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26 M Northridge, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:38pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Be aware before reading: I'm polyamorous so that should be considered when stalking me. I have two very wonderful partners in my life currently whom I love and care for very much, they even have OKC! Ledrial_Estera (who is on the look out for a lovely ladyfriend for herself, if you're interested) and RaeLeeTheCat (who is open to another gentleman caller but she's looking very local). Note, we're not looking for a threesome (or unicorn if you prefer); if we start seeing each other, you're seeing just me unless you specifically ask for that to be different and all involved are on-board.

A direct approach works best with me pretty much across the board. If something is on your mind, tell me. If you're curious about something, ask me. Just be straight with me and subtle as a T-Rex and we'll get along fine. I'm similarly direct; bullshit is exhausting and I just don't have the patience for it anymore.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I dunno, what the fuck is anyone doing with their lives anymore?

Taking notes...

A key consideration of my daily life is that I tend to live by the idea that "no one has ever, when facing death, wished they'd spent more time at work and less time doing the things they wanted to do with the people they loved." This idea is critical to understanding virtually everything about my life.

My "afford food and rent job" is with a non-profit as a counselor for adults with special needs in Santa Monica. We teach life-skills to adults with developmental disabilities (if you're one of the residents and reading this, congrats, you're SO busted!). I also do some freelance home and computer repair on the side.

The list of things I'm involved with has gotten so long we're going to handle this in list form:

- Teaching myself Linux. Yay #!

- Researching adverse possession claims and abandoned properties. Need housing?

- Teaching myself electronics and working with LED strips. I have a couple of arrays built so far.

- Learning how to suture.

- Learning Go. Always happy for a game partner.

- Putting together plans and researching to build my own house, currently the debate is shipping containers or steel frame construction. If you're involved with architecture or design I would love to pick your brain.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
How the hell should I know? I'm not an impartial judge of my own abilities. We as humans tend to suck at assessing our own skill level with a given task.

I cook, I read, I work with my hands, I work with computers, I'm a counselor, and I write.

Hang out with me and -you- tell me how good I am.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm six feet and change with long, red hair. What do you think they notice? It sure as shit isn't my shining personality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite book? All of them. Except "Great Gatsby." Fuck Nick Carraway and his whiny, rich friends. If we hang, I'll probably give you a book, I actually maintain a free bookstore in my apartment. I've recently fallen in love with Orwell's "Homage to Catalonia." I love used bookstores; pawing through piles of unsorted old books with random titles in a dusty corner of a dimly lit shop sounds like am amazing time to me. Jack London's "The Iron Heel" is incredible if a little didactic.

I've seen a lot of movies and I tend to go for the more esoteric and oddball movies. I'm also partial to modern martial arts movies. Historical (or historical fiction) movies are also a go-to for me. TONS of documentaries, I've at least browsed through every freely available documentary on the internet and that is no exaggeration.

My TV taste is a bit limited because I don't have cable and I don't want it. That said, Netflix and shadowy corners of the internet have turned me onto a few things; Alphas, Walking Dead, Firefly, Terra Nova, Rome, and Outcasts. The new Spartacus series, as cheesy bad as it looks, is actually fantastic once you get into it.

My musical taste is impossible to present with any degree of brevity. It ranges from hardstyle to Gothic choral to metal to punk to traditional Arabic to rock to alternative to instrumental to Bolliwood to Irish and on and on ad mortem. You probably wont like most of it and that's OK. I have a PLEX server set up and if you have a PLEX account (free) I'd be more than happy to give you guest access for a taste of what you're in for, musically.

A few sample tracks:
Track One The Casualties - Soldado
Track Two Rachid Taha - Ya Rayah
Track Three Ryan Harvey - I Won't Be Part Of It
Track Four Arabic Orthodox Hymn
Track Five Eisenfunk - Skudrinka
Track Six Crucified Barbra - The Crucifier
Track Seven Sister Sin - One Out Of Ten
Track Eight GBH - Timebomb
Track Nine Groupe Badar - Allah Wastajib
Track Ten Percival - Jomsborg

Food is also a mix (SEE WHAT I DID THERE!?), I tend to cook for myself regularly and though I do have a fairly restricted diet due to health issues (I cannot eat dairy, nuts, beans, or soy) I still eat well. I rarely eat out (eating out with food allergies is balls) but I'm not against a good meal at a place I know wont attempt to poison me. Asian is great but I'm game for anything I can actually digest.

(Because they didn't have that section but really needed it)
I'm a videogame person and I stick pretty much exclusively to the PC for my games. I have an extensive library of titles and it's hard to name favorites. Gun to my head though, I'd have to go with Arcanum, System Shock 2, Thief 1 and 2, and Black & White. And no, I'm not a WoW player, sorry.

I've recently gotten far too involved with Kerbal Space Program. I have never had so much fun failing in my entire life XD
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ginger. I'd cut a fool for some ginger.

I'll give you one guess how many times I've heard the "a ginger who likes ginger" joke. Go on. Guess.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"It's time to stop singing and start swinging!"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If it's not already abundantly clear, I'm somewhat of an introvert. I don't mind getting out but I don't handle heat well and I feel much more comfortable in a quiet place.

As far as Fridays, there is no "typical."

Talking, building, cooking, reading, watching, sleeping, playing, writing, cuddling, listening, figuring, loving, making, dreaming, fucking, digging, laughing, breaking, scrapping, eating...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a rather pronounced form of dyscalculia.

As long as stringent spatial visual ability tests aren't a condition of hanging out with you and there's at least one non-analog clock in the area, it's not usually a problem.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
-If you are poly, poly-friendly, or just curious. Being poly, I kinda need the people around me to at least be willing to accept that part of me even if they dislike or disagree with it. If you're curious about poly, I'm more than happy to talk about it and welcome any inquisitive individuals.

-If you're looking for a tabletop gaming buddy. I'm down for most games, doubly so if it's Shadowrun or Legend of the Five Rings. Matsu!

-You are Jeeja Vismitananda. Google her. She's adorable.

You should NOT message me if:
-You want someone to bar-hop or club with. If you want to go, more power to you, not my scene.

-You have no passions: if you hate everything, everyone, and everywhere, if looking at a basket of cross-eyed kittens does nothing to you, if nothing at all makes your heart pound and your breathing pick up.....don't message me. I have less than no desire to deal with a Daria and I cannot even begin to understand someone who has absolutely nothing in the world to be passionate about. The world is a fucking vast place, there is no reason other than spite to find ALL of it dis-interesting.

-You're half a world away. I'm sorry, I'm looking for someone local. I'm not interested in LDRs.

-You like Bobby Flay. Fuck. Bobby. Flay.

You made it to the end, congrats. If you read the whole thing but still didn't find it to your liking, I still want to leave you with something for being awesome willing to read the whole thing. Enjoy!