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30 Brighton, MA Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 23–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Dec 7
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Entertainment / Media
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm an ethically non-monogamous circus nerd. I'm a filthy socialist, futurist, transhumanist, and general optimist. I can't wait for the world to get past the mess we're in right now, and I plan to live forever.

I'm pretty terrible at leaving my cave- I have a good tribe of friends, but I like meeting new people to get me out in the world every now and then to have dates, adventures, and nerf fights.

I'm not unicorn hunting, but I'm not above petting one if it happened to wander past.
What I’m doing with my life
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Making and playing games; circus and fire performance; teaching programming, circus, roleplaying games, and who knows what else to kids, and generally having the best time I can. Somehow I get paid for this. My schedule is a giant mess.

When people ask what I do for a living, I tell them I yell at children and set things on fire. Which is true.

What's also true is that I'm a trained child development specialist who teaches noncompetitive physical education (circus arts), group socialization, computer literacy, moral development, and lateral thinking (Minecraft, Arduino, and D&D, in some complex Venn diagram that makes this paragraph totally unworkable).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I used to be really good at revealing too much personal information on the internet. Since my life involves both non-monogamy and working with children, I've been trying to rein that in.

My "Personality" tab says I'm really good at being More Kinky. That's definitely true, but I'm not the kinkiest hose in the garden and I'm not sure how I feel about it being my defining OkCupid characteristic.

Also, speaking of OkCupid characteristics, I'm really good at reading through our mutual questions and your personality tab. This site is incredibly interesting; you should read their blog.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably that I'm a towering blond thing. I sometimes forget that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Derren Brown's Tricks of the Mind; The Diamond Age; The Alchemist; The Demon-haunted World; One Fish Two Fish Red Fish Blue Fish; Rational Mysticism; Transmetropolitan; V for Vendetta; The Song of the Lioness Quartet; Daniel Suarez; Dies the Fire; China Mieville. If you want to geek out about Iain Bank's Culture series, we can be (disseminated, multiply conscious) friends forever. Or Oglaf. I will always geek out about Oglaf.

Video: Batman Begins, Stewart/Colbert, Firefly, Game of Thrones, Legend of Korra. I don't watch a lot of TV, but I try to keep up with the nerd culture staples.

Music: I've been going through an electronica (Feed Me, Kaskade), Celtic rock, gypsy punk, and Big Bad Voodoo Daddy phase. Johnny Cash is always a pretty cool guy, and I love Alabama 3 -style modern electric blues.

Food: I like spicy stuff! I'm fine with veggie, paleo, gluten free, or whatever else. If we can cook together, that's badass.

Games: I'm slowly working my way through some Indy bundles. I orchestrate a 25+ member D&D group and write massive alternate reality mystery games for parties. You can be any level of nerdy: nothing will under- or overwhelm me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love. It's sappy and trite, but it's true. Without love I become a shriveled, horny ball of misanthropic uselessness.


Aside from those, I could do without most everything, and I'll be happy to trade it in for a better model. Bring on the skillsoft data inserts and rocket arms!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...skillsoft data inserts and rocket arms, mostly.

I spend a lot of time thinking about sex and gender- how to be openly sex positive, male, and not a creeper on the internet. It often seems like a pick 2 of 3 situation.

I give to the Electronic Frontier Foundation, the ACLU, and Amnesty International, which collectively sum up my politics pretty well.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
with good friends, playing some kind of table game and sipping something with whiskey in it.

Or going out for some dance floor Calvin and Hobbes reenactment. I cannot dance. This will not stop me.

Or across state lines, driving back from a fire show and desperately looking forward to cuddles and a blanket cocoon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have no idea what success means, for me or for anyone else, and it terrifies me that if I were chasing a different definition, it might make me much happier. It also terrifies me that tomorrow I might wake up with a different definition, and have to start all over again. The world is big and unknowable, and any rakish bravado I might put on might be a cover for a hideous pit of existential terror.
You should message me if
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You should message me if you're an awesome lady (or gent) who believes in honest communication, you have some kink or you're looking to explore, and you'd like to have a beer and talk about sex, politics, sex politics, or how many geese you could take in a fight, given a scenario where a new goose appears every 20 seconds and is Coming for your Blood.

You should also message me if you want to have an internet chat procrastination buddy, or (especially) if we have a truly abysmal match percentage. I make a pretty good nemesis. I have a cape.