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Shallow_Heart

100 M Galesburg, IL

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:47am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Education
Working on masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
(If you're here for the erotic poetry, skip to the "Friday Night" section.)

The Basics of My Intentions
What am I here for? The best way I can describe it is this: I want a temporary girlfriend with physical intimacy as the basis. It is important that the girl be interested in sex as much as I. However, I also want a female friend to talk to and spend time with. Whether going to movie, getting dinner, going to a live show, or what-have-you. I enjoy intimacy and sexuality, but I also enjoy dates and conversation.

Adjectives anyone?
If you don't know me I am: Blunt, open, and decisive.
After you meet me I am: Unique, interesting, and fun
Unexpectedly, I can be: Honest, tender, and affectionate.
Adversely, I am often: Argumentative, domineering, and intolerable.

Physically, I am not a small guy. I am one of the stronger men I know personally, but my muscular build is coated by a padded shell. However, my flexibility, stamina, and cardiovascular abilities can be impressive.

Please don't waste our time.
Don't take this the wrong way, but I am not looking for a girl to impress and try to "win" their affection. If they want what I want, our long term goals, life lessons, politics, grandparents genealogy, religion, hereditary conditions, etc., all may be interesting discussion, but should not matter in the long run. Why? Because the long run is short term.

Here's the best I can do to describe it. I don't want a girl to take the time to get to know me, message me, text me, and meet me for a date, all the while never having any intention of sleeping with me. It's like lining up a series of interviews for a job, but never intending to work.

If we meet up, it is important to know that that the most important thing how well we can get along together, and how well we click. And once we move onto the next step, it matters how good the sex is.

What am I NOT looking for? but am not 100% against
Pen pals (writing only goes so far)
One night stands (the first time is never the best and I’m a fan of multiple sequels)
Polyamory (I can handle you alone, I’m not a backup. Nor do I need it.)
Helping you please your wife (I'm sorry you can’t do that on your own, take a class, it’s really not that hard).
My specific sexual dislikes are covered later.

Did you say... Dates?
Yes, I enjoy taking girls on dates. Pretty much anything that is considered a standard date aside from bar hopping. I honestly don’t know when going to loud and crowded bars filled with desperate and intoxicated people became a good way to spend quality time with someone you are interested in.

Some other good ones can be bowling, museums, walking in the park, etc.

A few details.
I am attracted to nerds/geeks/punks. I am/was a little bit of each, and if you are one, that's a plus. Tattoos and a few tasteful piercings are also a plus. But, as I thoroughly enjoy variety, a soft looking, long haired, clean-cut girl I also find very attractive.

Yes, I have a vehicle (it's sad that this is an issue for guys) and would actually prefer to travel 15-70 +/- miles for a rendezvous. The mileage can stretch if we click well over emails. If you have your own place, that'd be best. I am not interested in spending 200$ per weekend on hotels as I'd prefer to spend that on the actual dates.

Sexual Proclivities.
See "You should message me if" section at the end of profile.
This is where I used to spell out a list (more like a detailed explanation of six different aspects) of my sexual likes and touched on my dislikes. To shorten this section, I have relocated it all to the bottom of my profile in a bit more fitting place.

Other details not pertinent to my search criteria.
There is much that the rest of my profile does not show. I am a bit of a nerd, and most of my friends are nerds. I play a nerdy card game, I read comics, I debate the attributes of characters in said comics when held in comparison to other characters of like abilities, I memorize useless trivia that most of the time no one cares about. But, despite my affinity to geekosities, I have been told I'm quite funny and fun to be around. It's hard for me to put that without feeling like I'm bragging about something, but it's simply pure information.

MB:
I - 56%, N - 10%, T - 52%, J - 36%.

(I'm not the kind of introvert that can't converse. On the contrary. I will talk your ear off about nearly everything. I just don't like loads of people or crowded places.)
What I’m doing with my life
My job? Does it matter? I'm a well-paid, blue collar guy that works with my hands and enjoys my job.
I’m really good at
Reading you like a cheap novel.
Seeing through you.
Dissolving your lies.
Solving problems I deem important.
Denial, of you and of myself.
Oral sex.
The destruction of buildings with my bare hands.
Mentally and physically defeating enemies.
Pretending I don't care.
The first things people usually notice about me
My large imposing physical build.
My eyes, piercing and warming simultaneously.
My caustic interactions with other humans.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authored books are a waste of time. I read encyclopedias.

Modern T.V. rots the mind. Cliche, but true.

My tastes in movies are too varied to describe.

Same for my taste in music.

Food is irrelevant.
The six things I could never do without
Your sweat.

Your breath.

Your grasp.

Your gaze.

Your hatred.

My shame.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How much you will despise me 24 hours after we meet.
When the taste of me on your lips becomes rancid bittersweet.
When your heart skips beats from fear or hope or hate.
From the thought of a time now gone and what we did create.
To savor the past moments, or from our minds erase.
To again see you, and you me, or vanish sans a trace.
To take your soul and cast it in this wretched sea,
That fills the pit that never ends, but lies inside of me.

-yes, I wrote that... just now
On a typical Friday night I am
(Began on Sept, 25, '12 - Revised on Sept, 30)
To the back of the crowded elevator, and my hand slips up your skirt.
You reach to push my hand away, while your eyes all but flirt.
A tense moment then I grab your hand and step out onto our floor.
I fumble for the slender card that unlocks the steadfast door.
Your hands are at my collar sending shivers down my spine.
Your perfume, my cologne and breath soaked in wine.
In the room, you're quickly against the wall and a kiss begins a race.
I pause but a moment and get drunk from your breath upon my face.
Panting as I stare so close that I lose myself in your gaze.
It is only but a year that seems to pass before I'm out of the maze.
The heat we're making forms a sheen that glistens on your skin.
I touch it, I taste it, I consume you, I sin.
Your fingers clench so tight, they start a tear and rip into my shirt.
You bear down and bite my ear with just the right amount of hurt.

(These lines, Oct, 1, '12)
Your salty/sweet/soft neck stretches out long beneath my lips
You writhe under the pressure of me pinning you with my hips.
I lift you up, your legs wrap around me, clenching ever tight.
Gracefully I stagger, across the room, to the bed, and into the night.

(Apr, 28, 13)
The sheets beckon and pull us with their own strange gravity.
We pretend we can fight the forces of passion but actually,
We welcome the frantic ecstasy that fuels our every motion.
Your skin is the soft warm sand, my damp mouth is the ocean.
Layers of cloth peel from our eager bodies like molting skin.
The cloth that has trapped the hungry raging beasts deep within.
Our bodies nearly bare, we collapse on the soft surface.
My hunger climaxes and in my eyes sparks a purpose.
My mouth seeks a path from your neck to it's destination.
Stopping everywhere it can to cause so much sensation.
Your hands and arms and shoulders and chest and stomach.
My fingers not still, breath not quiet, my mouth does plummet.
My tongue moves ever so slowly, it trips over the white lace.
The cotton absorbs my spit leaving long a wet trace.
Your sweet scent grows stronger and travels to fill my nose.
My lips press through the cloth in search of your rose.

(More to come... work in progress)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I consider myself wretched inside, but no one will ever see it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–49
  • Near me
  • For short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
If you understand what it is I want from this site... That is all.

If you feel the need to do so to ridicule me, I may welcome that more than anything.

If you liked what you read and think that, for some reason, you can fulfill my odd requirements... be my guest.

Now for the fun stuff.
(herein lies a mild description of my sexual preferences. It describes activities I enjoy. It does not describe my libido. But, needless to say, chances are you won't have one as high as mine.)

Sexual Proclivities
I would be considered vanilla since I have no real fetishes. But I am about as varied as a vanilla can be. Think of these as a checklist. A score of 6/6 is great. 5/6 is okay. 4/6 or less, and it's probably not going to happen. (Actually being a fan of number 4 will net you an extra credit point.)

0: (pre-sex) I call this pre-sex because even foreplay is sex to me. Pre-sex includes, but is not limited to; A little PDA. Teasing during a car ride. Making out. Petting. Etc. This is all great. I love it. To me, foreplay starts when the clothes begin to fall off.

1: I am extremely oral. There is no area of the female body I do not want to touch with my mouth. This is mandatory. I also strongly prefer someone who can say the same thing. If this is not natural for you, we will not last.

2: Cowgirl - missionary - doggie. No specific order to that. Those are my positions and I will do any/every variation of them. (And there are a LOT of variations, so you need to be limber.)

3: I dabble in getting a little rough. I will put a hand on your throat, but I won't throttle. I will restrain your hands. I will bare teeth. I will leave light marks. I will leave you sore. I will NOT draw blood. Slapping and spanking may occur, but not before being discussed first.

4: I have an affinity to anal. It is extremely important to me. It is not a fetish, but a strong liking. I am experienced in it and really like being a girls first time. Especially when no other guy has been able to do it right.

5: I care very little for specifics in body type. Of course I have a preference, but it makes little difference. Skinny girls are great fun, but then again thinker ones can be too. Tall and short obviously have their advantages. But if your size becomes a hindrance to what we can do in bed, that is where I draw the line.

My own body type is "muscular with a soft outer shell." I have a little extra, but I am in great health, and even work out. (Physically strenuous work during the day and often running a few miles at night.) My stamina is quite good.

6:No thank yous: I don't like toys. I don't like apparatus. I don't like devices. I don't like items that are not permanently attached to you or I. If I can't do what you want with my body alone, then you need a lot more than I have to offer. Bondage holds a little interest for me, but if that is you're thing, don't expect a heck of a lot from me. This is my most lenient aspect. The rest I am not likely to budge on.

This is my flavor of vanilla.

All of these are important. If you match closely to all of these, you may be perfect.