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Shaonleon

32 Victoria, British Columbia, CA Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 20–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Nov 22
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Asian, Other
Height
5′ 5″ (1.66m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Bengali (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Updated: 06 November 2014

- I have the spirit of a creative and intelligent princess, courtesan and guardian.
- I am transitioning to have my body match my sense of self.
- My main quest is sexuality and creativity.
- I love power
- Transformations turn me on since I was six ( Link ).
- I love creating pleasure.
- I fear and crave losing control and surrendering to the flow.
- Freedom is one of my strongest values.
- I commit to people, not to relationships.
- Gender equality is a necessity.
- My kingdom is my highest priority

D E T A I L S

I am one of the many manifestations of consciousness. I contain the spirit of a princess, a courtesan, a healer, a guardian, a sage and an artist. This planet and time period is part of my story. Or rather, I am a small part of the story of the world. There are several main characters in my part of the story (close friends, family, lovers) and some interesting side characters too. They all have their own quest in this life and often they overlap with mine. All of it (place, time, characters and myself) put together makes up my kingdom which grows more and more wonderful every moment. If you resonated with any of this and want to talk about it, please send me a message.

My main quests are related to sexuality and creativity. More specifically, I love to connect with people, explore the nature of attraction, resonate with people's spirits and reach my full potential through the art of sexuality and human connection. I also love to create stories through video games, novels, webcomics and other art forms.

"Princess" is a base class for my spirit. It is right now evolving to something else (possibly a prestige class), but I don't yet know what it is. All I know is that it is powerful.

I love power. I love having it, and I love handing it to someone who can wield it effectively and responsibly. The power can be as simple as creating desires in people, to as intense as making them scream and beg, to as profound as changing someone's beliefs. I love the power of an alpha dominant. I also love powerful submissives. I call them "omegas" since "alpha" was already taken for dominants. I am working on becoming one (or rather discovering if I am one).

I love pleasure of most type. Mental stimulation, ideas, emotional waves, food, touch, sight, intense sensations, orgasms, whatever form the pleasure may take. Creating pleasure in someone makes me feel very powerful. I love being fed. I love cooking for people I care about and love it when they cook for me. I am still learning to be better at receiving pleasure in some of the other ways.

Relationships

I am polyamorous because I have the capacity to love more than one person at a time. I am kinky because I also enjoy exploring creative ways to connect with people physically, mentally and spiritually.

I do not actively seek a specific kind of relationship. I prefer to have whatever relationship I can naturally have with a person. It is like planting a seed and watching it grow naturally and beautifully through time and patience. I am very selective about who I connect with. New seeds in an existing garden need to be carefully selected, as it needs to be compatible with the rest of the garden.

At this stage in my life, I do not commit to any specific kind of relationship. I commit to people who I feel are important in my life, but not to any specific relationships with them. I have had lovers become friends and friends become lovers. Friendship is a good foundation to start with.

The kind of people I am looking for are the ones who are actively growing and consciously evolving. I want to connect with people who have clear goals in life. I am also looking for inspiration for my creative projects. I have several going on right now, including video games and webcomics. I am also teaching myself to be a courtesan and a siren (aka female pickup artist).

I would also welcome a sugar daddy/mama for a mutually beneficial arrangement if they happen to be the right person. The benefits can be negotiated and do not need to be conventional benefits.

Again, I'm not seeking any specific relationship. My kingdom is my priority. This is not negotiable. I make space for new people once in a while if we connect very easily.

Any new relationship that anyone wants to form with me will require patience, authenticity, respect and trust at the very least.

Several of my close friends have strong loving relationships with me that may or may not be sexual (sex is optional because we have grown so close that sex is not necessary anymore). Some of them are also on here: my close friend who I have known for over ten years (Teagansmiley), my soul-sister who is another beautiful princess (GazelaRose) and my awesome friend who I have known for over 6 years (Ryphna).

P O I N T S - O F - I N T E R E S T

Emotions: I love emotions. I love hearing about them. I love reading about them. Some people have even called me an emotion-vampire because I seem to feed on them. No matter how “weird” someone thinks their emotions are, I tend to find them interesting. I encourage meaningful emotional conversations.

Sexuality: I am a guardian of sexuality. I came to this planet to heal and protect sexuality. I spend a lot of my time trying to take care of it. Sexuality is a misunderstood child that has been unjustly blamed for many crimes of humanity. I try my best to show the world the soft innocence that is at the core of sexuality. It is a difficult process because a lot of humans are scared of it and some humans maintain high levels of unawareness. (Let me also point out here, that sexuality and sex are not the same thing. Sex is a subset of sexuality, but sexuality itself is much bigger than sex.)

One thing to note about sexuality is that I enjoy it in many forms on the personal level. I do not even have to have sex to be satisfied. I am often quite happy to assist other people in having sex. I have found that I LOVE orchestrating improvised orgies, using my knowledge of what each person likes and my intuition on how attraction is flowing between them. In spite of what mainstream society thinks, it is possible to have sex from the "friend zone". I have done it many times and those friends have become even better friends than before. A close friend is someone who I know a LOT about on an intimate level. The sex is a manifestation of that intimacy.

Gender: I am transgender and transsexual. I am currently partway through my physical transition. Transition needs to be a big priority in my life right now. I have faced many gender related incidents and oppression in my life (from both sexists and self-proclaimed feminists). In a standard girls vs boys fight, I was never on either side. I felt like I was the battlefield itself. People hurt each other and hurt me in the process because I saw no way to pick a side when I am able to see and empathize with both sides. Needless to say, I have strong feelings regarding gender. I support feminism because its the only movement that is doing anything worthwhile about gender equality. I love humanity in spite of all its flaws and I am a supporter of the positive growth of humanity. Gender fairness just happens to be a necessity in that process.

Harmony: Some people call this spirituality. Some people call it resonance. And yet some others call it art. A few also know it as science. I call it harmony because that's what it feels like to me. I am referring to the beauty of the way the world works. There is some sort of balance in everything around me: music, rhythm, dance, sex, motivation, revolutions and many more. I would have to list everything in the world to cover it all. This is something I like feeling and observing and living.

Kink: This did not need to be separated from sexuality, but I wanted to focus on it separately to highlight the specific way I approach it. I find it a little bit hard to explain the type of kink role I fit naturally in using the conventional terms. So I will use an analogy instead. I can easily fit into the role of a princess, (since I am one):
- I am dominant towards servants, guards, soldiers/knights (who are on my side).
- I am mostly submissive (with occasional brattiness) towards a guardian, a king/queen and a teacher/mentor.
- I would try to be dominant but ultimately may have to submit to evil warlords, wizards/witches, knights, pirates, bandits etc.
- I may be dominant or submissive towards mysterious travelers, rogue/anarchist, other princes/princesses, all depending on the circumstances.

There are many other roles that can exist outside the ones I listed. For example, I have experienced interactions with a dragon. Those are some intense, loveable and unforgettable experiences.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
- Making video games
- Living in the moment
- Loving passionately
- Connecting with my true self
- Roleplaying
- Chakra Belly dance
- Family reconnection
- Inspiring people
- Being inspired
- Surfing the sexuality spectrum
- Exploring my spirit and subconscious
- Improving intuition
- Gender peace and diplomacy

I have always been a creative person. I channel my creative energy into the creation of video games, novels, graphic novels and other art forms. I dream of having my own team of artists to help me create all the stories that swim around in my head constantly.

As a side quest, I want to travel the world and learn about the many riches that it has to offer that could help my main dreams blossom.
My ideal job is a combination of:
- Video game designer
- Companion (Inara's job from "Firefly". If you have not seen it you need to be at least willing to see it if you want to connect with me)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Extracting wisdom
- Helping people feel comfortable to talk openly.
- Drawing
- Gaming
- Programming
- Orchestrating orgies
- Unlocking fetishes within people
- Math. I'm good at math but I can't stand numbers. Its something like keeping your enemies closer that allows me to be good at it. If I'm not good at it, it might dare to attack me anytime. I do like math that doesn't involve too many pure numbers. I enjoy patterns and interactions of abstract concepts.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Intense eyes, wild hair, fiery skirt, explosion of purple.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books:

- The Power of Now
- A New Earth
- The Ethical Slut
- The Art of Sexual Ecstasy
- Harry Potter
- Watchmen
- Buffy and Angel comics

Movies:
- Avengers
- Better Than Chocolate
- Secretary
- The Dark Knight
- Batman Begins
- V for Vendetta
- Watchmen
- As Good As It Gets
- Serenity
- Fight Club
- Pan's Labyrinth
- Hairspray
- Mamma Mia
- Miyazaki movies
- Disney animated movies

Animes:
- Princess Tutu
- Fruits Basket
- Azumanga Daioh
- Ouran High School Host Club
- Honey and Clover
- The Vision of Escaflowne
- Witch Hunter Robin

TV Shows:
- Buffy
- Angel
- Firefly
- Dollhouse
- Farscape
- Battlestar Gallactica

Music:
- Linkin Park
- Evanescence
- Lady Gaga
- Eminem
- Nobuo Uematsu

Video Games:
- Legacy of Kain / Soul Reaver
- Tomb Raider (most of them)
- Monkey Island
- The Longest Journey, Dreamfall
- Metal Gear Solid
- Eternal Darkness
- Final Fantasy series
- Chrono Trigger and Chrono Cross
- Kingdom Hearts series
- Xenosaga
- Jak and Daxter series
- Fallout 2
- Prince of Persia series
- American McGee's Alice
- Indigo Prophecy

Favorite quotes:

"We fight as though the world were as it should be, to show it what it can be." ~ Angel, Angel Season 4, episode 1

“In the greater scheme, or the bigger picture, nothing we do matters. There’s no grand plan, no big win. If nothing we do matters, then all that matters is what we do. Because that’s all there is.” ~ Angel

"History is all romantic adventure stories. Until you live it. Until you live long enough to be part of it." ~Willow, Buffy The Vampire Slayer Season 8.

" 'Fate of the World' made sense... when there was only one. " ~ Melaka, Buffy Season 8

"Our goal-oriented culture tells us that happiness is rarely now, but just around the corner, and as a result, we focus our minds mostly on future events. It takes mental alertness to break this habit and to realize that the present moment is the only REAL moment - the only reality that you can actually feel, experience, and learn from." ~ The Art of Sexual Ecstasy

“Given the choice, whether to rule a corrupt and failing empire, or to challenge the fates for another throw – a better throw against one’s destiny – what was a king to do? But does one truly have a choice? One can only match move by move the machinations of fate and thus defy the tyrranous stars.” ~ Kain, Legacy of Kain - Defiance

"Now, at last, the masks had fallen away. The strings of the puppets had become visible, and the hands of the prime mover exposed. Most ironic of all was the last gift that Raziel had given me: More powerful than the sword that now held his soul, more acute even than the vision his sacrifice had accorded me. The first, bitter taste of that terrible illusion - Hope. " ~ Kain, Legacy of Kain - Defiance

"We see ethical sluthood leading us to a world where we respect and honor each individual's boundaries more than we honor any preconceived set of rules about how their boundaries ought to be." ~ The Ethical Slut

"Is there, we wonder, some virtue in being difficult?" ~ The Ethical Slut

"The memory's wiles are cruel. In its silence, we forget. And in its perversion, it binds our hearts firmly." ~ Vexen, Kingdom Hearts - Chains of Memories

"The world is full of choices. Unlimited possibilities. But sometimes the hardest choice to make is living with the one choice that was made for you" ~ Lucas Kane, Indigo Prophecy
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Emotions.
- Friends.
- Family.
- Passion.
- Sexuality.
- Creativity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- My emotions
- The gender war (Patriarchy and Feminism)
- My strange belief system (it involves atheists and Christians being right simultaneously)
- My stories (for video games and other stuff)
- Sexuality
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
- Passionate encounters with beautiful people
- Board game parties
- Intimate cuddles with loving people
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Once I start loving someone, I don't generally stop... ever.
You should message me if
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- you can send long meaningful relevant messages
- you can have intellectual or passionate conversations
- you love Joss Whedon's works
- you are into things that you think that others would find unusual
- you love sexuality and love everything positive to do with it.
- you are poly and want to meet other poly people
- you are kinky and want to meet other kinky people
- you want to make the world a better place