Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First things first... I am very happily married to
sweetlittleme052, who I met - and fell in love with - right here on
OkC. Although we're traditional in a lot of ways, we're also
non-monogamous and kinky as hell... which I explain at little more
But first, a little about me:
Lawyer by day, Fireman by night, parent, lover, friend. And Geek,
with a capital G. (I speak both Star Wars and Star Trek, and have
been known to possess a d20 or two in my life. I also dig
Renaissance Faires and the occasional sci-fi/anime/steampunk
Generally speaking, I'm well-read and well-traveled and entirely
way too curious and inquisitive for my own good. In addition, I
proudly serve my community as a volunteer fireman and EMT here in
Northern Virginia. However, the most important thing in my life -
by far - is parenting my daughter.
The things I enjoy include good food, good beer and red wine, and
great company, and I look forward to getting together with my
friends as often as I can. I also very much enjoy great
conversation, and it's not unusual for me to end up in a deep
philosophical discussion with complete strangers about any (or all)
of the Four Subjects We Don't Talk About in Polite Company:
politics, religion, sex and race. (Sometimes, I think I get invited
to parties and events precisely because these types of
conversations spring up regularly when I'm around...)
As I mentioned above, I am very happily married to
sweetlittleme052, who I met on OkC. While dating, we learned that
each of us is pretty kinky (I'm pretty dominant, but in a nice sort
of way, and she's on the submissive side of things, with primal
tendencies), and that she's got a pretty strong heteroflexible
streak. The end result is that we're probably best described as
"monogam-ish" or "swinger-lite," which is why we kept our profiles
Currently, we're looking for a girl (preferably a sub or a primal)
who wants to come play with us. If interested, please reach out
directly to sweetlittleme052.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Professionally, I'm a Virginia lawyer, and my practice primarily
involves export compliance, international trade, and commercial
In my fire department, I'm an Engine driver and an EMT. Because a
fire engine does so much (from fighting a house fire to delivering
a baby), I am passionate about engine company operations. That, and
I *love* driving a fire engine!
However, all of that pales beside the most important thing, by far,
that I do in my life: being a Dad. My little girl is at the center
of my universe - as she should be.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being there when I'm needed the most.
The first things people usually notice about me
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is that I have a lot to say! For me, conversation is how we get to
know each other. Besides, I'm curious. So there.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My favorites here are too numerous to list, so I have grouped them
Books: Mostly sci-fi/fantasy. (Who am I kidding? I've read through
the entirety of the Barnes & Noble sci-fi/fantasy section...)
R.I.P. Borders. You'll be sorely missed.
Movies: Again, sci-fi/fantasy, along with drama, action &
adventure; just about anything that isn't horror (I don't do scary
Music: Metal, rock, industrial, some R&B. But, a couple of
caveats: (1) WTOP and NPR occupy presets 1 and 2 on my car radio;
and (2) I am pop-culture illiterate. Most of my friends and family
have stopped asking me questions like "Have you heard..." or "Have
you seen.." because the answer is almost always no.
TV: NCIS, CSI, L&O: SVU, L&O: CI, History Channel,
Discovery Channel, and so on. However, I don't do reality
programming. I also enjoy theatre, but haven't been to see very
many shows at all.
Food: Italian. Steak. Red Wine. Good Beer. Yum!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Notwithstanding my daughter, my family and my friends, I would feel
sorely put out in the absence of most of the following:
1. Coffee - esp. Starbucks (can't function without it...)
2. My car.
3. My devices.
4. Teh interwebs.
6. The Constitution.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My daughter! :) Work-/client-/fire department-related issues.
Current events, especially all of the Inside-the-Beltway stuff (I'm
a Washingtonian and a lawyer, what else would I be doing?!). How to
get the Redskins to "Trade Dan Snyder!" The novel I'm currently
reading. Finding ways to get out and have fun!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
parenting! I have my daughter every Friday night (except for when
I'm on duty), as well as every other weekend. I'm fortunate,
because most Dads in my situation don't get to see their kids as
much as I do - and I am eternally grateful.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm ADD, and without my meds I'd be lost. Thank you, Lord, for the
gift of Adderall XR (tm).
You should message me if
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• A geeky girl, geek-leaning, and/or geek-friendly;
• Someone who has a thing for geeky guys, uniforms/firemen, and/or
men who read actual books - for fun, no less;
• Politically left-of-center (or willing to keep an open
• Looking for great and (somewhat) intelligent conversation;
• Willing to consider someone a few years older than your stated
age-range (bonus points if you agree with the statement that, "Age
is just a number," because I live this as truth);
• Looking for a guy who has a stable, professional career, gives
back to his community, and takes his job as a parent seriously (or,
in other words, has his shit together - for the most part, anyway);
• Are *serious* about wanting to pursue something long-term with a
guy who is seriously looking for something long-term.
*Definitely* contact me if you are non-vanilla, or lifestyle, or
are on FL or ALC, or would otherwise define yourself in an "alt"
community... you and I might just have more in common than you
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