I am a pretty decent guy, still friends with my better choices in ex partners, a great communicator, very open emotionally, and romantically. I am not a metrosexual despite loving to cook and garden. I have scars from motorcycle accidents and table saws but few from relationships.

I can walk into a room and own it but much prefer being with a few friends. There isnt much I don't enjoy doing, I can spend an hour in a fabric store but get me in a good book store like Green Apple or Powells in Portland and I am lost for hours.

I am happiest in the middle of a city or the rural countryside, not much interest in what lies between. I currently live on a sailboat just having sold my last house. I love huge Craftsman and Tudor homes but prefer to live with less. Bonus points if you know what a Tumbleweed home is.

Kicking around a few life goals, none that I am able to write the check for just yet. Sailing, going cruising around the world. Buying some land, raising goats and or sheep and making cheese. Probably mixed in is finding some semi-profitable way to do a bit of "making" wood and metal artsy stuff for sale, restoring boats, etc. Life is funny though, might end up running a pawn shop in Leningrad or if fate is especially cruel, life insurance in Modesto.

All of these require either upfront money or a bring your own work like writing. On my end, I am working on stashing money, currently I am cashing in on the solar market.

Reforging it!

Being on here and seeing how amazing and accomplished the women are here has forced me to do a lot of soul searching. It has also brought some amazing revelations!

Most of us work to afford overpriced houses or exorbitant apartments while we scrimp and save for travel. Free time and money is spent checking out the latest restaurants, which just seems so ass backward and rather passive.
I will admit it was a lifelong goal to live in San Francisco but I discovered between parking and parking tickets that it was just more trouble than it was worth. And where do we all want to live? Those cute neighborhoods like Noe Valley, Union Street, and even SOMA so for many of us its really being in a neighborhood I love.

I am going to start small but with the eventual goal of building my own "Noe Valley" in an actual valley. In other words, an intentional community but in a rural setting where land is affordable, nature all around, and fresh air is just the norm. I have created intentional communities before with a number of fringe social groups so this is just going to be on a grander scale.

Starting small, I am going to leverage my skill with real estate to buy a few small rural plots, build www.tumbleweed.com homes on them, use my gardening skills to make them into eco friendly "homestead" getaways with small vineyards, chickens and bees and flip them. Learn to do it all well, rinse and repeat...THEN

Leverage my assets, crowd-sourcing, and telecommuting, buy a large 80 acre parcel in Southern Oregon and build an intentional community for high tech and a few other types who will be debt free, no mortgage and free to travel or just enjoy a stunning rural setting that is also eco friendly, foodie friendly with an amazing blend of modernity and country.

I am seeking an amazing woman so if I am too modest she might dismiss me but if I am over the top, I risk the same.

These are qualities partners have appreciated and are ones I have worked hard to develop because I used to be a bit of an asshole.

I am emotionally open and very much in touch with my emotions and have the communication skills to express mine and hear yours. I only want a relationship where deep and profound openness is desired by both of us.

I am also rather funny in a wry sort of way, spontaneous and full of joy, I firmly believe that life is best lived at the edges, blasting along Hwy 1 or taking the time to just sit at a cafe reading a paper.

I am also a talented woodworker and enjoy creating with almost any material and would love to have a partner to collaborate with.

My profound modesty? Of all these questions, I hate this one the most. I don’t have to strut and perform to be felt, its just there. In person, its probably my intellect or my eyes.

Unless I laugh first, my deep booming laugh tends to get them laughing too. Enjoying life's humor is kinda important!

I am a big Jane Austen fan, loved Firefly, and I can’t watch Henry the Vth without tearing up at the St Crispin’s Day speech. I haven't watched much theater, always makes me feel guilty that I haven't.. Last year I discovered the Film Noir festival at the beautiful Castro and look forward to it this year.

I grew up around books, my parents were both rare book dealers. I have enough books to fill a room and until I moved onto my boat, rarely left a bookstore without some special find under my arm.

Food, I am one of the few that isn't in love with Indian but love almost everything else. I make an amazing risotto and if I had to pick one food it would be Italian. It celebrates things that I value. Ingredients one knows because you have some connection either because you grew it yourself, its local from a your butcher or a baker you know, or it was chosen for some amazing quality you value.

Sarcasm probably shouldn’t be one of them but oxygen seems
redundant. I am going to leave out the trite, like friends and
family. Humor, both light hearted and heartfelt. Bread, really
amazing bread with a perfect crust, oh and butter, fresh creamy butter. Beauty, the sort that you see on Hwy 1 or simply a calla lilly in spring, perhaps more the ability to see it everywhere and appreciate it. Lust, not the panting and porn kind, but that “I still want to ravish you 20 years from now” kind or the “I want to ravish you as much now as when we met 20 years ago” kind. Books. Yeah that’s five but oh
wait…joy, the kind that you find just sitting at a café sipping
coffee, or upon finding the cutest bookstore, or the feel of the
sea almost washing over your rail as you sail into the wind.

Do I think too much? I am I taking this too seriously or not enough? Is the god damn coffee ready? World peace?

Seriously? I am thinking about how bread without butter sucks and how being single is exactly the same way. Both are wonderful but together they are just so much better. So I think about that and of course, I think a lot about how the heck do you enjoy being single more.

Wondering where the hell you are and why have you not messaged me. Since I haven't heard from you, checking the weather to see if the sailing is going to be good tomorrow. Now, if WE were out, different story. Not going to be dinner at Chez Panisse every night but somewhere either romantic or maybe a dive, then perhaps a trip to Citadel, or a midnight sail to Sausalito so we can watch the sun rise over the bay the next morning. Please note, included with all of the above at no additional cost is a healthy dose of intoxicating sex.

I am not very private but this just seems gauche

Friends ~ seriously, new to living here and looking for people to just do stuff with, sailing, wine tasting, gardening, or wrestling alligators (very new), etc. So, if you enjoy colorful and engaging company and can offer the same, bring it on!

If its romance, well then. If you want someone who knows when to be Cary Grant and when to be a cave man. If you want a man who is emotionally in touch with himself but who’s knuckles can still drag the ground. Of course, you have to rock too and understand that while chemistry is everything, amazing relationships are created by two people working together.