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39 M Cherokee, OK

My Details

Last Online
Jul 16
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
A little extra
Strictly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Korean (Okay), Russian (Okay), Arabic (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I am an honest, loyal man seeking the same in a woman.

My job takes up a lot of my time and my personality does not afford a lot of socializing opportunities in this area. I am not some crazy hermit but when you are not religious...then no socializing at the church on Sunday. Alva is also in the middle of an oil patch that is booming and even though I have worked in the oilfields for years, I do not like the whole "oilfield trash" lifestyle. Nowhere is this in more effect than in the bars so I do not hang out in them. OKCupid is my attempt to streamline the process at meeting new people.

I would like to meet someone that will turn out to be a soulmate. If you have similar interests and would like to make a new friend only...I am fine with that. I value honesty above all other virtues. Someone may be witty, well-traveled, adventurous, and smart but it means nothing if they can not keep their word. This is true for romance or friendship.

People know me as a quiet, reserved person until I have achieved a level of comfort being around someone then I open up. I enjoy being around new people and make friends easily but still can count on one hand the people I would call close, lifelong friends. On any given weekend I am either doing chores around the house, reading, Netflix, gaming, or out riding my motorcycle. I love riding motorcycles as it clears the mind and puts you into an almost meditative state. I also like working on my bike or truck because nothing can ever go too fast and I love to tinker.

I love to cook and am pretty good at it, love animals, and to travel. I've grown used to cooking for myself and love all kinds of food. Cajun and Korean are my favorites but I've traveled internationally and love all food and am adventurous in eating. Travel - I love the planned out, going on a trip planned out months in advance kind and also the hopping on my bike and riding until the tank is empty kind.
What I’m doing with my life
Well, we know where we're goin'
But we don't know where we've been
And we know what we're knowin'
But we can't say what we've seen

And we're not little children
And we know what we want
And the future is certain
Give us time to work it out.
I’m really good at
Mechanical things. I like to tinker with things, do all my own automotive maintenance, and try to repair things even though it is not in my job description. While I am not an engineer I do these things to try and figure out how things are built and whether I could imagine a better design.

Foreign languages. I speak Spanish fluently and used to speak Korean fluently but am losing it due to lack of practice. I minored in Russian in college and am competent with it. My Arabic is slowly receding but I can still read and write it. French...familiarity with it. I have my degree in English Literature and love studying it and its history. I have been told by native English speakers that my ability is passable.

Reading. No seriously! If I'm interested in a book I can, depending on length, read it all the way through. 400-500 pages a day depending on overall length and my interest. I read World War Z in one night. If that impresses you, or doesn't, then how about the Ghosts of Cannae (heavy, military, non-fiction) and Dune (the greatest sci-fi novel ever written)...I read them both in one long weekend.

Cooking. I also am peeved when people think that barbecuing and grilling are the same. They are different cooking processes (like frying is not the same as baking). But, I can cook very well. Maybe not haute cuisine, but the aforementioned Cajun fare, chili, wild game recipes, and simple things.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height, not freakishly tall but taller than most and my deep Texas twang. I guess it is the accent that makes people think at first I am some inbred redneck but after they discover how intelligent and educated I am my accent becomes even more surprising. Koreans and Mexicans are also impressed when I speak their languages without accent. When I was stationed in Korea, one person that I talked to on the phone a few times could not believe I had been the other person on the line because they thought I was Korean until we met in person. They also notice the sharp contrast of this tall, big, reddish-blonde American speaking their language.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite food is Korean food.

My favorite movie is "It's a Wonderful Life" or "Ikiru". "Seven Samurai" is up there. I also love the Aliens trilogy (Alien Resurrection sucked). One of my favortite movies in recent times is "Drive"; yes, the one with Ryan Gosling. It is actually a superhero film in disguise and he plays it brilliantly.

I do not watch much TV but I like BBC stuff like "Extras", "Sherlock Holmes", and "Being Human". I also enjoy the "Daily Show" and Colbert. Through Netflix I have become hooked on "House of Cards", got to catch up on "Breaking Bad", "Hell on Wheels", and other series.

My favorite book is "The Story of St. Michele" by Axel Munthe or "Baudolino" by Umberto Eco. I also love the classic staples of English literature: Shakespeare, Poe, Dickens, Chaucer, Kipling, etc.

Music, all over the place. Here follows a brief synopsis in no particular order:

Beethoven (most all classical to be honest)

The Smiths (and Morrissey)

Nine Inch Nails

Dirty Sanchez (the one with Jackie Beat)

New Order (I cry when I hear Love Vigilantes)

Crud (from Detroit)



Arcade Fire

LCD Soundsystem


Danzig (along with The Misfits and Samhain)


Front 242

Siouxsie & the Banshees



The King, of course

All three Hanks

Willie, Johnny, and the rest



The Clash

St. Vincent

Soundgarden, Nirvana, early Pearl Jam

U2 before Pop!, when they did not suck

I listen to all kinds of music and am one of those who needs it going in the background.

I also love the sound of my turbo spooling up on my truck as it's pulling or climbing a hill. The radio gets turned down for that one.
The six things I could never do without
My old Army buddies. Time and distance do not matter to us.

Beethoven's Symphony No. 9 in D Minor

My Aggie Ring

The loyalty and love of a pet



Unspoiled, uninhabited places

Good food (o-jing-o bokkum is the best, followed by my mom's German sausage stew)

A comfortable pair of boots

Math lessons
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Austrian Economics

The nature of things

How tragic it will be to die without hearing all the music, good or bad, ever made.

What is the average flight speed of a coconut laden swallow?

Better a cruel truth than a comfortable delusion.

Is there any intelligent life in the universe?
On a typical Friday night I am
For, looking up, aware I somehow grew,
Spite of the dusk, the plain had given place
All round to mountains—with such name to grace
Mere ugly heights and heaps now stolen in view.
How thus they had surpris’d me,—solve it, you!
How to get from them was no clearer case.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
is that I will not admit anything private.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
1. You do not mind someone who will sit quietly for long periods and allow you to as well.

2. Your profile pics, without context, would not have someone mistake you as a street-walker.

3. You are honest.

4. You can stand to be around someone who cusses (curses) so much that it goes beyond rude, profane, and embarrassing to being comical and absurd.

5. You find that the differences between "there", "their", and "they're" are important. The same goes for "it's" and "its".

6. You do not have kids and will not miraculously produce any by the third date.

7. You cannot decide whether the world occupying the space between your ears is more important than that before your eyes.

8. You have a sense of adventure and know how to set up a tent.

9. You know what S.P.O.R.T.S means...or "tap, rack, bang" if your GT score was too low; and you get the joke

10. You are a gamer or don't mind me being one.

11. You are not totally cray-cray.