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31 • Milwaukee, WI • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 20–60
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends
- Last online
- Feb 28
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Atheism, and laughing about it
- Leo, and it’s fun to think about
- Working on university
- Rather not say
- Seeing Someone
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Sign Language (Okay)
I used to bend to the will of my partners. Fold, cave, however you want to say it, I used to put them first and myself always last and it lasted until il I was used up and they either moved on or I did because I was simply too burned out to continue.
I've learned a lot though, in the last few months, first and foremost that I'm stronger than I ever imagined. Second, I'm starting eliminate negative people from my life, those who take and drain my time, energy, and resources and who give nothing back in return. Third, I'm learning to put myself first and take care not to spread myself to thin. It's great that I want to save the world but I can't do much for anyone if I burn out.
Since September, I've begun a relationship with one of my closed and dearest friends. A girl who I've loved for years but could never pursue because life is complicated like that sometimes. She is the sweetest, nicest, most giving person I know. Since being with her, I am once again in touch with my creative side. Something I haven't given much thought to in many years. I've been getting into photography. She edits my photos and does a tremendous job at that. She is also teaching me to play the mandolin which I'm enjoying immensely.
I'm currently resuming my undergraduate degree. My intent is to obtain my BA in education to become a high school biology teacher and LGBT youth advocate.
Baking delicious pies- particularly pumpkin and other fruit pies
Roasting poultry- the ducks I cook for Thanksgiving are drool worthy
Executing artistic endeavors- I enjoy many artistic hobbies, from drawing and painting to sewing and embroidery, and I'm generally really good at most anything I try my hand at.
Small romantic gestures- I enjoy performing small romantic gestures. It's not at all uncommon for me to give someone I' care about a random bunch of fresh picked flowers, cutesie love notes, poetic verses, or small gifts for no reason.
Making up horrible puns.
Aside from that, people tend to notice that I'm intellectual. I have a ton of interests and hobbies, a corny sense of humor and I'm very lovable. I can come off as a bit pompous at first, but that tends to fade once you get to know me.
I'm odd in that I'm so opinionated I actually have favorite everything. Go ahead, think of a category, any catagory, and I bet I have a favorite thing in it. No, seriously, try it! :P
2. written word
5. physical activity
6. Being creative
Feeding homeless people.
Why the trip going somewhere always seems to take longer than the trip back, even if you follow the same route.
I find myself fascinated by individual histories. I like to visit cemeteries and think about the lives of the people there. What were their occupations, were they happy, did they die with regrets, are they remembered or thought of fondly? I especially find myself often wondering how people died, particularly if they were young. I guess this also explains my fondness for the "Spoonriver Anthology" by Edgar Lee Masters, one of the greatest poetic works in existence.
I think a lot about travel and places I'd like to see.
If I could imbue my younger self with the knowledge I possess today, how would I change things?
Wondering how my perception of the world differs from that of other people.
This is really just a fraction of my day to day thoughts. I honestly think about so many things, it would be impossible to document them all.
I'm also transgender.
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