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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24-60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 25
Open relationship
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
A little extra
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat), Russian (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Great sense of timing, lousy sense of direction, prehensile toes, TWO confetti guns, certified to experiment on human subjects.

Double jointed, Bass 1, ran a Tilt-A-Whirl, was given a tribal name by a Sioux medicine woman, sang Elvis Presley songs for Buddhist monks.

Probably not what you were looking for, but that doesn't mean you wouldn't like finding it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Making up for lost days, putting people back together, looking for the remaining parts of me which were scattered in churches, coffeeshops and festivals all over the world. Finding warm rich music, seeking the perfect knock-knock joke, and waiting for the carnival to pass through again so I can run away for real this time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Hearing confessions, making people laugh 'til they snort, discovering and nurturing deviance, improvising, organizing things (but it works best with other people's stuff,) grasping, sensing, knowing when to pull tight and when to let go, spelling, creating the mood, complementing the situation, embellishing, keeping promises, telling stories, fragmenting sentences.

(And throw away jokes.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hands, when I work.

My voice, when I speak.

My eyes, when I don't.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(A.)The works of Hunter Thompson, Ray Bradbury, Raymond Chandler, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Rudyard Kipling Dr. Suess, Anais Nin, Karen Finley, Bill Watterson,Nicole Blackman and Edward Gorey, for starters. And dictionaries. I can read a good dictionary for hours.

(B.) Big Fish, The Usual Suspects, Casablanca, The Commitments, Silence of the Lambs, The Crying Game, Clerks, Pi, Fight Club, Beautiful Girls, The Golden Voyage of Sinbad, Pirates of the Carribean, Raiders of the Lost Ark. (Not necessarily the best movies, but my favorite ones.)

(C.) Cowboy Junkies, October Project, Secret Garden, Tom Waits, Billie Holiday, John Lee Hooker, Julie London, Leonard Cohen, Sisters of Mercy, Public Enemy, Dead Can Dance, The Temptations,The Dresden Dolls, Acoustic Eidolon, Rasa, The Golden Palominos, general deep grooves and beautiful chords.

(D.) Thai and Indian food. I have since learned to like broccoli since my last update.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Visits to the Jersey shore,

Whispers and/or soft undercurrents of conversation,

Bookstores, particulary the small used bookstores. It is a weakness and a disease- if a safari hunter ever set a trap for me, he would bait it with a pile of old books.

Good stories.


Red meat. (Not nearly as much as I used to, but at least once a month.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
and you know what I miss most about that time?

it was the quality of blackness

it was soft somehow

in the absence of fear

you could take it into your mouth

and send it out through your teeth

my dear

-Jane Siberry
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm going to ignore this question completely and say that "abstemiously" and "facetiously" are the only two words in the English language that have all the vowels (including y) in order.

That, right there, should tell you far more about what I'm like.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes pretend to be deaf when I go out in public to see how long I can avoid talking to people.
You should message me if
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-You know who Diane Arbus is.

You are willing to waltz in movie theatres, or do things equally as silly.

You appreciated that "abstemiously" thing.

The idea of learning braille (so you can read in the dark) appeals to you, and you want a study partner.