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30 M Edinburgh, United Kingdom

My Details

Last Online
Apr 29
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Polish (Fluently), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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However cheesy it sounds, I'm actually on a journey to myself. I keep discovering new aspects of myself, and allowing those already in me to get out. I'm much more free now than I used to be, and I feel like I'm traveling back in time – I'm definitely younger now than just a year ago. I learn to do things because I want to, not because I have to or because I should. And mainly, I learn to really want to do things I should be doing – it's not finding a Kantian freedom in duty, but there's something akin to it. It's good to deeply understand and agree with things you should be doing and do them because you want to.

Doing what I want to often causes people to think that I'm weird. I take it as a compliment, I think in the world of consumerism and standardisation 'normal' means 'boring'. But I'm not desperately trying to be different, I just do things which I think genuinely matter (e.g. being happy) and are truly good and fun (e.g. being in loving relationships), not what the society agrees matters (e.g. having a job, house, wife, kids and no cellulite). I like naked swimming in the sea, dancing to frantic drum beats, and I prefer to talk about what influence a zombie apocalypse would have on food industry rather than about recent TV shows or sport. Yes, I am a bit geeky as well, but not terribly. I'm into RPGs and like good s-f, but I'm not the lonely nerd type - I go out, like dancing, I play music a lot (mainly jazz, classical and acoustic rock), read, travel, love hillwalking... I'm not much of a macho man, I'm afraid - I find watching football extremely boring, I don't get aroused by fancy sport cars, and I'm definitely a feminist.

What definitely helps in being a better person is the amazing friends and partners I have. I have my tribe. I have circles of wonderful and often very cuddly friends. I am plyamorous and in wonderful, loving, open relationships with Abandaleis and charlierhiannin. I used to spend most of my life wanting or chasing after new partners, more variety, more connections, but now I might have just found a good equilibrium – I am at the same time satisfied with what I have, and welcome anything new and exciting that can happen.

Finding new people is somewhat complicated by one issue which I don't know how to successfully resolve, or whether I want to resolve it at all. I can be really over-cautious and lack confidence in getting from being friends to getting intimate with people. There are several reasons for that: I used to be rather shy and I still can be sometimes, I despise pushy men who just won't piss off and I'm panically afraid to become one, and I really prefer to give it a pass when I see a slightest chance of getting into drama. Effectively, I am sometimes likely to miss the most obvious signs that someone is interested in me, just because I instinctively interpret their actions to my disadvantage. As I say, I'm not sure if I want to resolve this issue, because I think it keeps me away from trouble. But if by any chance you're interested in me and I don't seem to respond, chances are that this isn't because I don't like you, but because I'm just not confident enough to think that you like me. Sometimes you just have to make it really obvious for me, please.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Practising happiness.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being reasonably decent at anything I put my mind to. Not great, but decent. So, playing music, coming up with good ideas, building furniture from scratch, writing interestingly, making jewelery, dancing, talking and listening to what people have to say, developing strategies, making friends among fun and interesting people, changing myself if I think I'm wrong... And critical thinking with sound argumentation - that's perhaps the one thing I'm really good at. Also, I'm told that I'm the guy who just gets things done. I like that.

Recently I made some of what I'm decent at into a small business. I craft kinky toys for sale. Check it out if you want:
The first things people usually notice about me
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I honestly don't know. People tend to remember me, so they definitely notice something, but I'm not sure what.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Ha, let others speak for me! That's so postmodern :D

Books - hard to find the favourite, I read to many... But let's say: Gargantua and Pantagruel (Rableis), The Unbearable Lightness of Being (Kundera), The Name of the Rose (Eco), and as of recently, Song of Ice and Fire (Martin).

Movies - Pi (Aronofsky), The Seventh Seal (Bergman), The Kingdom (von Trier), Coffee and Cigarettes (J. Jarmusch), Dr. Strangelove (Kubrick), Clerks,

Shows - Battlestar Galactica, Rome, Whose Line is it Anyway, Monty Python, True Detective, South Park, The Big Bang Theory (though not the more recent episodes)

Music - I love classical music (Stravinsky is the man!), then goes jazz (say, Mingus, Charlie Parker) and definitely rock (Pink Floyd, Nick Cave) and metal (LTE, Moonspell, Blind Guardian). Finally, some electronic (Aphex Twin, Infected Mushroom).

Food - I just like to try different things. Generally I like rather spicy food, so mexican and indian dishes are my thing. Favourites include: sushi, any meat in chocolate & chili sauce, and spinach curry. Also, milk chocolate, white chocolate, hazelnut chocolate, hot chocolate, chilli chocolate, and did I mention chocolate?

And how could they forget games and web stuff?!

PC Games - Planescape: Torment; all Monkey Islands; Civilisation IV; Europa Universalis III; Crusader Kings II, all Mass Effects; Deus Ex.

Board and RPG games - Red Dragon Inn; Munchkin; Fury of Dracula; Cyberpunk 2020; Call of Cthulhu; Vampire: the Masquerade.

Webcomics - xkcd, smbc, QC, Oglaf, Order of the Stick.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Chocolate,
- music,
- good sex,
- books,
- someone interesting to talk to, and someone to cuddle, or preferably many people who are both interesting to talk to and cuddly!
- O2, H2O and definitely C6H5-NH-C2H5.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether time exists. Whether Ned Stark could prevent the war if he stopped being such a thick deontological brick. How important is what an artist intends to how his artworks should be interpreted. Whether democracy as we have it is really the least problematic system. What are the cultural determinants for categorising objects under specific concepts.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no such thing as a typical Friday. Besides, I'm a grad student, I can't tell Friday from Tuesday or Sunday, doesn't matter at all ;)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I really like stopping random well-dressed people on the street just to tell them: 'wow, that's an amazing dress you have!' or 'man, this shirt looks good on you!'. And I'm irritated that the social norms don't really allow doing the same with regards to bodies - I wish I could just tell a random girl on the street 'excuse me, I just wanted to tell you that you have a hypnotising cleavage', and this wouldn't sound weird, insulting, or utterly out of place.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you're not afraid to be yourself. If you think you would feel good in a big cuddle pile. And if you think I'm nice ;)

And most importantly - I want my home to be a place where all lovely and interesting people can come, stay, gather, have fun together, chill out and just be themselves. I don't want to date everyone who reads my profile, but I am happy to open my door for you. You know the feeling when you pass someone on the street and feel intrigued but think it would be weird to stop them just to say: hi, you seem nice, want to hang out? Well, if you feel like that with me, don't be shy - just say it :)