Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


41 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently)

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"In the dating pool, it's not the sharks swimming below you need to be afraid of, it's the turds floating on top."

I am a skier, a baker, a reader, a Sunday-napper, a planner, an occasional runner/gym-rat, a hot yoga-er, a thinker, a gregarious laugher, a door-opener, a beach-lounger, a scruffy-facer, a teeth-flosser, a non-breeder, a reformed Catholic, a Nebraskan (Omaha), a Texan (DFW), a Washingtonian (Downtown Bellevue), a Californian (SF), and a space-cowboy.

I am fairly handy and have laid ceramic tile, changed the oil in my car, hung doors, performed some creative wiring for a home network, and field-replaced an iPod battery with a ballpoint pen and bits of a business card while staying at a Holiday Inn during a ski trip in a remote corner of Colorado.

I am also fairly fancy in that I own my own tuxedo, enjoy the symphony, can wander aimlessly (and with eyes full of wonder) at art museums, am more than willing to pay way too much for a steak (if it is worth it), and believe everyone over the age of 30 should own a good frying pan.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am currently a Titan of Nerd Herdery - leading a team of developers who are creating world-class data visualization tools - but I promise to only geek out on that until you tell me to stop.

My job is weird and difficult and frustrating and occasionally all-consuming...but crafting and executing the perfect plan makes me go all kinds of squishy inside.

Before I became firmly entrenched in the technology business 20 years ago - I managed a car wash, sold advertising, worked in the makeup department of a large metropolitan newspaper (heels not required), and parked cars at a 4-star hotel.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
• Making people laugh (if you knew me this would make you laugh)
• Folding fitted sheets
• Recently found out I was was pretty good at baking bread - working on elevating this to "really good"
• Planning, estimating, scheming, plan hatchery...I may have been a super-villain bent on world-domination in a former life...or an elementary school teacher...same difference.
• Befriending dogs
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Likely my horrible selection in footwear, but have heard good things about my eyes (my mother gave them to me...).

Also that I am tall, built like the prototypical Midwestern corn-fed-beef-fed boy, that I wear silly t-shirts, that I wait for cars/pedestrians before walking/driving into an intersection, that I am ridiculously polite to waitstaff, that I shave my head, that I talk to dogs like they are people, and that I open doors for everyone.

Brick Tamland Answer: People seem to like me because I am polite and I am rarely late. I like to eat ice cream and I really enjoy a nice pair of slacks.

Public Transit Answer: I refuse to get on a BART train that is packed to the gills if there is another train less than two mins behind. Why the hell doesn't everybody?

Parking Garage Answer: If there is a spot next to the elevator on the 9th floor why do people park 150 yards from the elevator on the second floor?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.

Early stuff by Stephen King and Michael Crichton; Soul of A New Machine by Tracy Kidder; Syrup, Company, Jennifer Government, and Lexicon by Max Barry; The Sandman series by Neil Gaiman; everything by Douglas Adams; most of the Ender books; all the Old Man's War series; John Irving; and the Takeshi Kovacs series by Richard K. Morgan.

Recently finished: Silver Screen Fiend and Zombie Spaceship Wasteland by Patton Oswalt; Yes Please by Amy Poehler; Foxcatcher by Mark Schultz; and The Forge of God and Anvil of Stars by by Greg Bear.

Currently working on: Where the Dead Pause, and the Japanese Say Goodbye by Marie Mutsuki Mockett.

NOTE: I will never, EVER, read anything by Neal Stephenson EVER again. Vitriolic rant available upon request.


The Matrix, Office Space, The Great Escape, The Sure Thing, Oceans 11 and Oceans 13 (let's all pretend Oceans 12 didn't happen), Thomas Crown Affair (the new one), The In-Laws (the old one), Serenity, The Empire Strikes Back, Super Troopers, Better Off Dead.


Seinfeld, How I Met Your Mother, The Americans, The Newsroom, Drunk History, Game of Thrones, Community, Parks and Recreation, Veep, Portlandia, Firefly, Suits, Archer, The League, Arrested Development, and have you seen Comedians In Cars Getting Coffee?


Led Zeppelin, Chemical Brothers, Saliva, Crystal Method, Junior Brown, Ray Charles, Stevie Wonder, Frank Sinatra, The Who, Thelonious Monk, Frank Popp Ensemble, Smashing Pumpkins, Otis Redding, Sam Cooke, Blink 182, White Stripes, John Williams.


Stove-top espresso, sushi, a well-made Old Fashioned, filet mignon and creamed spinach, lobster bisque, any kind of chowdah, sushi, sweet potato fries, seasoned fries, curly fries, seasoned curly fries, chili fries, steak-cut fries, cheese fries, disco fries, poutine, … what was I saying? … oh yeah, Caesar salad with anchovies, tiramisu, apple pie a la mode.

Oh - and if I had to subsist on beer, cheese, bacon, and bread (and coffee) for the rest of my life - I would die happy (and likely from a heart-attack).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
• A shelf full of books (and a couple of random piles)
• A kitchen full of ingredients
• My super-awesome skis (they're green!)
• Lagavulin 16
• Computers (no other marketable skill)
• Ear plugs
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ways to quit the day-to-day grind and acquire employment at a free-range dog ranch in Montana.

Alternate Answer: That my OKC personality assessment indicates that I am less Old Fashioned - which I find strange since my favorite cocktail is an Old Fashioned.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Maybe a nice a glass of Scotch in my big leather chair; some idle flipping through a cookbook noodling over an upcoming bread experiment; mayhap* staring blankly at that one spot on the wall; thinking about what you are doing.

*Love this word - thanks to Stephen King for bringing it to my attention.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I killed a DJ over a pound of French roast…that was back when you could do that kind of thing. (

Alternate Answer #1: I have two bachelor degrees. One in the fairly obvious Dark Nerdly Arts - the other in the way less profitable News-Editorial Journalism. technical resume adheres to the AP Stylebook and my emails are rife with Oxford commas.

Alternate Answer #2: When nobody is looking I use chopsticks to eat bread and butter pickle slices directly out of the jar.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to drink some whiskey and tell some lies...