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49 M Sacramento, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 38–53
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:42pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
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My self-summary
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What I’m doing with my life
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Well, this section just took a giant left turn. Turns out I CAN write a check and so my brother and I just bought a 1/2 acre just outside of downtown and are working on creating a small urban farm and teaching center. The website is

I have done many of the above pieces independently, built intentional communities, amazing gardens, taught woodworking for profit, and done well buying and renovating properties. So, while the goals are lofty, the foundation is build on solid ground not pie in the sky ideas..
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am seeking an amazing woman so if I am too modest she might dismiss me but if I am over the top, I risk the same.

These are qualities partners have appreciated and are ones I have worked hard to develop because I used to be a bit of an asshole.

I am emotionally open and very much in touch with myself and have the communication skills to express myself AND hear you. I only want a relationship where deep and profound openness is desired by both of us.

I am also rather funny in a wry sort of way, spontaneous and full of joy, I firmly believe that life is best lived at the edges, blasting along Hwy 1 or taking the time to just sit at a cafe reading a paper.

I am also a talented woodworker and enjoy creating with almost any material and would love to have a partner to collaborate with.

Oh, and mind blowing, sweep you off your feet kisses. I am the sort who while driving you to work, miss the offramp, then the next one and right before you freak out, tell you I called your boss, arranged for a three day weekend, your bag is in the trunk along with a huge picnic basket and reservations at the B&B you love.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My profound modesty? Of all these questions, I hate this one the most. I don’t have to strut and perform to be felt, its just there. In person, its probably my intellect or my eyes.

Unless I laugh first, my deep booming laugh tends to get them laughing too. Enjoying life's humor is kinda important!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I am a big Jane Austen fan, loved Firefly, and I can’t watch Henry the Vth without tearing up at the St Crispin’s Day speech. I haven't watched much theater, always makes me feel guilty that I haven't.. Last year I discovered the Film Noir festival at the beautiful Castro and look forward to it this year.

I grew up around books, my parents were both rare book dealers. I have enough books to fill a room and until I moved onto my boat, rarely left a bookstore without some special find under my arm.

Food, I am one of the few that isn't in love with Indian but love almost everything else. I make an amazing risotto and if I had to pick one food it would be Italian. It celebrates things that I value. Ingredients one knows because you have some connection either because you grew it yourself, its local from a your butcher or a baker you know, or it was chosen for some amazing quality you value.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sarcasm probably shouldn’t be one of them but oxygen seems
redundant. I am going to leave out the trite, like friends and
family. Humor, both light hearted and heartfelt. Bread, really
amazing bread with a perfect crust, oh and butter, fresh creamy butter.

Beauty, the sort that you see on Hwy 1 or simply a calla lilly in spring, perhaps more the ability to see it everywhere and appreciate it. Lust, not the panting and porn kind, but that “I still want to ravish you 20 years from now” kind or the “I want to ravish you as much now as when we met 20 years ago” kind. Books.

Yeah that’s five but oh wait…joy, the kind that you find just sitting at a café sipping coffee, or upon finding the cutest bookstore, or the feel of the sea almost washing over your rail as you sail into the wind.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Do I think too much? I am I taking this too seriously or not enough? Is the god damn coffee ready? World peace?

Seriously? I am thinking about how bread without butter sucks and how being single is exactly the same way. Both are wonderful but together they are just so much better. So I think about that and of course, I think a lot about how the heck do you enjoy being single more.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Wondering where the hell you are and why have you not messaged me. Since I haven't heard from you, checking the weather to see if the sailing is going to be good tomorrow. Now, if WE were out, different story. Not going to be dinner at Chez Panisse every night but somewhere either romantic or maybe a dive, then perhaps a trip to Citadel, or a midnight sail to Sausalito so we can watch the sun rise over the bay the next morning. Please note, included with all of the above at no additional cost is a healthy dose of intoxicating sex.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My words have girth? That I lead a double life as a spy? Seriously, what do they think people are going to put here? I have a raging case of hemorrhagic fever but makeup covers it? I mean come on!

I am actually an open book in a one on one conversation but this isn't the place for that.
You should message me if
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If you are the sort who's smile lights up a room, who your ex partners think of as "the one that got away", and who are the sort that men find intoxicating. I bring a lot to the table and I expect you to as well.

Edited to add...I hate to have to add this but if you believe in creationism, think cavemen and dinosaurs co-exited, we are NOT a match. New addition, if you are for the Kings or that terrible arena they are using as a wedge to destroy downtown, no, just NO.