“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true” ― Viktor Frankl
This is some of the best advice I know about love, relationships, and living. I have read the so-called 'dating advice' books written for both men (e.g., The Game) and for women (e.g., The Rules). In my opinion, while the methods may very well work, they are performances like magic tricks, and when the show is over you pull back the curtain and discover who the Wizard of Oz really is.
The core problem is that I don't believe those books teach us how to more courageous, more vulnerable, and more loving, which this planet desperately needs.
I want the veil to be lifted and discover the extraordinary person that you are, where the 'magic' is what emanates from the core of your being, and I want you to discover the same in me.
So much more interesting to me are books like Brene Brown's "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead," because they give us insight into how to lead authentic lives and grow into the magnificent beauty that is latent within us.
As Mariane Williamson wrote:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? ... And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR
I am attracted to women who have a great sense of humor, are gentle yet refined, classy yet sweet, spiritual yet grounded, and creative yet practical. These are qualities that match scores don't reveal and are hard to find all in one person, so I really treasure those who have the majority of these qualities and would love to meet you if you do.
People, especially women, have spontaneously told me that I am "compassionate, sensitive, intelligent, thoughtful, funny, genuine, insightful, caring, gentlemanly, classy, spiritual, honest, handsome, ambitious, a leader, deep, and one of a kind."
Since women are always right, I figure it must be true. ;)
That being said, I have my rough edges like all of us. I get absorbed in things and lose sense of time.
My life is devoted to the service of others, particularly in helping be a catalyst for their growth to their full potential. I work on this in my writing, my volunteering, and my work creating a product to enable Internet freedom.
I believe that the greatest gift we have, and ultimately the only thing we can fully control, is our consciousness and its ability to elevate us. Yet the world has clouded our vision, and so sometimes we need a trigger to help us remember who we truly are.
Marketing for a startup focused on Internet Freedom.
* Swarthmore College, Religious studies and Philosophy
* Hebrew University
* In the fall plan I to enter a MFA program in Creative Writing
I have a pet dragon. His name is Smaugsy. He's really nice once you warm up to him.