If I'm messaging you, don't automatically assume I'm looking for a date. I message anyone I think is an awesome person or whom I feel curious to interact with, no one is ever in a position where they can have too many awesome people in their lives. If you want to know my intentions, just ask. If your profile says "just looking for friends" and I'm messaging you, yes, I did read that and no, I'm not ignoring it.
This profile is long. Very long. Consequences of being a writer. TLDR: I'm a poly nerd that worships strange gods, spends his days enacting the downfall of your society, and would gladly set fire to a pile of money for the pure joy of doing it. I'm not the kind of guy your family will approve of. If you want a district manager with more degrees than a thermometer and a fat paycheck, you're out of luck. Fuck your race to the bottom. You have been warned.
Be aware before reading: I'm polyamorous (or ethically non-monogamous if you prefer) so that should be considered when talking with me. I have two very wonderful ladyfriends in my life currently whom I love and care for very much, they even have OKC! Ledrial_Estera RaeLeeTheCat. As wonderful as my relationships are, be aware I'm not on the lookout for a "third" to share with any of my current ladyfriends; if you start seeing me, you're seeing just me unless you specifically ask for that to be different. I to follow the "relationship anarchy" principal; I have no real use for labels and hierarchies in my personal relationships, there are no "primaries" and "secondaries." I do not expect that a partner be actively poly, but obviously some degree of understanding and acceptance that I am is very important.
A direct approach works best with me pretty much across the board. I appreciate honesty and directness regardless of the situation. Just be straight with me and subtle as a T-Rex and we'll get along fine. I'm similarly direct; bullshit is exhausting and I just don't have the patience for it anymore. I'm what you'd call a "problem dinner guest."
I'm also not online nearly as much as my profile seems to indicate; Chrome needs to get some Cookie Monster action going because mah OKC cookies are makin' me look a little obsessive.
I've also had several people ask about this, I'm an "INFJ." I had no idea the Myers-Briggs test was such important intel but for the surprising number of people who've asked, here it is.