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40 M Nelson, British Columbia, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jun 10, 2007
Native American, White
0′ 9″ (0.23m)
Body Type
Other, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Please read my overlong heartfelt schmarmy goddam introspective self-conscious bloody profile - it'll make the emo homewrecker hidden deep within me - groan with exquisitely ironic displeasure.

seriously, i'm a schmuck and i think too much - this does not mean i'm smarter than whoever - it just means i notice weird little things and take little at face value.

ahhh! I can't stop being a SNAG, help!

I like to talk to people, i love people who distinguish themselves in their own particular way, i guess it takes courage or heart, intelligence and a little patience, and i see these qualities as being awake or asleep in everyone, everywhere.

i will actually listen to what you are saying and will take you at your word when you speak of yourself.

a fun quote: "We're crafty and evil, you know, with our big words and our rationality and our formulating opinions based on actual information." ~ Norma Desmond

I am an intellectual (it seems to be permanent) but i love being in a body too... I am a consummate epicure, and a man of letters. I am compassionate and like compassionate types - but i also really like spontanteous and potentially bitchy people, who shoot from the hip - is that a contradiction? i'm curious always, and quite generous & frolicsome sometimes

If paradoxes thrill you I'm your man.

please don't bullshit me, know that I don't need you to be perfect for me.

if you haven't already, check out & join it's mosty west-coast, it's very, very funky, w lots of really weird and sexy humans upon it and is free also, many of my friends are on it too... my profile there is

and if you look at my photos you'll see a nice cross-section of my life's work; PHOTOGRAPHY!!

I am pretty damn foolish, fit, chill, and a giver
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently studying more design and adobe software stuff, photo-optimization etc. re-organizing my life, setting my world in motion, cracking it open and just about to suck the marrow of life. Am freshly moved to a high altitude country-spot with a garden, ancient forest and a pristine river with the tastiest well water in the world... come to the kootenays, in southeast B.C. (canada) and you'll see for yourself. UPDATE: Moving back to Nelson for a summer and then we'll see, perhaps Victoria?

I will be a master photographer within my lifetime,

I paint, draw, act, model, gesticulate expressively in conversation, mouse graphically, tweak windows comps for fun, will probably be involved in movies some day (direct / act / storyboard / lighting / cameraman), am grandiose, and quixotic in an ever-changing way, think too much, have something in common with everyone, i enjoy baths, cooking, healing, and uh... pleasure.

I intend to travel to photograph and experience the world before considering building a house and breeding etc.

Did I mention I think too much - no really it's a sickness being an intellectual - lets foment a hotbed of luxuriously audacious resistance! Up periscope! Man the asparagus! damn the torpedoes! Look silly!

"It don't mean a thing if it ain't got that swing!"
I’m really good at
photography, tai ji & qi gong, tweaking windows computers, graphics, dancing like a dust devil when the beats are freqin', teaching the things i know well, driving stick sideways & fast on twisty dirt roads, but real slow in the school zone, welcoming my beloved into my embrace, cooking fresh and spicy dishes, goldsmithing, speaking my mind (insert feet like like so), avoiding cliches, being sweet and feeling silly, rubbing your back until you drool,
The first things people usually notice about me
people tell me i'm distinctive, insightful, easy to talk to - yet honest (but i suppose you'd find out for yourself if you message me), that i look good in dark red, and maybe they notice that i'm only 5'5" - some women can't relate to a limber epicure who is that short but i usually don't really give a fnoogle - it's all spirit anyway. Besides,what you won't notice is that I'm ... how do you say... compensated?

Many of my friends think i'm really hip to what's going on, what i'm doing in my life and that i am a very "together" person - needless to say they don't know me very well if they think that!! I tend to corrupt interested and suitable candidates in a very insidious, enjoyable, empowering and healthy way when it comes down to it... That said there's nothing better than being close with an equal - and it's what i want

I'm told I have a dutch/danish face. I'd like to go back to Urp and explore more... dutch people always look so... familiar to me...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
um, this might become long... AUTHORS: some of the works of Ernest Hemmingway, James Joyce, Aldous Huxley, Tom Robbins, Umberto Eco, Robert Anton Wilson, Carlos Castaneda, Philip K. Dick, Milan Kundera, Robertson Davies, Chuck Palahniuk Michael Ontaadje, Friedrich Nietzsche, and the odd bit of witchy, trashy historical fiction and graphic novels, Fu Hsi, H.P. Lovecraft!, D.H. Lawrence, J.K. Rowling's Harry Potter 1-6, J.R.R. Tolkien, Alan Watts, C.S. Lewis also puts together a good story but he's a little too much of a bible thumper underneath (notice the lack of strong, brainy and positive heroines? the girls can do it for themselves so lets see it C.S.!) Lao Tzu and Miyamoto Musashi really rock the casbah too - if i may say so...

MOVIES: almost anything with johnny depp, matrices (too bad the dialoque sucked in the last one: "um, he is the one"), kill bills, casablanca, baraka, Lost in Translation, Star Wars, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Amelie, The Island, City of Angels, Anime when it gets deep: Spirited Away, Princess Mononoke, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind. The Sixth Sense, i'll add more to this later

c) Amon Tobin, Van Morrison, john lee hooker, Lhasa, Beatles, CocoRosie, air, cal tjader, ornette coleman, aretha the queen of soul, zoetic, Sarah McLachlan, the Police, jackie treehorn, barry white, lily frost, enya, canned heat, cake, booker t and the mg's, those white, white stripes, fiona apple, jack johnson, barry white, massive attack, michael franti & spearhead, nina simone, otis redding, pheobe snow, zapmama, junior walker & the all-stars, portishead.

d) sushi & sashimi, hot homecooked food; steamed organic veggies, wild or free range turkey, wild salmon, pussy, moose meat, soups & stews, marinated silverking tofu, the finest green tea, thai, greek, indian dishes, sesame oil and sea salt on anything...
The six things I could never do without
well, if i have to get it down to 6 I'd say that the most vital things to me are... manual digicam, new futon, my sedate and stately looking but irresponsibly zippy car (i'm customizing it slowly to look almost like some sedan version of a bizarre foreign embassy's "diplomatic limo") this computer that allows us to talk (and while i'm at it thank goodness the internet will never go away!), my library / study, a certain sword of japanese heritage, with all the polish this soul can muster.

Of course this utterly excludes those most important things that are greater than things, such as my health, my closest friends & being bitten by my marmalade tabby cat!! the blessed sun, clean water and air) Some others that butt into this list whenever they can: essential oils of cinnamon, frankincense, amber, vanilla, ylang ylang, neroli, balm of gilead, balsam fir etc... my photography portfolio CD's, winged petasus, fine clothes of favourite colours; cherry, royal blue, gold & black: woolens & silks, cool clean hemps, linens and cottons too, oh what the hell; some nice warm fleeces...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
too many matters of local, personal, global relevance, pardon any grandiose verbosity.

happiness, beauty, growth phenomena, patterns and quality of light (i am an photographer artist), how my next love relationship will likely be competely unlike what hath come before, healing, shared and personal power radiant, how my best 5 friends are keeping, my next artwork, what to DO with all the pesky humans,

uh, how can you tell when a man doesn't watch TV...


I trust in whatever manner of religion, philosophy or lack thereof got you where you are today and i will accept you - and I expect the same.

I'm as much at home with the sacrements of half a dozen religions, meat-eaters, hippy rennaissance-faire wiccans, reasonably together gospel-freaks, broad-minded rednecks & scrappy bastards - as I am among the whores, gays, intellectuals, filthy commies, blasphemers, insect-f*cking tree-huggers and fire-breathing west-coast freaks. i consider the development of radically different subcultures to be a sign of a civilised culture.

I will say here that I'm one of these masterless young fools who wants it all, ultimately i want to meet and fall in love with a sweet, smart and sassy slut for spontaneous sophistry & sultry skronking.

I'm a philosphical taoist.

i'll just say that it has nothing to do with fortune cookies yin-yang necklaces and chinese food (but uh, do pass some of the chow mein, rice, sesame oil and almond chicken while you're up). Taoism doesn't need to look particularily chinese - to me it means, balance, re-connecting to that which is wild & natural in us - yet cultivating some grace throughout the craziness - living in tune with the seasons, not bothering with complex societal posturing, but getting lots of laughter!, taking care of our bodies, sensuality, vitality, harmonious resolutions to conflict, dropping unsupportably grandiose beliefs (i'm uh, still working on this one...).

sleeping when you're tired, eating when you're hungry, life is good until we make it otherwise - RADICAL, ISN'T IT?

lay-taoism says imagine if god was just this really incredibly sage best-friend who didn't hold it against you if you were a fuckup and was the kind of god who would mobilize anything to help you - occasionally withdrawing to solitude until you resolutely drop the ego-bullshit - then hooking back up with you like nothing ever happened...

Sources of learning about one's personal way, or tao; tai chi, feng shui, I Ching (try the Wilhelm/Baynes trans + Carol K. Anthony's guide), indigenous traditions everywhere (what were the indigenous peoples where you live getting down to at this time of year?), chinese medicine (hello spleen, how are you today? what'll happen if i press hard here? WOW! who needs drugs?!), acupuncture or if pressed approxipuncture will do!

lately i think about how to make this profile more concise!!
On a typical Friday night I am
One of these two:

i'm arranging some daring and deep coloured combination of well-cut and comfy threads to slip into, having a sip of something strong, skyping the friendlies and seeing what the night will bring... Hopefully this includes equal parts: soul-to-soul friend-time, rediculous revelry, captain Al Cohol, deep throbbing beats, dancing like the wind, singing old blues and soul tunes, talking to stimulating strangers, some rough and tumble with my best friends, some cuddling and ... just a taste of some of that fine... HEY!! none of your damn business unless you're going to join me!


on that same Friday night i'm saying FUCK IT!! i don't wanna go out, and so enjoying the creation and complete & utter enjoyment of a fine meal and watching a movie torrent, then cuddling or hanging out here on the net.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i'm a poly fool who cuddles and massages people whom i have no intention of scr*wing.

I, um know things about the human body that nonetheless are... um, quite fascinating...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–66
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You are experiencing any number of motivations ranging from the most selfishly predatory to the most talkatively friendly... Only you know your complusions or what is to be done with 'em!

Message me if: if you want to talk you think i'm a pretentious asshat if you dig me or my profile if i've said something you find thought-provoking, bizarre or comforting... you need to confirm that i'm actually as carnally bent or balanced, royally attentive or narcissistically self-involved, sophisticated or pea-brained, empowered or lazy as i seem to your crooked eyes...