My grandfather died peacefully in his sleep - not screaming in terror like the passengers in his cab. Okay then. My dark humor thingy is firmly established.

Hi there. Thanks for taking the time to read my profile.

I’m hoping to find a kind woman with gentle eyes and a good heart.

"Someone told me there's a girl out there, with love in her eyes and flowers in her hair."

I'm searching for a kindred soul, who embraces her inner life and loves the promise/process of personal growth (profile could end here, just fine).

I’m monogamous and devoted to those I love. I’m not wired to be otherwise.

I have a prehensile tail (just seeing who is actually reading this blather).

I live very comfortably - able to enjoy the second half of my life - after almost 30 years in public service. I'm enjoying pursuing my artwork and some other cherished dreams.

Sunday's Alamitos Bay Farmers’ Market, Trader Joe’s, Whole Foods, and Sprouts are where you’ll find me shopping.

I drive a Prius, with a bike rack.

I love music, sunshine, moonlight, stars, the wind, trees, flora and fauna, - in a word: nature.

I’m a vegetarian. I love nutrient rich foods. I exercise and, did I mention, I absolutely love the outdoors?

I recycle, turn lights off, vote progressive, love anything from Aaron Sorkin, and believe that a small group of committed people can change the world for the better (thank you, Margaret Mead).

Not a fan of extremist religion, but I love wisdom in any form, from any teaching or faith or philosophy - when it bears good fruit. I love reading Thoreau, Emerson, Von Goethe, Nin, Siddhārtha Gautama, Nietzsche, and especially Jesus.

If you believe we’re at our best, as people, when we’re trying to live lives that are useful and joyful I’d enjoy getting to know you better.

Best of luck to you in your search.

p.s. Concerning the “sex” questions: I’ve answered some of them. But here's what I believe:

I believe that intimacy begins with how you say good morning or by how you leave the bathroom for your mate.

Confidence in sexual “skills” alone, is like basing a relationship upon your ability to cook or clean. Insecurity whispers that someone else may eventually do a better job. But genuine intimacy lasts, because it’s about a person and how that person - being who they are - makes you feel when you are with them. And nothing compares to that.

Whew! Okay. End of the pontification.

Trying to be useful and fruitful.

I'm pretty decent at art and public speaking. I'm dangerous when it comes to shooting spit wads, using a slingshot, and making mischief. I can sing a bit, play guitar, write some incredible songs *huge cough* and taught Stephen Hawking everything he knows about the universe. I'm also an outstanding (decent) cook. Humble too.

My eyes. My prehensile tail.

Books: "Playing for Keeps" by David Halberstam, "The Great Divorce" by C.S. Lewis, "The Assault on Reason" by Al Gore, "The Life of Christ in Stereo" by Johnston Cheyney, "Buddhism Plain and Simple" by Steve Hagen, "The Vedanta Way to Peace and Happiness," by Swami Adiswarananda.

Movies: "To Kill a Mockingbird", "A Man for All Seasons" (which features the most incredible screenplay ever by Robert Bolt. Talk about economy of words), "Imagine Me & You", "I Am Sam", "Robin Hood" (Errol Flynn version, of course), "Se7en", "Love Actually".

TV: "The West Wing", "Game of Thrones", "Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip", "Dexter", "The Newsroom" and "Real Time with Bill Maher".

Music: Seriously way too many to list. I love World Music, Rock, Classic Rock, Alternative Rock, East Indian Music, Folk, Jazz, R&B, Motown, Classical, some Pop, the tiniest fraction of hip hop, and even a little bit of C&W. Really just about everything except Techno, Disco and most contemporary Rap (old school Rap from Harlem - which I love - is another thing altogether).

Pizza, all veggies everywhere, brown rice, beans, legumes of all kinds.

My family, the ocean, clear heart/conscience, nature, music, art.

The 6 things I could never do without. And, large ideas about changing things for the better - not only for the hope and action it inspires for also for the humbling understanding of my own very small part in the process .

Either somewhere outdoors to enjoy the world before and after sunset - or indoors, later on, eating a light dinner and then watching Rachel Maddow and Real Time with Bill Maher.

When I was 19 I drew insulting caricatures of my bosses and coworkers on the walls of the bathroom at the sheet metal plant I was employed at (you kinda had to see the latrine to understand). When my foreman found out it was me he asked me to draw more of them daily - as part of my job.

You like what you read, you think I'm dashingly handsome, you don't mind me having a prehensile tail, and you love Rachel Maddow.