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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18-45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 2" (1.89m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I have a wild imagination, a wild personality, and a wild life and that's just the way I like it. For me, life is all about exploring and discovering new things, people, places, and feelings, and trying to improve my life and the world around me while I'm at it.

I am Intelligent, Confident, and Indulgent.

I am a Polyamorous Feminist. I have a primary partner that I live with. We both date other people, usually separately.

I have been involved in the San Francisco BDSM community for the entirety of my adult life.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Bartending, hosting Kink parties, and having fun while looking for a "real job". Considering grad school in a year or two.

I work out six days a week, alternating between strength training and Krav Maga. I like swimming, water polo, hiking, yoga and I'm always looking for new activities.

Finished my Bachelor's in Anthropology with a minor in German, also have an Associate's in Social and Behavioral Sciences.

I lived in Germany for a year (2013-14) and I have traveled to eighteen countries, sixteen of which are in Europe.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Dancing, mixing drinks, swimming, cooking, talking to people, making travel plans, coming up with crazy, grandiose ideas, Making people smile, and Always having fun.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My outgoing personality, and my height.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The majority of the media I consume is academic, informational, political, etc. and in digital form (Podcasts, Youtube videos, Ted talks, audio books, online articles)

It's been an admittedly long time since I sat down with a paper book for personal pleasure. Though I love Sci Fi, Satire, and other fiction, the majority of my reading in the last few years has been academic or digital.

I'm not terribly picky when it comes to movies, just not horror. As long as they are well made and cause some sort of emotional or intellectual response, whether that be laughter, sadness, or reconsidering life as you know it. My favorite genres are Drama and Sci Fi

I don't watch a lot of TV these days, but I am totally guilty of occasionally burning through entire series on Netflix, marathon style. I love Drama, Sci-fi, and the rare Sitcom. House of Cards, Game of Thrones, Sons of Anarchy, Mad Men, Star Trek (especially TNG), Doctor Who Firefly, The Newsroom, How I Met Your Mother.

I have a very diverse taste in music. I love everything from Opera to Metal. My go-to genres are usually different types of EDM and Industrial, with an occasional switch to alternative.

I love gourmet food and drinks (I have expensive tastes). I really enjoy trying new cuisines from around the world and my absolute favorite food is Sushi. Cooking with new ingredients and trying new and healthier things in the kitchen is very fun.
Also I enjoy high quality alcohol and mixing drinks. I love Wine tasting, and have brewed some beer, but my true love is Whisky and Classic Cocktails.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The obvious (Food, water, air, sleep, good health)
Adventure/New experiences
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to alter my future and the future of the human race for the better. Where to travel and what to learn next. Perverse things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't really have a typical evening. Anything from clubbing, to hanging out at home with friends, watching a movie, or possibly working.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am VERY open, feel free to ask me any questions you like.
One "secret": I have HSV1 (ask me about it if you need clarification)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to counter the patriarchal standard of the active male persuer and the passive female object of pursuit.

You are a fun loving person and you think we would get along.

You would like to have an intellectual or philosophical discussion or debate on just about any topic.

You want someone to workout with.

You want someone to dance with.

You want someone to travel with.

You want to explore the amorphous grey area between hookups and committed relationships.

You have any questions about the San Francisco BDSM scene or the lifestyle in general.

Or if you just think I'm sexy.