Finding that special someone is my long term hope, but I'm not in a hurry, nor am I looking for someone to complete me. I'm looking for a partner who is equally confident in their own wholeness, who "wants" a relationship, but doesn't "need" one. I enjoy getting to know people and approach the online dating adventure with optimism. At the very least, I hope to have some interesting conversations and hopefully, make some new friends.
I'm originally from the San Francisco bay area and moved to Colorado in '94 (something I've never regretted - love it here!). In addition to being a performing singer-songwriter, I'm also a writer, poet, and a bit of a "Jack (or Jill) of all trades." I have a lot of skills and interests, so I guess you'd say I'm naturally very curious and enjoy learning new things. My life experiences have brought me to a great sense of self-awareness and purpose and I enjoy being in the company of like-minded people who are open-minded, have learned a lot, and who are very aware that there's so much more to learn. Humor has gotten me through the tough times, so a good sense of humor is important as well.
I'm very laid back, don't sweat the small stuff, and try not to take myself too seriously. Content and character is much more important to me than the "cool factor." Compassion, intelligence, an open mind, tolerance, creativity, and a genuine passion for living one's purpose are traits I value in myself and others.
In general, I live life outside the box, question authority, marvel at this astoundingly beautiful and miraculous world we live in, and try to be mindful and grateful for every moment that I'm here.
What I’m doing with my life
There are so many ways I could answer this, but I think I'll just go with the least profound answer. I juggle a few jobs in addition to my music career, including hosting entertainment events, freelance writing projects, and executive assistant work. Some of it is work, but much of it constitutes my social life since this work involves hanging out with creative, interesting people. In my free time, which I don't have much of, I spend time with friends and try to spend some time outdoors enjoying nature each day.
I’m really good at
Singing; writing songs that touch people deeply (or so I've been
told); expressing myself in a way that people consider vulnerable
which gives people permission to be vulnerable, too; swearing like
a sailor; witty repartee (or smart-ass remarks); riding horses (I
used to be able to spear a 6-inch brass ring with a 12-foot lance
at a gallop and probably still could if I had the opportunity);
communicating with animals, talking to myself; writing and editing;
organizing the offices of completely unorganized small business
owners; multi-tasking; and procrastinating.
The first things people usually notice about me
I asked around (seriously, I can't answer this about myself) and I
was told my smile, my laugh, my sense of humor, and apparently, my
eyes tell people I'm approachable and friendly. (Who knew? Glad I
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: The Civil Wars, Live, Mozart, Richard Shindell, Antje Duvekot, Vienna Teng, Great Big Sea, Twin Shadow, Matchbox Twenty, Rob Thomas, Heather Nova, Rosanne Cash, Beethoven, Rossini, Kiri Te Kanawa, Frederica Von Stade, Sting, The Chieftains, Sinead O'Connor, Sarah McLachlan, Ellis Paul, Brandi Carlile, Holly Williams, Alain Boublil & Claude-Michel Schonberg, Andrew Lloyd Weber, Richard Thompson, The Indigo Girls, The Bodeans, and so many more...
Books: The Prophet, Les Miserables, Trinity, Diana Gabaldon's Outlander series, Interview with the Vampire, The Vampire Lestat, Mists of Avalon, The Celtic Spirit, A New Earth, The Four Agreements, Seat of the Soul, the Harry Potter series, just about anything by Stephen King, Frankenstein, and probably more that I haven't thought of.
Movies: Amadeus, Braveheart, Dead Again, Shakespeare In Love, The Sixth Sense, Phantom of the Paradise, Grosse Pointe Blank, The Matrix, Shawshank Redemption, Young Frankenstein, The Untouchables, Fandango, Dances With Wolves, the Harry Potter films, Henry V, Dangerous Liaisons, and sooo many more...
TV: Grey's Anatomy, Scandal, The Blacklist, Outlander, Madam Secretary, Survivor's Remorse, Game of Thrones, and Grimm. I tend to have the TV on while I work at the computer.
Radio: I love NPR, particularly Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me, This American Life, and RadioLab. I occasionally listen to Thom Hartmann's podcast.
Food: My friends are always giving me a bad time about my love of food. Total foodie, though not really adventurous. I love Indian, Mexican, Italian, Vietnamese, and good old-fashioned home cooking.
The six things I could never do without
Nature and animals
Good stories, whether in books or movies
Great food and tea
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I'm doing with my life and how I can make my actions lead to positive change in the world; the next song or project I'm working on; how to simplify my life; what I really need to be happy and feel like my life has had meaning... and food. Unfortunately, since I juggle multiple jobs, I spend way too much time thinking about my schedule and what I need to do next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Performing, working on a work or music project, hanging out with
friends, at a friend's show, or relaxing at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not at all private and will tell you just about anything
including some things that, once you get to know me a little, are
sure to surprise if not shock you, but we'll have to discuss those
You should message me if
You resonate with what I've written and we have common perspectives. If I sound like someone you'd like to know more about, please drop me a message.
PLEASE NOTE: Don't expect a response if all you have to say is "hi, how are you?," "what's up?," etc. If you're serious about getting to know one another, you'll introduce yourself. Tell me about yourself. Start an actual conversation. The ability to communicate is important to me. If you can't put a sentence together, we're not a good match. I should also add that Harleys, rabid sports fans, and multiple selfies (particularly those taken in bathrooms and cars) are a turn-off.