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Shaonleon

31 F Victoria, British Columbia, CA

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 20–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:38pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Asian, Other
Height
5′ 5″ (1.66m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Bengali (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Updated: 18 July 2012

I am a princess of the wondrous planet called Earth. This planet and time period is part of my story. I like to take care of it and make it interesting to the best of my abilities. I have several main characters in the story (close friends, family, lovers) and some interesting side characters too. They all have their own quest in this life and often they overlap with mine. All of it (place, time, characters and myself) put together makes up my world which grows more and more wonderful every moment. If you cannot resonate with anything I have said so far, do not be concerned. Not everyone is meant to be part of my story and not everyone is qualified to connect with a princess.

Just like all humans I express many faces of humanity through this body. I also represent many roles. I am a lover, a loved one, a student, a teacher, a scientist, an artist, a gamer, a guardian, a child, a fan, a role model, a victim, an oppressor, a counsellor, a complainer, and many more.

I believe we all have some “main quests” in the game of our life. All my roles somehow play a part in this quest and the side quests. These quests connect me with new people. These interactions bring out different qualities, likes and dislikes from within me.

My main quests are sexuality and creativity. More specifically, I love to connect with people, explore the nature of attraction, resonate with people's spirits and reach my full potential through the art of sexuality and human connection. I also love to create stories through video games, novels and other art forms.

One of the things that have consistently come out is the fact that I have the capacity to love more than one person at a time. I found out later in life that it is known as polyamory. I also enjoy exploring creative ways to connect with people physically, mentally and spiritually. Some of these ways are collectively called kink or sexuality. Some of the other ways have many other names.

I do not go looking for a specific kind of relationship. I prefer to have whatever relationship I can naturally have with a person. It is like planting a seed and watching it grow. I can try to force the plant to grow in a certain direction or try to engineer the kind of fruit it will have, but I prefer not to do all that. The natural growth of the relationship is much more beautiful even through the cost of time and patience.

I think it is perfectly fine for a relationship to start out with one label and evolve or change into a relationship of another label. As such, I have had lovers become friends and friends become lovers. Friendship is a good foundation to start with. If you cannot be a friend, then you cannot hope to have anything else with me. On top of the friendship, I am also fine with relationships that do not have a label.

To me, a social label is a reference point in the mind space, like a landmark in a city. I can use it to say “Let's meet at the coffee shop” but the coffee shop does not define me even if I hang out there often.

A relationship takes time and effort to form. A relationship is like creating a third person made up of qualities of the two people involved. It is like nurturing that third person and letting them grow over time. This is why break ups hurt so much since it is like the death of the third person. Therefore, being ready for a relationship is like being ready to have a baby or a pet. It requires responsibility on some level. I have many existing loving relationships. Any new relationship that anyone wants to form with me will require patience, authenticity, respect and trust at the very least.

What I am looking for are new characters to interact with. I am leaning towards a dark knight because I have never met one before. (White knights need not apply. I would corrupt you anyway and then send you away.)

I would also welcome a sugar daddy/mama for a mutually beneficial arrangement if they happen to be the right person. The benefits can be negotiated and do not need to be "conventional" benefits.

I am currently in an open relationship with a wonderful woman and several of my close friends have strong loving relationships with me that may or may not be sexual (sex is optional because we have grown so close that sex is not necessary anymore). Some of them are also on here: my close friend who I have known for over seven years (Teagansmiley), my soul-sister who is another beautiful princess (GazelaRose) and my awesome friend who I have known for over 4 years (Ryphna).

P O I N T S - O F - I N T E R E S T

Emotions: I love emotions. I love hearing about them. I love reading about them. Some people have even called me an emotion-vampire because I seem to feed on them. No matter how “weird” someone thinks their emotions are, I tend to find them interesting. In fact the weirder, the better it is; like trying out a rare delicacy. I like emotional group conversations too. Its like a delicious buffet.

Sexuality: I am a guardian of sexuality. I came to this planet to heal and protect sexuality. I spend a lot of my time trying to take care of it. Sexuality is a misunderstood child that has been unjustly blamed for many crimes of humanity. I try my best to show the world the soft innocence that is at the core of sexuality. It is a difficult process because a lot of humans are scared of it and some humans are outright stupid. (Let me also point out here, that sexuality and sex are not the same thing. Sex is a subset of sexuality, but sexuality itself is much bigger than sex.)

One thing to note about sexuality is that I enjoy it in many forms on the personal level. I do not even have to have sex to be satisfied. I am often quite happy to assist other people in having sex. I have found that I LOVE orchestrating improvised orgies, using my knowledge of what each person likes and my intuition on how attraction is flowing between them. In spite of what mainstream society thinks, it is possible to have sex from the friend zone. I have done it many times and those friends have become even better friends than before. I don't understand where the mainstream idea came from. I mean a close friend is someone who I know a LOT about on an intimate level, so how can anyone else please them better than I can?

Gender: I am transgender and transsexual. Therefore I have faced many gender related incidents and oppression in my life (from both sexists and fake feminists). In a standard girls vs boys fight, I was never on either side. I felt like I was the battlefield itself. People hurt each other and hurt me in the process because I saw no way to pick a side when I am able to see and empathize with both sides. Needless to say, I have strong feelings regarding gender. I may be seen as feminist by many people but I do not need a label for it. I love humanity in spite of all its flaws and I am a supporter of the positive growth of humanity. Gender fairness just happens to be a necessity in that process.

Harmony: Some people call this spirituality. Some people call it resonance. And yet some others call it art. A few also know it as science. I call it harmony because that's what it feels like to me. I am referring to the beauty of the way the world works. There is some sort of balance in everything around me: music, rhythm, dance, sex, motivation, revolutions and many more. I would have to list everything in the world to cover it all. This is something I like feeling and observing and living.

Kink: This did not need to be separated from sexuality, but I wanted to focus on it separately to highlight the specific way I approach it. I find it a little bit hard to explain the type of kink role I fit naturally in using the conventional terms. So I will use an analogy instead. I can easily fit into the role of a princess, (since I am one):
- I am dominant towards servants, guards, soldiers/knights (who are on my side).
- I am mostly submissive (with occasional brattiness) towards a guardian, a king/queen and a teacher/mentor.
- I would try to be dominant but ultimately may have to submit to evil warlords, wizards/witches, knights, pirates, bandits etc.
- I may be dominant or submissive towards mysterious travelers, rogue/anarchist, other princes/princesses, all depending on the circumstances.

There are many other roles that can exist outside the ones I listed. For example, I have experienced interactions with a dragon. Those are some intense, loveable and unforgettable experiences.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
- Living in the moment
- Loving passionately
- Connecting with my true self
- Playing DnD
- Chakra Belly dance
- Family reconnection
- Inspiring people
- Being inspired
- Surfing the sexuality spectrum
- Making video games
- Exploring my spirit and subconscious
- Finding a place to learn pole dancing

I have always been a creative person. In recent years, that ability had been facing some challenges in its expression. I intend to find ways to ignite the flames of passion and channel my creative energy into the creation of video games, novels, graphic novels and other art forms. I dream of having my own team of artists to help me create all the stories that swim around in my head constantly.

As a side quest, I want to travel the world and learn about the many riches that it has to offer that could help my main dreams blossom.
My ideal job is a combination of:
- Video game designer
- Companion (Inara's job from "Firefly". If you have not seen it you need to be at least willing to see it if you want to connect with me)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Extracting wisdom out of anything (commercials, junk, children rhymes, random events, bs and even academic courses). :)

These are the things I have been excelled in at most points in my life. I might be out of practice with some of them:
- Listening: Some people have been surprised by how much of their "whining" I'm willing to listen to. To me, they sound more like interesting emotional information rather than whining.
- Helping people feel comfortable to talk openly.
- Drawing
- Gaming
- Programming
- Orchestrating orgies
- Unlocking fetishes within people
- Math. I'm good at math but I can't stand numbers. Its something like keeping your enemies closer that allows me to be good at it. If I'm not good at it, it might dare to attack me anytime. I do like math that doesn't involve too many pure numbers. I enjoy patterns and interactions of abstract concepts.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Is it even legal to be that sexy?

But seriously, most likely eyes, hair, smile, dimples.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books:

- The Power of Now
- A New Earth
- The Ethical Slut
- The Art of Sexual Ecstasy
- Harry Potter
- Watchmen
- Buffy and Angel comics

Movies:
- Avengers
- Better Than Chocolate
- Secretary
- The Dark Knight
- Batman Begins
- V for Vendetta
- Watchmen
- As Good As It Gets
- Serenity
- Fight Club
- Pan's Labyrinth
- Hairspray
- Mamma Mia
- Miyazaki movies
- Disney animated movies

Animes:
- Princess Tutu
- Fruits Basket
- Azumanga Daioh
- Ouran High School Host Club
- Honey and Clover
- The Vision of Escaflowne
- Witch Hunter Robin

TV Shows:
- Buffy
- Angel
- Firefly
- Dollhouse
- Farscape
- Battlestar Gallactica

Music:
- Linkin Park
- Evanescence
- Lady Gaga
- Eminem
- Nobuo Uematsu

Video Games:
- Legacy of Kain / Soul Reaver
- Tomb Raider (most of them)
- Monkey Island
- The Longest Journey, Dreamfall
- Metal Gear Solid
- Eternal Darkness
- Final Fantasy series
- Chrono Trigger and Chrono Cross
- Kingdom Hearts series
- Xenosaga
- Jak and Daxter series
- Fallout 2
- Prince of Persia series
- American McGee's Alice
- Indigo Prophecy

Favorite quotes:

"We fight as though the world were as it should be, to show it what it can be." ~ Angel, Angel Season 4, episode 1

“In the greater scheme, or the bigger picture, nothing we do matters. There’s no grand plan, no big win. If nothing we do matters, then all that matters is what we do. Because that’s all there is.” ~ Angel

"History is all romantic adventure stories. Until you live it. Until you live long enough to be part of it." ~Willow, Buffy The Vampire Slayer Season 8.

" 'Fate of the World' made sense... when there was only one. " ~ Melaka, Buffy Season 8

"Our goal-oriented culture tells us that happiness is rarely now, but just around the corner, and as a result, we focus our minds mostly on future events. It takes mental alertness to break this habit and to realize that the present moment is the only REAL moment - the only reality that you can actually feel, experience, and learn from." ~ The Art of Sexual Ecstasy

“Given the choice, whether to rule a corrupt and failing empire, or to challenge the fates for another throw – a better throw against one’s destiny – what was a king to do? But does one truly have a choice? One can only match move by move the machinations of fate and thus defy the tyrranous stars.” ~ Kain, Legacy of Kain - Defiance

"Now, at last, the masks had fallen away. The strings of the puppets had become visible, and the hands of the prime mover exposed. Most ironic of all was the last gift that Raziel had given me: More powerful than the sword that now held his soul, more acute even than the vision his sacrifice had accorded me. The first, bitter taste of that terrible illusion - Hope. " ~ Kain, Legacy of Kain - Defiance

"We see ethical sluthood leading us to a world where we respect and honor each individual's boundaries more than we honor any preconceived set of rules about how their boundaries ought to be." ~ The Ethical Slut

"Is there, we wonder, some virtue in being difficult?" ~ The Ethical Slut

"The memory's wiles are cruel. In its silence, we forget. And in its perversion, it binds our hearts firmly." ~ Vexen, Kingdom Hearts - Chains of Memories

"The world is full of choices. Unlimited possibilities. But sometimes the hardest choice to make is living with the one choice that was made for you" ~ Lucas Kane, Indigo Prophecy
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Emotions.
- Friends.
- Family.
- Passion.
- Sexuality.
- Creativity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- My emotions
- My strange belief system (it involves atheists and Christians being right simultaneously)
- My stories (for video games and other stuff)
- Sexuality (obviously)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Getting annoyed for triple booking myself for three very interesting events and dragging myself to one of them.

OR just choosing to relax at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Once I start loving someone, I don't generally stop... ever.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- you like to communicate and have conversations
- you love emotions and psychology
- you love Joss Whedon's works
- you are into things that you think that others would find unusual
- you love sexuality and love everything positive to do with it.
- you are poly and want to meet other poly people
- you are kinky and want to meet other kinky people