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44 M Saint Paul, MN

My Details

Last Online
Jul 22
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from space camp
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has a kid, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Based on other guys profiles and people I know, I realize I'm not like most dudes. I'm certainly not average. (Although I've read that no one thinks they're average.)

I never liked frat house party guys. I'm not really into most team sports. Football, basketball, baseball... I'll take free tickets or watch a game, but generally I don't care, and certainly don't know stats and players. Here's also what I'm not... Conservative, not quite a hipster, a geek, an athlete, brilliant, charismatic, a drinker (but I'll have a drink or two).

I like to read, but I don't consider myself particularly well read. I'm smart, but not a genius. I'm handy, but have my limits. I love to cook, but don't like cleaning up.

I work downtown MPLS. I play and make music sometimes. I've been an entrepreneur and I'm creative. Contrarily, I can be a semi-professional procrastinator. =)

Sometimes I say some funny shit. I appreciate sarcasm, but stupid funny is sometimes still ... well, funny.

I value honesty... not into drama or games, I'm open and a pretty good communicator. I'm a fan of East Coast straight-up frankness.

I try to stay positive and my goal is to be happy, but I'm not always happy and not always in a good mood. Life can sometimes be trying and difficult. I really don't have any right to complain - I'm white, middle class, healthy and not living in a third world country.

I have officially self classified myself a Meyers-Briggs ISFP personality.

I'm easy going, happy at home reading, watching a movie or TV show -- or out soaking in the energy of a band. I like having a few close friends. I'm more a wallflower than a social butterfly and do better with an introduction, smaller groups or one-on-one.

After reading hundreds of profiles on here, I feel completely out done by all these super amazing athletic, creative, artistic, adventurous, volunteering, social butterfly, travelers, ambitiously climbing the corporate ladder women on here...

And grasping for that perfect partner... the white knight in the fairy tale fantasy... Handsome, affluent, smart, compassionate, empathetic, selfless, emotionally and financially stable and secure, driven, ambitious, creative, confident yet not narcissistic, well read, well travelled, baggage free, partner in crime... Yeah, good luck with all that.

People are not perfect. I'm not perfect you're not perfect. There is no perfect. Never have been, never will be... and that's ok.

To misquote something I heard from someone I don't remember... "The goal is to find someone you want to be with, that you find attractive, and that you can deal with their shit and they can deal with yours.

"You? Looks are important. A connection is important. In fact, everything's important! I want someone to go out with but can be just as happy chilaxing in. Someone who can get dirty (gardening -- what are you thinking?). I'm not looking for perfection...

I don't trust this whole "Match" - "Friend" - "Enemy" percentage thing on here. Enough IM already. I don't think OKC is a good replacement for physical interaction to see if there's an actual spark. Merely a facilitator.

If you made it this far and think you might be a good fit - apply below. If not... don't worry, there are still plenty of guys who sit around playing poker, drinking beer and watching the game... or out getting drunk while whooping it up to Drake.
What I’m doing with my life
I realize this might be making me sound like I'm no fun, but au contraire mon cheri...

I've done some pretty fun shit in my days... Played in bands. Owned a restaurant. Lived on a boat.

Chances are, I probably like a lot of the same things you do, have either done them, or would like to. I like racquetball, skiing, road trips, camping - getting outside to play and adventures ... climbing, bowling, skating, kayaking, shooting, archery, motorcycles, ATV's, fishing, scuba diving, motor boats, and sailing... (list not inclusive). Most I've done, others I want to... I'll try just about anything fun, but I'm not exactly Sporty Spice or Mr. Olympia...

I like to travel when I can. Visit friends and family in CO, NY, CA... I've also been to many states, Hawaii, Europe, Mexico amongst other places... I'd love to go back and there's plenty more I want to see.

I love the outdoors -- the beach and the mountains. Lakes, streams, sunsets...

I'm working on being a great dad. I'm trying to live healthier - for my body, head and heart - doing some yoga - (not to pick up girls and not because I really like yoga - In fact I'd rather not work out at all, but I need to do something.)

Trying to eat healthier. But I admit it's a battle... I am very fond of some pretty unhealthy food... I often get free lunch where I work and the winters here can make me want to stay in, build a fire (if I had a fireplace) to cuddle by and watch TV...

I lost my dog to my ex and daughter... Trying to figure out when and what kind of dog I should get next... oh, and I promised my daughter a cat one day, but hairballs suck.
I’m really good at
Music, video editing, home improvement projects, cooking, capturing spiders, kissing boo boos, napping.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Walking Dead, Breaking Bad, Californication, Shameless, Jon Stewart, Real Time, Duck Dynasty, Top Chefs, Chopped

As a musician, I've been into everything from Metallica to Yo Yo Ma. Right now I mainly listen to bands like Alt J, Local Natives, Spoon, Foo Fighters, Passion Pit, pretty much what they play on The Current...

I like all sorts of food... Thai, Steak, BBQ, Indian
The six things I could never do without
My daughter
The sun
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Are you kidding? My mind is in a constant whirlwind. Life? My life? The environment. My daughter. Work. Love. Why it's so difficult to get someone on here to actually go out. I think this OKcupid Quiver bot is starting to take wild stabs... perhaps it should be called OKmaybe.
On a typical Friday night I am
Half the time I love getting turned on to new places and discovering fun things to do. Live music, art, good movies and trying new restaurants always works. I don't like bars unless there's a good reason -- There better be good food, a band, or friends to shoot darts with. The other half of the time I'm doing fun stuff with my daughter.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Why don't we save that for if you actually decide to meet me.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're kind, compassionate, witty, intelligent, modest, wonderful, etc.... and after reading all of this, you still think you would like me and I might like you.

Or if you want to give me something valuable like a free trip to Italy, or a lake cabin, or something like that.