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46 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 24
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Portuguese (Okay), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Smart, playful, funny, clever, sensual, passionate, sarcastic, generous, open.

I'm on a mission to try more, do more, learn and experience more and I want someone to be my play mate and companion for the fun and learning. Join me for adventure? And if we're lucky possibly for the longer term kind of adventure as partners.

As playful and adventurous as I can be there's still nothing I'd like more than a good partner to share the world and it's adventures with. It would everything even better than it already is. Honestly I feel life is just more complete with someone to share it with. While it's true that you should be complete within yourself, we are social creatures and need other people. We are built to seek bonds.

I also believe love is a choice you make. You can find something to love in anyone. And you can choose to be 'in love' with many of those people. There is no such thing as "The One", there are many you could be madly in love with if you have a few important things in common, some chemistry, and just make that choice. I feel that many people today are trying to find everything in one person. Some might find that but it's a fools errand to expect it. Open your mind and open your heart and you'll find you're surrounded by possibility.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Learning & growing rapidly, looking for partners in crime, being experimental and experiential. Seeking fun and adventure, but just as important is real connection with someone to share my pleasures and passions. Out to enjoy all the variety the bay area and beyond has to offer.

I'm also reading and studying on topics of interest. Some examples are the health benefits of mindfulness meditation, refreshing my body language skills, psychology, etc. I'm also getting back into various creative pursuits. I took a jewelry making class and have some light based sculptures I want to make. I'd like to take a drawing class, and much more. I can't fit in everything I want to do though, so I'm taking opportunity as it comes, learning what's most important or enjoyable and trying to focus on that.

I also want to start traveling again. It's been too long. I've seen 11 countries and have many more I want to visit. Amongst other things and places I'd like to spend enough time in South America to become conversationally fluent in both Portuguese and Spanish. Since I speak a little Portuguese now I've got a head start. Mandarin is next on the list after that but I expect that to be much harder.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people feel good with praise & compliments.
Brainy conversation.
Looking danger in the eye without flinching.
Flying by the seat of my pants.
Finding the humor in just about anything.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Friendly and outgoing.
My smile, and my mischievous air.
My zany humor and sarcastic wit.
My eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
EDIT: I guess I lied to myself about getting back to this part. Oh well. Maybe later, maybe not.

I'll come back to this, I know I need to flesh out my interests and such. For now rather than list a bunch of titles here's the kind of thing I like.

In movies I like suspense, anything that really makes you think or keeps you guessing, sci-fi, comedy and good action flicks.

In books, well most of the reading I do these days is for information rather than entertainment. But I am an avid reader.

Music, pretty much anything you can dance to and more. Rock, swing, bossa nova, some jazz, classical, techno, EDM, etc.

Food, well there isn't much I don't like. Except liver, just don't go there.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sensuality (don't read that as sexuality please)
Good friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What kind of new thing or adventure I can try next.

A few things currently on my to do list:
Get back into martial arts, Aikido specifically.
Learn to paraglide.
Learn to slackline. <-- did some of this, boy was I wobbly. :)
Travel more. <-- been doing more of this.
Mindfulness Meditation. <-- failing to do this like I should.
Dance more.<-- been doing more of this too.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't have a typical friday. I could be at a club, house party, campout, hanging out with my friends, who knows...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sometimes I reflexively try to move things with my mind. So far it hasn't worked. :)
You should message me if
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● You have something to teach me or show me.
● I can teach you something.
● You're ready for adventure.
● Want to enjoy some of the finer pleasures with me, and some of the courser ones too. Maybe at the same time?
● You think we might work out in the long term.
● You just want a new friend and think I might be it.
● You're GGG.