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40 • Los Angeles, CA • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 26–54
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 5:27pm
- White, Other
- 5′ 6″ (1.68m)
- Body type
- Mostly other
- Other, and laughing about it
- Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Art / Music / Writing
- Doesn’t have kids
- Likes cats
- English, French (Poorly)
is opposite than feeding your savagely hungry ego.
is approaching another spirit
that you love and honor so much
by asking to sit in her presence
because you want to bring her happiness.
Do not bring me scraps.
How would they last me through the winter?
Do not bring me your trash.
My mind is an emerald green flame that would burn your trash to the ground.
(Translation for the uninitiated: players and peter pans - go home to mama. Or if mama was a disaster, go back to kindergarten. If you wouldn't say it to your mother, your grandmother, and Hilary Rodham Clinton, then don't say it to me).
...... For the grown men:
I dance, design, create, curate, write, sculpt, costume, construct, travel, learn, move, grow, laugh, and love.
I would love to connect with a suitor that is a complementary merman for creative cahoots & lasting partnership and certainly amazing platonic friends to join the journey.
Ones who are caring for the Body Temple, living one's gifts, loving one's life. Filled with optimism & integrity...
Those who are Cool in the head and Warm in the heart. Ones who know that one in a million chances happen 9 times out of 10 when the heart is dedicated.
* Although I currently hang my hat in Lost Angeles and have for many moons, it doesn't own me. I'm open to the adventure. Nothing is tying me down.
I grew up on a farm in Pennsylvania with beautiful woods and places to roam and I would love to return to a simpler way of being. I enjoy so much of the left coast, I feel that I could be happy anywhere. Almost.
I live for European paced days, love to work & create in the world, yet savor delicious meals, relish a siesta, dance a Hasapiko. I love ripe salted tomatoes from my garden, power tool projects, night-time skinny dipping, my legs in black seamed stockings, silent walks on snowy nights...
Finding a way out of no way.
Hitting a straight lick with a crooked stick.
Singing in harmony.
Drawing up the plans.
Coming up with a better scheme.
Winning the costume contest.
Sinking the shot after never having played.
Dancing with pure abandon.
Shooting from the hip.
Calling it like I see it.
Cutting through the red tape.
Remembering the ancient traditions.
Finding the words that heal our contemporary confusion.
Speaking volumes without a word,
with just my hands and eyes.
Reveling in the curve of my Love's jawline and clavicle,
hands and scent.
Sleeping skin to skin,
coiled in deep dreaming.
Every part of her dances....
She has eyes like deer...
Curves like a mermaid...
She is dangerous in a pencil skirt...
(oh my goodness)!
Apertura y entrega total a la vida".
Recommended Reading: The New Feminine Brain, Inanna Queen of Heaven and Earth: Her Stories and Hymns from Sumer; The Way of the Superior Man; http://markmanson.net/a-new-masculinity , My Side of the Mountain; Women Who Run with the Wolves; Tagore, Rumi, Mirabai, Hafiz, Neruda, Nin, Brezsny, Jung, Campbell, the I Ching. I love to read up on psychology, science, cosmology, physics, metaphysics, archaeology, anthropology, and on and on...
Art: arte povera, street art, folk art, installation art, environmental art, public art, interactive art, temporary art, performance art, Indigenous art & architecture, artful gardens, eco art, elements of BRC, Wilmarth's glass orbs inspired by Mallarme, Banksy, Doris Salcedo, Marina Abramovic. Art pieces & mysteries (Maya Deren). Art that is a gift, not an imposition.
Cuisine: French everything! Carbonara, bolanese, gnocchi, souvlaki, perogi, bulgoki... Turkish kofte, Moroccan chicken with pickled lemon and olives, Cajun Crab boils, Tartare, platanos maduros. Basil, parmesan, olive oil, red wine, repeat. Anything made with pleasure and love. I hope you are a BRILLIANT cook and want to make me fat and happy!
Favorite outings, travels, moments:
Roaming Powell's Books or SF's Brides of March, the Philae Temple or the Temple of Juno, steaming in a Turkish hamam or hot springs in the forests of Oregon, hiking the woods of Washington, Half Dome, or across a Roman aqueduct in the south of France, running barefoot in summer thunderstorms, sled riding, or making snow angels.
Dancing at a Goran Bregovic concert, music festival, or Moroccan Palace, delighting in a Louise Bourgeois sculpture exhibition, at the de Young or Wim Wender's film Pina. Discussing TED talks, new theories and ancient wisdom. Playing hide & seek and ghost in the graveyard.
Celebration, liberation, expansion.
Succulent food that makes me moan.
Elegant line & movement in art, dance, design, & music.
Travel that reminds me of the kindness, intelligence, and beauty of the world,
Relationships that make me laugh and LAUGH!!!
The wilderness, forests, and rain.
Love, the Erotic Arts & soulful sensuality.
Disregarding the rules...
The invisible world (scent, data, sensations, spirit, synchronicity, pleasure, desire, joy, dreams, ideas not yet birthed), our inter-woveness with the natural world, solutions to seemingly difficult dilemmas, bio-mimicry, sacred economics, kindness in communication, but less time thinking, and more time living.
(On any night I may be creating, dreaming, soaking, shaking it, laughing, reading, writing, prowling the streets, roaming the hills, jumping bonfires, gazing at the cosmos, savoring it).
( I'm not interested in anything casual. For this to work you need to be hi-fidelity & low drama. If you have an addiction to the adrenaline and cortisol of drama or any other crazy addictions, that will not work for me. I can't watch bad Mexican soap operas, nor American ones).
You want to work together to create something brilliant and beautiful: a design, a concept, an art piece, a garden, a travel itinerary, an action plan!
You are completely creative, collaborative, conversational, hilarious and loving!
You are a pragmatic mystic.
You have your head in the clouds!
Feet on the ground!
(Translation: while you are delightfully creative, you have your act together physically, financially, emotionally, socially and soulfully, thereby well equipped to put your work and wonderful relationship into reality).
Your words are Golden.
(That means your profile is 100% true
and you keep your Word.
We know where you headed
by what game you playin....)
Your heart is Open.
Your heart is Happy & Light!
YOU are a Beauty and a Beast!
You look with the Eyes behind the eyes.
YOU don't want to kiss the mirror;
You want to kiss another.
You are not begging door to door for a cup of water.
You are standing with me, at the bank of the river.
You are a well traveled, well read, well mannered, and a HEALTHY, FIT, FUN AND FABULOUS citizen of the world, planning another adventure abroad, learning & growing, dancing & camping, playing & creating.
You are as quick as a whip,
but would never DARE to sting me with it. Wh-tchhhhhh!!!!
You want to take me to, Funky Town!
You've got soul, and everybody knows, that it's alright. Yeah. It's alright.
You have your camping bag, ruck sack, and travel gear ready to roll!
You are living life as an ecstatic pleasure, an infinitely pleasurable game, not a finite game.
You do not want a charade of a princess!
You want a Chariot, a Lightning Bolt,
a Robin Hood, a Creatrix, a feline, a falcon, a force 5, a fawn...
You want a Quantum Leaper and a Pioneer Heart.
You want Mardi Gras and Hallelujah.
You don't just "love" women: you - through your words and ACTIONS- respect, support, encourage, elevate, honor, adore, and inspire us.
You want to snuggle and love because you are a Lover....
(If you have not read my writing & question answers, not posted untouched head and body shots from this year and quite recent, nor done the simple math to ascertain your correct height, age, wage, work, and number of offspring (???), or cannot figure out which city you live in (stop the madness!), perhaps you are not smarter than a 5th grader and have been automatically disqualified! :D
And if you look like my brother, or old enough to be my father or grandfather (!?) - for god's sake! it's NOT going to work)!
If you're channeling the dedicated passion of Johnny Cash, inventive ingenuity of Mac Gyver, the ability to crack a coconut into a 2-way radio or a feast like the Professor, or the rugged good looks of either, come hither!
I'm looking for men and new friends who defy convention and who will continue to grow more wonderful, worldly, witty, and wise with me.
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