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Softlywhispered

44 F Tarpon Springs, FL

My Details

Last Online
Apr 17
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Medicine
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I will open with this: If you're a married man looking to cheat on his partner, please bypass my profile. I'm not interested. I'm living in an open poly relationship and it works for me. I believe in open communication with my spouse.

I did a soul searching journey a few years ago: a cross country drive that allowed me to come into my own. It gave me an idea of who I really am, and I found out that I really like the person who I've grown into. Sometimes I'm told that I come across as brash and intimidating, but when you look beneath that surface you'll see me for what I really am; a compassionate woman who lives life in every breath.

What I'm looking for friends. PERIOD. I've got a life partner, I'm looking for folks to socialize with. However, don't assume I'll meet you straight away, I take a while to go from email here, to giving out any other form of contact. Please don't rush things.

I'm the kind of woman who appreciates having fun, but not being reckless. Who likes to enjoy life, but does so at an easy pace. I'm laid back, casual and comfortable with life. There's no reason to always be in a rush, but if I want something done, I expect it to -get done-, even if I have to do it myself. I'm not high pressure or high maintenance, I just have high expectations for myself, and faith in others.

A direct quote from someone I once met: "You really are unlike anyone I've ever met before. You're as open and honest as you seem."

I am a sensualist, creative and vibrant
What I’m doing with my life
Making the most of every moment! I work in the personal care/services industry and love what I do.
I’m really good at
Listening. My job has allowed me to hone this skill, and I'm the kind of person you can tell anything to. And trust me... People do.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and impish smile, or maybe that I'm nearly 6' tall tends to stand out, but I'm told there are other attributes others notice first.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy reading ,it is one of my favorite past times. Some of my favorite Authors are Mercedes Lackey, Laurell K. Hamilton Katie McAllister, Kim Harrison and Tara Sue Me they're women who can spin a good tale and write delicious erotic prose.

Movies get to me though, I LOVE a good psychological thriller, but GORROR or splatter porn - Not my thing. Movies like "Paranormal Activity 1-3 (4 sucked, but 4.5 - just came out in January 2014 was REALLY a good tie up) are a great set up, Insidious: chapter 2, The Possession of Emily Rose, Devil: These all had great ideas, they set out, told the story, had the timing and did it right, but if it's just a slasher flick. *yawn* I always find myself telling the tv how stupid that girl is for going off alone, Or those two kids for going into the bunk to have sex.

My music tastes vary all over the place, I really do like -anything- from folk, to filk, rock to r&b. However my phone is filled with New Age & world music because this is what I use when I work. I like having a huge library to select from, something that will allow my clients to drift away. One of my absolute favorite musicians is Deva Premal, who does a lot of Tibentan Chant set to music. I suppose the other is Lifescapes Music, I'm sure you know them, they're the little boxes you see at Target or Walmart, where you can "sample" the Cd. They've got some great relaxation CD's, I swear I have everyone of them! I'm also a HUGE fan of Hawaiian Slack Key Guitar.
The six things I could never do without
Six things I could never do without would be:
Corsets
My Cats
Intelligent Conversation - (smart people are sexy& I'm a sapiosexual!)
Music that moves me
Renaissance Faires
Close friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Power Exchange, some might find it interesting to know that I'm a switch. I've spent time being a pro-domme, but now I like things from both sides, it all depends on the chemistry.

It makes it easier on me that I can see things on both perspectives when it comes to that kind of bedroom play, if you know what I mean. I am a hard switch. More Top than bottom, but I do occasionally like to play in that other head-space, it just has to be with the right person. Sadly those types are few and far between. Don't send your sub to me expecting her to do your foot work, I'm not looking to be your third.

Some times I feel like Fetlife.com's welcoming crew here. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
During the autumn, I can be found at Howl-o-Scream Tampa's premier haunt attraction at Busch Gardens. It's something I've done for the last 13 years. --- Last year, I was in The Experiment Busch Garden's Upsell house at Howl-O-Scream.

On any other given Friday night, I might be at the Phoenix Club, the Web, The Woodshed or some other Fetish event. If there's a Drag Show I can be convinced to go out and see it at places like Hamburger Mary'sand Georgie's Alibi because shows like that are DAMN Fun!

Other wise I'm pretty flexible. Sometimes I like to be home, others, I like to be out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have the smallest toenails you've probably -ever- seen. *nods* And I am known to have thumbs of steel.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 30–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
...You like intelligent women, enjoy people who have diverse backgrounds and are looking for friendship. If you like to laugh and Your number one goal should be getting to know me, not getting in my pants.

... You want to start a -CONVERSATION- with me. "Hey.." or "Hi" or even "How are you?" ...isn't going to cut it, neither is some lame compliment. Start a conversation, witty banter, flirt, but for the love of all that's holy... don't just leave a greeting!

...You should NOT message me if you're a judgmental ass who is offended by a woman who speaks her mind. My preferences are just that MINE and I own them. Yours are YOURS... accept it and move on. Telling someone to get over themselves show exactly how far you need to grow. /rant