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27 Northridge, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 25
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I message anyone I think is awesome.

Be aware before reading: I'm polyamorous so that should be considered when stalking me. I have some incredibly wonderful people in my life whom I love deeply; RaeLeeTheCat (who also has a gentleman friend of her own but is always open for meeting someone else interesting.) and Ledrial_Estera (who is on the lookout for a ladyfriend). We're an interesting bunch but not in the market for people to join us in bed.

A direct approach works best with me pretty much across the board. If something is on your mind, tell me. If you're curious about something, ask me. Just be straight with me and subtle as a T-Rex and we'll get along fine. I'm similarly direct; bullshit is exhausting and I just don't have the patience for it anymore.

If you want to know something ask me directly, I will answer you directly.

EDIT - For some reason OKC seems to be matching me up with people whose first priority in life is Jesus. Now, I don't hold people's religious beliefs (or lack thereof) against them but it should become readily apparent that I am a fit for someone whose first priority in life is Jesus in the same sense that propane is a fit for a match.

I'm looking for Bonnie Parker and you show me Maude Flanders. What the hell, OKC? What. The. Hell?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying samsara, avoiding nirvana.

I dunno, what the fuck is anyone doing with their lives anymore?

I'm a pretty solidly political person; if a radical leftist, feminist, privacy advocate, and solid anti-authoritarian isn't your ticket then you may want to catch another train.

My "afford rent job" is with a non-profit as a counselor for adults with special needs in Santa Monica teaching life-skills (if you're one of the residents and reading this, congrats, now go do your cleaning). I also do some freelance home and computer repair on the side.

The list of things I'm involved with has gotten so long and it changes regularly. I'm more than happy to talk about anything I'm doing at any given time.

- I built a bow out of PVC pipe and fiberglass rods. It's pretty bangin' and I'm teaching myself archery. Only skinned my arm once twice three times(fuck) thus far.

- Researching adverse possession claims and abandoned properties for a future squat. Need housing?

- Learning as much as I can about medicine and basic first-aid care. I also used to teach classes in street medicine for activists. Trying to learn and memorize lung sounds for use with a stethoscope right now.

- Putting together plans and researching to build my own house, currently the debate is shipping containers or steel frame construction. If you're involved with architecture or design I would love to pick your brain.

- Looking for a place to start growing things again. I kind of hate living in the concrete jungle sometimes. If you've got some open ground and like plants, let me know.

- Learning to code in Python. This is more monumental than it sounds. I did a basic addition calculation the other day and I had to resist the urge to run around yelling, "I made a thing! I made a thing!"

- Scrapping electronics for money. I love taking things apart. Now I can get paid for it. BTW if you have any old electronics you want to throw out, I'll happily take them off your hands for you.

- Running a one-man biomedical research project relating to nootropics and augmentation of memory.

- Writing a polyamory-centered romance screenplay. What? It's LA. Are you *really* that surprised?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being a Boxtroll.

That sounds like a joke but I generally try to reuse/repurpose almost everything.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm six feet and change with long, red hair. What do you think they notice?

I also tend to be an intense guy. I'm a very "wear your heart on your sleeve" kind of person in that I have a lot of intense emotions and I don't hide that pretty much ever. This is a little jarring to a lot of people and if you're one of those people, I'm not going to say don't contact me but unless you're willing to have that boundary pushed I'm probably not the best guy to meet up with. I don't really follow our social idea of masculinity by keeping everything bottled up until I explode in a fit of rage.

There are two key considerations with me. Take these into account carefully.

The first is this

This is a good reflection of how I look at the world.

The second is I tend to live by the idea that "no one has ever, when facing death, wished they'd spent more time at work and less time doing the things they wanted to do with the people they loved."

If these two ideas are acceptable and appealing, we will probably get along just fine.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite book? All of them. Except "Great Gatsby." If we hang, I'll probably give you a book, I actually maintain a free bookstore in my apartment. I've recently fallen in love with Orwell's "Homage to Catalonia." I love used bookstores; pawing through piles of unsorted old books with random titles in a dusty corner of a dimly lit shop sounds like am amazing time to me. Jack London's "The Iron Heel" is incredible if a little didactic.

Movies are mixed with me, I can never predict what I'll like and what I won't. I love a lot of the showy, over-the-top martial arts movies ('Iron Monkey," "Red Cliff," "Ip Man" etc) and wushu dramas are particular favorites though. Period Asian flicks are also a favorite. I'm down for most anything that's engaging and a lot of my favorites are probably a bit surprising.

My TV taste is a bit limited because I don't have cable and I don't want it, I don't even own a TV. That said, Netflix and shadowy corners of the internet have turned me onto a few things; Alphas, Walking Dead, Firefly, Terra Nova, Rome, Vikings, and Outcasts. The new Spartacus series, as cheesy bad as it looks, is actually fantastic once you get into it.

My musical taste is impossible to present with any degree of brevity. It ranges from hardstyle to Gothic choral to metal to punk to traditional Arabic to rock to alternative to instrumental to Bolliwood to Irish and on and on ad mortem. You probably wont like most of it and that's OK. I have a PLEX server set up and if you have a PLEX account (free) I'd be more than happy to give you guest access for a taste of what you're in for, musically.

A few sample tracks:
Track One The Casualties - Soldado
Track Two Rachid Taha - Ya Rayah
Track Three Ryan Harvey - I Won't Be Part Of It
Track Four Arabic Orthodox Hymn
Track Five Eisenfunk - Skudrinka
Track Six Crucified Barbra - The Crucifier
Track Seven Sister Sin - One Out Of Ten
Track Eight GBH - Timebomb
Track Nine Groupe Badar - Allah Wastajib
Track Ten Percival - Jomsborg
Track Eleven Garmarna - Gamen

Food is also a mix (SEE WHAT I DID THERE!?), I tend to cook for myself regularly and though I do have a fairly restricted diet due to health issues (I cannot eat dairy, nuts, beans, or soy) I still eat well. I rarely eat out (eating out with food allergies is balls) but I'm not against a good meal at a place I know wont attempt to poison me. Asian is great but I'm game for anything I can actually digest.

I'm almost exclusively a PC gamer (though I do love me some Kessen). I have a long list of favorites but for the sake of space I'd have to go with Arcanum, System Shock 2, Thief 1 and 2, Minecraft and Black & White. And no, I'm not a WoW player, sorry.

I recently built my own Minecraft server for use with friends, it's a pretty amazing place if I do say so myself. If you're a Minecraft player, let me know. Once we get to know each other, another person would be welcome.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ginger. I'd cut a fool for some ginger.

I'll give you one guess how many times I've heard the "a ginger who likes ginger" joke. Go on. Guess.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"I would like to be someone who can feel shame at no part of myself. I would like to be able to regard the actions of others without feeling threatened or becoming defensive, even if they are defensive with me - to see others in the context of their own lives rather than strictly my own. I would like to know how to set the right limits on how far to trust others so I never risk losing my respect for them or my ability to trust. I want to look into the eyes of all the adversaries that should be allies and say "Like it or not, this is who I am. This is what the world has made me and we all must live with the consequences of that world. I cannot change the decades of life behind me that have wrought this, I can only take responsibility for what I am and what I do. I don't want to compete with you for moral high ground or for anything else. You are going to have to accept me on my own terms as I hope to accept you. You are as responsible as I am for making what goes on between us positive for us both, or for the world of strife we will suffer otherwise."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If it's not already abundantly clear, I'm somewhat of an introvert.

I like going out, just not on a routine basis and generally not to eat; dining out with food allergies sucks donkey balls. I do also really enjoy the outdoors but generally as a more solitary activity.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My brain doesn't function quite the same way as most other brains as I have dyscalculia. (Mobile app users, Google that shit) This is kind of a big deal because its influenced quite a bit over the course of a lifetime.

It isn't something you notice hanging out with me until I get handed a math problem or have to read an analog clock.
You should message me if
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-If you are poly, poly-friendly, or just curious. I'm more than happy to talk about it and welcome any inquisitive individuals.

-If you're looking for a tabletop gaming buddy. I'm down for most games, doubly so if it's Shadowrun or Legend of the Five Rings. Matsu!

-You are Jeeja Vismitananda or Shoshannah Stern.

You should NOT message me if:
-You want someone to bar-hop or club with. If you want to go, more power to you, not my scene.

-You have no passions: if you hate everything, everyone, and everywhere, if looking at a basket of cross-eyed kittens does nothing to you, if nothing at all makes your heart pound and your breathing pick up.....don't message me. I have less than no desire to deal with a Daria and I cannot even begin to understand someone who has absolutely nothing in the world to be passionate about. The world is a fucking vast place, there is no reason other than spite to find ALL of it dis-interesting.

-You're half a world away. I'm sorry, I'm looking for someone local. I'm not interested in LDRs.

-You like Bobby Flay. Fuck Bobby Flay.

-You describe yourself as "not a homophobe" but you just "don't feel comfortable around those people." If I have to explain why this is a shitty attitude, this is a double "don't message me."

-The idea of white privilege or the concept of privilege at all seems ludicrous. Take a quick glance through "Unpacking the Invisible Backpack" by Peggy McIntosh and then we can talk.

You made it to the end, congrats. If you read the whole thing but still didn't find it to your liking, I still want to leave you with something for being awesome willing to read the whole thing. Enjoy! (Mobile app users, this link won't show up for you but take heart in the fact that you're a good person for being willing to read this far)

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