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38 Umeå, Sweden Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–35
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 17
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Swedish (Fluently), German (Okay), French (Okay), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Another year, another rewrite :-)

I still think I'm a pretty good person. Smart, sensitive, kind, funny if you share my sense of humor. Still single, mostly because of bad choices I think. I guess I can be sort of complicated at times and over think things, but most of the time I remember to just go with my gut feeling. I still don't know what I'm going to be when I grow up. In the the meantime though, I'm having a pretty good life with some amazing friends, my furry flatmates, and fun.

I'm a very honest person as you've probably already guessed, but I'm pretty good at seeing the good things in people so I don't think that would count against me. I'm very curious, I can entertain myself for hours with just an encyclopedia. I like learning new things, not necessarily in the kind of structured way that will give you good grades and a job, but I'm very good at trivial pursuit. I'm open minded to the point where my brain might fall out.

(Who am I then? I guess the short answer is that I'm an honest, intelligent, creative, and sort of unconventional guy. I'm nice. I have a brain but it doesn't seem to do me much good, I fare better when I manage to just follow my heart. I like people and I'm usually happy with most, though I have a streak of shyness. I love to hear people's stories, I'm always trying to figure out who they are and how they view the world. Actually I'm curious about most anything, I can't help trying to make sense of the world around me.

I guess most of the time the it doesn't make sense though, and I'm looking for someone that does.)
What I’m doing with my life
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Working part time as a taxi driver while writing my thesis in cognitive science. Actually, the job is mostly medical transport, and the thesis is more like linguistics coupled with epistemology :-)

I'm in a choir. I actually never listen to that type of music, but it's fun and challenging trying to get it right together with another 30 people.

I work out a couple of times a week. I stopped for a couple of years but I'm very happy to be getting back into shape now.

I used to do kundalini yoga and I've been meaning to come back to it, it made a big difference in my life and I miss it.

I also used to be involved with roller derby, but that didn't really work out. A few years back, I tried classes in acting, massage and Argentine tango, just for fun.

I'd like to spend more time learning languages, it's fun and comes easy to me.

Other than that, I like to cook and spend time with friends, preferably at the same time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Figuring out what motivates people. Massages. Cooking. Solving problems.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've asked around. Most of the answers were pretty standard; nice, open, social, warm, trustworthy and tounge-in-cheek. The funniest and most interesting was "unexpectedly intense". Apparently I come across as quite shy at first but then I explode in congeniality :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food: I like it spicy, I've cooked a lot of Indian food but righ now I'm curious about North African cuisine. I think it's morally right to be a vegetarian, but..well I'm not, I eat meat but I really hate how animals are treated. I should find some way to resolve that.

Movies: The latest really great movie I've seen is Broken (2012), one of my favourites ever actually. I also loved Heaven (2002). A Clockwork Orange is a favourite as well. I try to see films that will give me an unexpected experience. That doesn't mean I can't enjoy Die Hard or whatever, it just means that these are the films I remember because they affected me somehow.

I love to read when I take the time to do it, I'm really striving to give it more space in my life. I'll get back to you on this one.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-I guess it sounds kind of girly, but hugs - I love to be close, I need to be close..of course I survive without but it sucks.
-Honesty - what's the point of any relationship if you're not at least trying to show the other person who you really are?!
-Challenges, if nothing interesting happens in my life I just become apathetic.
-Growth - also sounds really inane but I truly think you can spend a lifetime getting to know yourself, not to speak of another person. It's fascinating and necessary, if you're not getting anywhere, what's the point?
-Hope..I almost said love, but I'm making do with hope :)
-Friends - there's actually a lot of love in my life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Funny words. What makes people tick. Stupid puns.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking a nice meal and watching a movie. I work long hours Fridays so I'm happy to stay in, but I'd love to find someone to stay in with. I'm honestly not much for clubbing, once in a while it can be fun but I prefer someplace where I can actually talk to people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I fantasise about being a writer.
You should message me if
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..if you're properly open-minded. If you're bogged down in how things "should" be, you create your own reality and are open for different perspectives and ways of doing things.

Also, we should have a pretty good match. It's a reflection of sharing basic values.

Other than that I'm pretty friendly and interested in getting to know new people. If it says I rarely answer, it's because I get a lot of messages from people who I have nothing in common with. I mean nothing, like 30% match - I don't know why.

If you think we'll understand each other, I'll be very happy to talk to you!