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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 12:34am
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Has kid(s)
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The most important thing to know about me is that I am a single parent, (widower), of a five year old son. So, if you can handle dealing with a guy who's entire schedule is dictated by his child and his work - then read on...

Past the above, my summary is that I:
- am an engineering project manager
- have lived and worked in four countries
- love meeting new people and making new friends
- and love physical training

I long ago accepted that the statement, "Life is what we get and make of it, but never what we were planning on", is the only certain statement about life.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm discovering it as I go.

Also, wondering how everyone else on OKC seems to have photo's that were taken by professionals while I've got crap taken by my son, with my phone, when I'm exhausted and making silly faces. Anyway, on with it.

Full disclosure background -

My late wife was first diagnosed with Cancer in July of 2006. After the first full round of treatment, (Surgery, Chemo, Radio, Hormonal Therapies), we thought things were in the clear until she was diagnosed with Stage 4 Metastatic Cancer in January of 2010. She died from it in November of the same year.

I lived here in Australia with her for 8 years, (she was Australian, I was born in the US), and though I developed some friends in that time they were mostly either 'work friends' or 'friends of my wife's' and that became less than 'fine', when she died. Since then, I have been building my social network and expanding my own group of friends wherever I have found them.

I mention these things only because of my son. I have grieved and moved on with my life, but my son's struggle with the, "Why don't I have a mommy?", and, "Why did mommy have to die?", questions are going to be part of him for many years. So anyone coming into my life needs to understand that my late wife WILL be part of the conversation of my house because my son needs that.

This doesn't mean I'm looking to replace her. I'm not. I'm also not going to be comparing anyone to her, (please see the, "not looking to replace her", mention above...). However, my situation seems to weird out some women. If you are one of those women, then neither I nor my son are right for you.

Current -

I have no intent of leaving Australia in the foreseeable future, and have really had to work to deal with what it means to be so separated from any sort of real support network.

That said, I fell like the hardest part is behind me. Now I'm just loving meeting new people, making new friends, loving my young son, and generally living my life as I find out what this world is going to throw at me and my son next.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Solving problems, making things, fixing things, laughing at myself, and laughing at the inherent ridiculousness of the world we live in.

More recently, I'm also told that I'm very good at making some very difficult exercises look very easy.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Honestly, I have no idea.

If you have any suggestions for this, let me know!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I absolutely love to read! Unfortunately, life has kept me a bit to busy for a lot of book reading recently but some of my all time favourites are: Carl Sagan's, “The Demon-Haunted World”; the complete, (and completely misnamed), “Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy Trilogy”; anything by Terry Pratchett; and everything that Sir Aurthur Conan Doyle wrote. Really, the more I think about this the more I realize there are just to many to list. I guess that I really just love anything that makes me laugh, think, or get lost in the story, and only really ask that it is at least passably well written. I am currently reading The Game of Thrones series, but I'm taking my time with it.

Favourite movies are: “The Princess Bride”, (the book is excellent also); “The Nightmare Before Christmas”; "Finding Nemo"; “The Incredibles”; “Once Upon a Time in China”, with Jet Lee; "The Time Traveler's Wife"; "Stranger Than Fiction"; and finally 14 Blades, (with Donnie Yen and Wei Zhao). There are some others, but those are the ones on the top of my list at the moment and honestly, I can't rave about the last 4 on that list enough.

I love most music and listen to whatever meets my mood. Currently I’m really into Gotye, Bertie Blackman, and The Black Keys; but my iPod also has: Dido, Pink, Nine Inch Nails, Scottish Bagpipes, the Phantom of the Opera, Les Misérables, and Johnny Cash on it, (amongst others), so really my musical taste is whatever suits me at any given time.

As for food – I love food! I’ll eat just about anything put in front of me but I’ve found over the last several years that when I’m in a pinch I always find myself craving either a good Vindaloo or desperate for a salad. I know, complete opposites from each other, but that’s me in a nutshell really. I love variety in most of my life and in some ways that expresses itself most strongly in my taste for food, music, books and movies.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Hope
2) Wonder
3) Love
4) Life
5) A fighting chance
6) Someone to share all these things with

Also, underneath them all, I need a challenge.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Impossible things.

I am constantly in awe of the fact that we all live in a time where human knowledge is growing faster than it ever has before. We are, literally, living in the world of the future - a time where technology constantly makes things possible that even a decade ago were so far into the 'impossible' that they were considered to have no place outside of science-fiction. Each new thing we learn paradoxically acts to both further our enlightenment about the workings of the universe and simultaneously deepen our awareness of our own ignorance.

In spite of all this, the social and political challenges of the day would be recognizable to any person lifted forward in time from our past. Humanity, as a species, is still just as: selfish, tribal, thoughtless, considerate, greedy, altruistic, loving, hateful, and contrary as we have ever been.

This, then, is what I think about. What it means for a species that is still rooted in the far past to be rapidly confronted with the realities of the future, and how clearly these conflicting realities play out in both everyday life and the politics of the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home with my son, recovering from the hectic rush of the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't really have much of anything to hide. Ask a question and I'll likely tell you the answer.
You should message me if
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You're looking for a friend, or just someone to talk/chat with.

I'm not actively looking for a 'significant' other, but I also haven't given up on finding one. I know, however, that successful relationships take time and that's something I don't have a lot of.

So, if I find that 'significant' person then I'll find a way to make the time, but I'm not going to lie and say I expect any such thing to be easy.