercely anti-religious--I believe religion is the bane of clarity of thought and distorts a morality based upon tangible consequences in this world, the only world we have any reason to believe exists. I was once a Christian, and am now an atheist, antitheist, and secular humanist. I was once extremely conservative, and now I am a Radical, an anarcho-syndicalist. I was once firmly convinced I was heterosexual, believed firmly in the morality of heternormativity, and a firm believer in the cultural memes I had passively and unquestioningly absorbed and took for granted, but now I am a libertine. I did not change willingly, or easily--rather I was forced to the beliefs I had when I began to question assumptions I had always taken for granted, the ideas of the dominant culture that so many continue to just "take for granted as true," and found they could not be substantiated. But I always cared about what was ACTUALLY true, how and to what degree we could know it to be true, and WHY, even when I held these beliefs, I cared about the good, the true, and the useful most of all, and still do. So inevitably, I was not content to let my beliefs lie as they were, and had to justify them, not just to others, but most importantly to myself. And when I attempted to do so, and sought out evidence and experiences to inform me of what WAS really true, to determine what was good and useful, I learned that much of what I had previously believed and come to doubt was not, in fact, likely true, or was in fact patently false, or abhorrent and immoral even. So I came to believe altogether different things.
I have now experienced and changed a great deal more than I would have ever imagined possible a few short years ago. I doubt whether there is any such thing as "sexuality" as an absolute, and the same too for race and gender. Rather they are constructions overlain upon a physical set of characteristics, that too are contingent upon certain factors for their existence--factors which appear stable, but like all things are merely metastable, presenting an illusion of permanence to our frame of observation, but in fact malleable if you have the power and will to do so. I believe that the greatest happiness and morality comes from empowering the human capacity to overcome any obstacle the fulfillment of its will. All things are judged by their usefulness and consequences to human capacity and will. There is no other sense to, nor any evidence of, any other understanding of morality in any meaningful sense. I am open-minded and non-judgmental, having seen, experienced, learned of, and imagined the depths of human depravity and the heights of human nobility--there is, in my belief, nothing wholly novel anywhere, merely new, or perhaps more accurately, unfamiliar, permutations of what has come before. I am sex-positive, and reject jealousy or possessiveness as immoral and harmful to one's sexual partner(s). I believe developing an ongoing sexual relationship with one you are intimate with makes it much more enjoyable, but also that it is pleasurable to share this with others whom both have an enthusiasm for and prior consensus to--and want someone who shares that freedom, enthusiasm, and honesty. I have a high libido and free spirit when it comes to sexuality, which I enjoy greatly and believe is natural, pleasurable, and should be celebrated and spread. We have done an incredible injustice to the human race by making sex into something so much more esoteric than the simple pleasure and closeness between humans that it is. What is infinitely more important than our jealous possessiveness of each others' bodies, is our honesty and compassion towards one another in our relationships. Eroticism and sensuality is to be shared and enjoyed, not stifled and feared.
I am here because I am weary of going through life without someone else who shares an understanding and perspective on life as I do. I have longed for another who shares the same zest for philosophy, passion for intelligence, and desire for deep intimacy and need for mutual understanding and trust with another human being as me. But I despair at the difficulty of finding such a person when I look out at the world and the people that inhabit it and see nothing but selfishness, myopia, dispassion, ignorance, fear, credulity, and cowardice. I don't doubt that I am not unique, and that somewhere on a planet of nearly 7 billion people, there is another who shares my interests and needs--what I worry is at the difficulty of finding such a person, when they are likely so rare to begin with, and on top of that must have a mutual interest with me for a relationship to form, when their personality does not announce itself to the senses straightforwardly. And so I have set up a profile, and hopefully luck and coincidence will bring me such a person. I want to meet a woman who shares my love of philosophy, desire of intimacy, trust and mutual understanding, who is open-minded, intelligent, and a skeptical and critical thinker. Preferably a women liberated in her sexuality, who rejects conventions of gender and sexuality as binding, and enjoys the pleasures of sensuality inherent life, be they sexual or no, without fear or hesitation. I want someone honest and who wants a special relationship of devotion to one another, to rely on one another, challenge one another in debate and thought, and grow in closeness and understanding of one another. This is what I define as romantic love, and it is distinct from sex, though both are enjoyable (and not mutually exclusive), it is the rarer and far more precious of the two. And it is what I would prefer to find, although I am an open-minded and casual person, and happy to make new friendships, sexual or pure platonic, with worthwhile people.
I am independent, skeptical, and contemplative. I love to read, I love philosophy, I love to argue, and I enjoy learning about and using technology. I am fiercely anti-religious--I believe religion is the bane of clarity of thought and distorts a morality based upon tangible consequences in this world, the only world we have any reason to believe exists. I was once a Christian, and am now an atheist, antitheist, and secular humanist. I was once extremely conservative, and now I am a Radical, an anarcho-syndicalist. I was once firmly convinced I was heterosexual, believed firmly in the morality of heternormativity, and a firm believer in the cultural memes I had passively and unquestioningly absorbed and took for granted, but now I am a libertine. I did not change willingly, or easily--rather I was forced to the beliefs I had when I began to question assumptions I had always taken for granted, the ideas of the dominant culture that so many continue to just "take for granted as true," and found they could not be substantiated. But I always cared about what was ACTUALLY true, how and to what degree we could know it to be true, and WHY, even when I held these beliefs, I cared about the good, the true, and the useful most of all, and still do. So inevitably, I was not content to let my beliefs lie as they were, and had to justify them, not just to others, but most importantly to myself. And when I attempted to do so, and sought out evidence and experiences to inform me of what WAS really true, to determine what was good and useful, I learned that much of what I had previously believed and come to doubt was not, in fact, likely true, or was in fact patently false, or abhorrent and immoral even. So I came to believe altogether different things.
I have now experienced and changed a great deal more than I would have ever imagined possible a few short years ago. I doubt whether there is any such thing as "sexuality" as an absolute, and the same too for race and gender. Rather they are constructions overlain upon a physical set of characteristics, that too are contingent upon certain factors for their existence--factors which appear stable, but like all things are merely metastable, presenting an illusion of permanence to our frame of observation, but in fact malleable if you have the power and will to do so. I believe that the greatest happiness and morality comes from empowering the human capacity to overcome any obstacle the fulfillment of its will. All things are judged by their usefulness and consequences to human capacity and will. There is no other sense to, nor any evidence of, any other understanding of morality in any meaningful sense. I am open-minded and non-judgmental, having seen, experienced, learned of, and imagined the depths of human depravity and the heights of human nobility--there is, in my belief, nothing wholly novel anywhere, merely new, or perhaps more accurately, unfamiliar, permutations of what has come before. I am sex-positive, and reject jealousy or possessiveness as immoral and harmful to one's sexual partner(s). I believe developing an ongoing sexual relationship with one you are intimate with makes it much more enjoyable, but also that it is pleasurable to share this with others whom both have an enthusiasm for and prior consensus to--and want someone who shares that freedom, enthusiasm, and honesty. I have a high libido and free spirit when it comes to sexuality, which I enjoy greatly and believe is natural, pleasurable, and should be celebrated and spread. We have done an incredible injustice to the human race by making sex into something so much more esoteric than the simple pleasure and closeness between humans that it is. What is infinitely more important than our jealous possessiveness of each others' bodies, is our honesty and compassion towards one another in our relationships. Eroticism and sensuality is to be shared and enjoyed, not stifled and feared.
I am here because I am weary of going through life without someone else who shares an understanding and perspective on life as I do. I have longed for another who shares the same zest for philosophy, passion for intelligence, and desire for deep intimacy and need for mutual understanding and trust with another human being as me. But I despair at the difficulty of finding such a person when I look out at the world and the people that inhabit it and see nothing but selfishness, myopia, dispassion, ignorance, fear, credulity, and cowardice. I don't doubt that I am not unique, and that somewhere on a planet of nearly 7 billion people, there is another who shares my interests and needs--what I worry is at the difficulty of finding such a person, when they are likely so rare to begin with, and on top of that must have a mutual interest with me for a relationship to form, when their personality does not announce itself to the senses straightforwardly. And so I have set up a profile, and hopefully luck and coincidence will bring me such a person. I want to meet a woman who shares my love of philosophy, desire of intimacy, trust and mutual understanding, who is open-minded, intelligent, and a skeptical and critical thinker. Preferably a women liberated in her sexuality, who rejects conventions of gender and sexuality as binding, and enjoys the pleasures of sensuality inherent life, be they sexual or no, without fear or hesitation. I want someone honest and who wants a special relationship of devotion to one another, to rely on one another, challenge one another in debate and thought, and grow in closeness and understanding of one another. This is what I define as romantic love, and it is distinct from sex, though both are enjoyable (and not mutually exclusive), it is the rarer and far more precious of the two. And it is what I would prefer to find, although I am an open-minded and casual person, and happy to make new friendships, sexual or pure platonic, with worthwhile people.
