First off, and most importantly, I am looking for someone who shares my love for assisting the world's most afflicted folks in a meaningful way. My future partner should 1) take great joy in helping people, 2) have an admirable respect for everyone, 3) love me for who I really am, and 4) has an aspiration for a career as a humanitarian (a definition encompassing anything from mental health to social change to basic necessity work) field (*if you aren't interested in humanitarian work as a lifetime career, I'm not interested in knowing you as more than a friend*). My reasoning for believing that way is this: I want a partner who can lift me up and motivate me to be more compassionate that I already am. I need the support that can only come from a like-minded individual. After all, we're dealing with what I believe to be the greatest meaning in life, here (helping fellow humans): it'd be a catastrophic disappointment to me if my love caused to settle for a lesser existence. Also, pure harmony in a relationship is crucial; simply put, I don't get along with people who don't feel the need to fight the world's biggest human injustices. We would argue far too much. Personally, I see the simple fact that I have the ability to bring about positive change in other's lives to bring the most significant value to my life. Since I don't know if I believe in God, I have given humanitarianism the reins to giving my life a purpose. I truly hope that humans aren't meaningless, evolutionary mistakes, though. If there is no absolute meaning to Earth's presence, I will make meaning for myself by transforming miserable lives to be just a little bit more tolerable.
"One's life has value so long as one attributes value to the life of others, by means of love, friendship, and compassion."
~ Simone de Beauvoir
"The purpose of human life is to serve and to show compassion and the will to help others."
~ Albert Schweitzer
"What counts in life is not the mere fact that we have lived. It is what difference we have made to the lives of others that will determine the significance of the life we lead."
~ Nelson Mandela
Next, I can be characterized by being a little OCD and obsessed with worldview truth matters. It seems to be that if a man is rational, he will continually examine existence until he has a firm grasp on what -- if anything -- awaits him at death. We have several different religions threatening us will hell and others stating that we'll be reincarnated into a suffering being. We have philosophies claiming that death is the end; we'll cease to exist; it will be how it was before we were born. Scientists mostly believe that human life is a big mistake. How can this not alarm everyone?! To know that there are so many differing opinions from equally intelligent, knowledgeable, passionate minds on something so important should drive people to despair. Truth-claim ambiguity has certainly driven me a little mad. How is one supposed to sort through this huge mess of literature for and against the religions and philosophies of mankind in a lifetime? Even if it were possible, I don't think but maybe the top 5% of the world's population has a brain bright enough to understand the literature. I suppose most religious people get past this conundrum by blindly relying on a faith that they don't know a whole lot about; they attribute coincidences and inner feelings as proof for their worldview. I don't disagree that SOME humans may come to a correct knowledge by this avenue, but the differing opinions that have came by the avenue cast doubt on the whole ordeal. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that there is no true worldview: I'm merely saying that the ways people seem to try proving their particular worldview doesn't seem rational. The ways that people convince themselves of their worldview doesn't ring true with me. We can convince our brains to believe ANYTHING; it's all through mental and physical conditioning that man can truly believe absurd things. A prime example is the Dolphin Society Church. Look it up. At this poinnt in time, even if I WANTED to believe any worldview other than soft agnosticism, I couldn't. I am too skeptical of why my mind is believing something. What if I am deluding myself? I can't personally comprehend how, in a world of rationality, so many folks can intellectually disagree on so many things. Just look at the history of philosophy: there are countless systems that have risen and eventually succumbed to a "superior" way. It must be that because this world is so terribly complex, finite minds have a rough time making sense of it. But that just lends more support to the whole "we don't know anything" premise behind Socrates and soft agnosticism. To make a long story short, based on intellectual disagreement, I don't know how any one person can claim that they know the correct worldview: because of this personal belief, I am being slowly driven mad by the horror of death.
"The unexamined life is not worth living."
Other philosophical interests:
(If you don't know what they are, look them up on the online Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy!)
- Philosophy of mortality/immortality
- The problem of hell
- The problem of evil
- Faith v. reason
A few of my other interests/hobbies include cologne, Victorian houses, 19th century aristocratic architecture, fine dark chocolate, fossil shark teeth, parapsychology, YouTube prank videos, romantic times in nature, classic cars, the ethereal qualities of natural beaches, audiophile music listening, antiques, et cetera.