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34 Bellingham, WA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:37pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
A little extra
Strictly anything
Trying to quit
Atheism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a music junkie, a dark beer lover, an analytic philosophically-minded person, a bohemian fool. I have a few great friends, and a great many acquaintances. I'm happiest engaging people in small groups, getting into deep conversations, and making obscure references few people understand.

I'm INFJ, for those in the know.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I spend about half of my waking moments inhaling.

I'm entering into a training program for my class A CDL. I hope to be doing long-haul soon. This means that I won't be home anywhere near as often as I'll be away.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Music trivia. Process optimization. Troubleshooting. Listening to people who need to be listened to, without passing judgement. Thinking outside the box. Getting into the box and rethinking. Breaking down boxes.

I can also spot a grammatical error a mile away, but I can't keep my autocorrect under control.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Most comment on my eyes. Others on my size -- I'm a husky build, heavier than I look but I carry it well. I'm working on making this a less-obvious trait. I'm either intensely quiet or embarassingly loud, depending on how well I know the people around me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorites over the last year:

- Cat's Cradle, Kurt Vonnegut
- Kafka on the Shore, Haruki Murakami
- The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Douglas Adams (but I read and love this every year)

- Frank
- Grand Budapest Hotel
- Frequently Asked Questions About Time Travel

- Leverage
- Chuck
- Bored to Death
- Pushing Daisies
- Reaper

- Typhoon - White Lighter
- Plants and Animals - The End of That
- Old 97's - Most Messed Up
- Deerhoof - Apple O'
- Bombadil - Tarpits and Canyon lands

Seriously, if you know and like any of these, we should hang, or at least talk about it. I dig trading music advice with strangers; it's how I've built the collection I have. will have up-to-date info regarding this matter.

- Pizza
- Bacon
- Chicken
- All of the above
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My guitar, though it's a simple home hobby.
My record player/collection.
Good conversation.
Dark beer (no IPA's!).
Evergreen trees.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ethics. In the general, philosophical sense. I'm intrigued by the debate between relative morality and universal morality, and by the layperson's ingrained moral sense, and thrilled by puzzles which seem to throw one or the other into focus.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spinning records and digging on Black Butte. I don't do the bars on Friday, too crowded -- Wednesday's my "out" night, and I'll usually be at the Up & Up.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a very, *very* mild case of cerebral palsy. It doesn't affect me much, and most people don't notice, but it's still a large part of who I am.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If the things that define you most are internal (beliefs, values, ideals) rather than external (tattoos, piercings, 420). I'm not against any of these external activities, but I'm looking to get to know something more than that you like to go out and party on Saturday night. It's lost its wow factor.

If you don't mind that I'm probably not in town at any given time. I'm looking for platonic friends first and seeing where it goes from there. Any relationship I get into will be a long distance relationship even if you live next door, so I'm in no rush.

If you're actually willing to meet in person. After numerous flakes and busted plans, I feel I should be clear: I'm excited about the prospect of meeting you as a person, and as much as I enjoy long random text/IM conversations through the wee hours of the morning, I'm looking for real world social connection. Coffee or dinner or drinks; the real you and the real me.

If you can hold your end of a conversation, or are at least willing to try. I like to feel as though there's another person on the other end, instead of just a chatbot blindly responding to my questions/statements without offering anything up on its own. Basically, pass the Turing test. You're human, so it shouldn't be difficult.