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32 M Milwaukee, WI

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 26–41
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:33pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English, German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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In my 20s, I earned a Ph.D., learned to dance, lived abroad, and ran a non-profit. I can't wait to find out what I can do with my 30s!

My hobbies include west coast swing dancing, playing modern board games with friends, experimenting with new spices in the kitchen, or just talking over a glass of wine.

I didn't have much time to explore Milwaukee while in grad school, so now I'm enjoying the opportunity to discover fun things to do in the city.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am fascinated by the process of skill development, and I have a job that feeds into that passion. One part of my job is curriculum design for a conflict management training organization. I develop training programs to help kids stay safe from bullying, to teach professionals like nurses and police how to de-escalate confrontational situations, and to help families resolve conflicts respectfully.

The other part of my job is being the chief technologist. I get to innovate ways to use technology to develop and share content (with a focus on learning and training). I work with an amazing team and feel like I'm genuinely contributing to something meaningful.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
• Dry humor with a deadpan delivery
• Exploring new ideas
• Driving stick shift
• Using grammar correctly

I also have several minor superpowers, including dicing onions without crying, spinning pens around my thumb, and thinking of a perfect quip just after the moment has passed.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know, so I commissioned a survey (by which I mean I took my friends out for drinks; don't ask what that does to the survey's margin of error). The topline results:

• Most noticed physical feature: eyes. If you look closely, you'll discover a really cool genetic quirk!
• Most noticed personality traits: smart, witty, and kind.
• Overall impression: thoughtful; you can tell that I'm engaging with what you're saying.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read a ton, so my list of favorite books is long. The short version would have to include Dostoevsky's Brothers Karamazov, Terry Pratchett's Discworld novels, and the Wheel of Time series by Robert Jordan. I am just rediscovering sci-fi but need direction for new books; I loved Foundation and Old Man's War.

I like most musical genres, but I dig the blues. My soul moves to 12-bar chord progressions.

I enjoy lots of Asian flavors—yay for hoisin and tumeric!—as well as Mexican fare. I love barbecue. While I'm no gourmet chef, I enjoy cooking at home and am reasonably talented with a wok.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Friends and family: my friends mean the world to me, and my family is so cool that it's unfair. Seriously, this is the family that you wish you had.
2) Dancing: there's magic when two people can move, together, to the shared experience of music.
3) Libraries: books. For free.
4) The internet: I trust that this needs no elaboration.
5) Curiosity: it's what makes everything interesting!
6) Science: approaching truth since Thales fell into the well.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ph.D. in philosophy = will think for food.

My brain ranges from the nature of consciousness to how to use pop culture while teaching to how the movie/book/TV show pulled off a cool character moment.

Most importantly, I like to think along with my friends. Sharing ideas and learning from others is one of the great joys in life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
• Discovering ethnic restaurants with friends, or
• Grooving on a dance floor, or
• Curled up with a good book

Of course, life would be boring if every Friday night were typical…
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There's nothing private on the internet. So, the best that I can offer is that I have the lowest tolerance for horror movies imaginable. No, seriously: even horror parodies like Scary Movie push my limit. I'm still surprised that I made it through Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

Of course, for certain audiences admitting that I'm a Buffy fan is the bigger confession. But, if you've made it this far, I'm guessing that's a plus in your book.
You should message me if
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You read this far; you should, period. Clearly there was something that intrigued you. Fortune favors the bold!

Seriously. I get that my profile is long. If you don't message me, it's like throwing away the last five minutes of your life. It may be a sunk cost fallacy, but what do you have to lose?