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30 M Brighton, MA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 23–32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Sep 16
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a polyamorous circus nerdboy who already has a girlfriend.

If I visited your profile, please don't take it as "some dude and his girlfriend are trying to seduce me". I have a bad habit of using procrastination time to wander around OkC, or maybe I'm out on a gig and using the OkC app to find a date to explore a new city.

...or maybe some dude and his girlfriend are trying to seduce (or at least befriend) you. It's definitely possible. "Dates" are always fun, and we should have one.
What I’m doing with my life
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Making and playing games, circus and fire performance, teaching programming, circus, rpgs, and who knows what else to kids, and generally having the best time I can. Somehow people are willing to give me money for all of these.

When people ask what I do for a living, I tell them I yell at children and set things on fire. Which is true.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Telling too much to people I just met; picking up new skills, getting decently good at them, and then not pursuing them anymore; telling myself to get off the computer but somehow still being there an hour later.

And being self-deprecating on the internet. I'm damn good at that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
depends completely on who I'm with, whether I'm having a good time, and whether I'm putting on Performance Face for some higher cause. Probably that I'm a towering blond thing. I sometimes forget that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Derren Brown's Tricks of the Mind; The Diamond Age; The Alchemist; The Demon-haunted World; One Fish Two Fish Red Fish Blue Fish; Rational Mysticism; Transmetropolitan; V for Vendetta; The Power of Habit; Daniel Suarez; Dies the Fire; China Mieville. If you want to geek out about Iain Bank's Culture series, we can be (disseminated, multiply conscious) friends forever.

Video: Breaking Bad, Batman Begins, Stewart/Colbert, Firefly, Game of Thrones, White Collar.

Music: All sorts of things. I've been going through an electronica (Glitch Mob, Feed Me) and electro swing phase. Johnny Cash is a pretty cool guy, and I love Alabama 3 -style modern electric blues rock.

Food: I like very spicy food. I'm fine with veggie, paleo, gluten free, or whatever else. If we can cook together, that's badass.

Games: I like co-op games a lot. I play and run roleplaying games, play Hearthstone (badly), and go to weekly circus people board game night. I have an endless parade of single player RPGs that I buy on steam sales and never get around to playing. You can be any level of nerdy: nothing will under- or overwhelm me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I could do without most everything. In fact, I'd gladly trade it for a better model. I can't wait to get my posthuman skillsofts and rocket arms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
posthuman skillsofts and rocket arms, mostly.

I think about the future and the past, like everyone else. The current state of the world is amazing to watch- technology is doing incredible things, capitalism is slowly imploding in on itself, the US government is overreaching, incapable, and profoundly frightening, and the internet is keeping track of all of it.

I give to the Electronic Frontier Foundation, the ACLU, and Amnesty International, which collectively sum up my politics pretty well.

I also spend a lot of time not thinking about anything, under headphones surrounded by wubs and twanging guitars, writing, playing, or losing myself in the bowels of the internet.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
with good friends, playing some kind of table game and sipping something with whiskey in it.

Or going out on a whim to re-enact Calvin and Hobbes on a dance floor.

Or across state lines, driving back from a fire show and wondering if we'll get back in time to have friends-and-games time before bed.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have no idea what success means, for me or for anyone else, and it terrifies me that if I were chasing a different definition, it might make me much happier. It also terrifies me that tomorrow I might wake up with a different definition, and have to start all over again. The world is big and unknowable, and any rakish bravado I might put on is probably just a cover for a hideous pit of existential terror.
You should message me if
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You should message me if you are an intelligent lady who likes using her body and her mind, believes in open and honest communication, thinks she's awesome, and lives in the Boston area. If you are all of those things (and you understand that I'm already in a serious romantic relationship), anything else is just frosting.

Also, the "lady" part of the above paragraph is negotiable. Neither I nor my girlfriend particularly care what's in your pants. If you think I'm interesting, and you think you're interesting, then I'm interested to hear from you.