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5′ 7″ (1.70m)
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Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
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1/2015 - I just saw the movie Her, which came out a year or so ago. Apparently it was considered a bold statement. In it, a guy falls in love with an operating system that is represented by a female voice and has the AI that gives "her" many human emotions, insights and feelings.

What struck me more than anything was the fact that the relationship dialog was so well written and authentic to so many relationships between men and women. It could just as easily have been virtually any long-distance or online-only relationship. The only real difference was that in this case there was no illusion or pretense of ever having a real-world meeting, because, again, he knew from the start that she was just an operating system.

The movie portrayed them as "dating." He had a little handheld device with a camera that allowed "her" to see where he was and more or less "be with him." Through an earpiece he could talk to her. It was really not that far away from a relationship based on something like Skype with a mobile device.

Part of what came across was that even this circumstance wasn't "safe" from the emotional entanglements of a real-world relationship. She could sense his distance, distraction, vulnerabilities, joy and anger, just as real people do in both the real world and online real world of real humans. Given that we have everything but touch, and physical presence, why is it sometimes more appealing to live without those things? I think that anyone who has been in a "serious" long-distance romance or relationship has probably experienced these emotional complications, but again, without the fulfillment of all the wonderful things that being with someone physically brings.

Is what we really crave emotional closeness and connection? If the physical presence too much? Is it the fear of complications that come with sexuality? The fear that the real world will ruin the illusions of possible perfection that long-distance love provides? Oh well, just some things to ponder.

Things I am:Liberal. Free spirited. Creative. Fun. Adventurous. Responsible. Passionate. Compassionate. Striving to live in the moment. Sentimental about the past. Change oriented. Life experienced yet I approach many things with a beginner's mind. Intellectually inquisitive. Emotionally appropriate and available. I am moved by the beauty, irony and poetry of life. Everyone who knows me says that I have a great sense of humor; but I know when to be serious. At times I have been called intense and other times laid back. I tend to be spontaneous. Tolerant.

Things I like: Diversity, variety and eclecticism. Music, all kinds. Art, black and white photography, books, writing, films, good conversation. Chocolate. Intimacy. Sensuality. I love to travel, and I'm lucky enough to have visited many fantastic places and had many enriching experiences, but there are so many places left to see. I'd love to hook up with someone with an unquenchable wanderlust and a valid passport. I like the beach, the country and the city. I like going to concerts; museums and galleries, movies, restaurants, and staying home with a good book or a new CD. I work out regularly, not obsessively.

Things I'm not: Particularly traditional. A big sports fan. A golfer, a hunter. A big drinker. Expecting dinner on the table or my shirts ironed. A big TV watcher. Corporate. Compulsive.
What I’m doing with my life
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Professionally, I am an editor/writer. Personally, I write, play music, read, hang with a new cat, travel when I can, think about all my ideas and projects that I should get going on. I catch movies when I can, and live music when someone intriguing is playing. I waste too much time on the internet. Lately I’ve been trying to find time to fit in a more regular exercise regimen, yoga and even brief still time meditating, which are all things I used to do regularly and miss.
I’m really good at
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The lost art of segueing music; I'm told that I make great mix CDs/ collections of music. I'm really good at writing things with which I never do anything. I'm good at coming up with ideas and seeing the possibilities. Inferior Design ;-)
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I arrived, unnoticed, under the radar.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I just discovered this recently. I think it is a sponsored, promotional film. However, that part of it is subtle; It's a well-written and narrated, wonderfully shot and acted little story that spoke to me. See what you think: Simon Van Booy

I could answer this every day and at least some, if not most, of the answers would change. Today, in no particular order:

Here is today's list of some that I revisit or ones that jump out as especially enjoyable:

Everyday Zen by Charlotte Jocko Beck
The prologue of Underworld by Don Delillo
Otherwise: New and Selected Poems by Jane Kenyon (click to check out) Her poem September Garden Party
The Heart Is A Lonely Hunter by Carson McCullers
Paul Bowles Reader (click to check it out) This is one of my favorite quotes of his
A collection of Ernest Hemingway short stories
Writing Down The Bones by Natalie Goldberg
Long Day's Journey Into Night by Eugene O'Neil
Ascension a biography of (click to see and hear) John Coltrane
Beneath the Underdog a biography of (click to hear) Charles Mingus


Movies I watched recently:
The Kings Speech
Wings of Desire

Recent revisits that I really enjoyed:
In America
Lost in Translation
My Dinner with Andre
The Last Temptation of Christ

All Time Favs:
The Godfather
Raging Bull
A Hard Day's Night
Deja Vu (Redgrave)
The Kid (Chaplin)
It Could Happen To You (a guilty pleasure)
Calle 54
Endless Summer (another guilty's just relaxing to watch surfing)
American Beauty
Animal Crackers

I like to watch certain scenes over and over. I often toss on a DVD of something I've seen countless times and go to a specific scene or just watch for a few minutes (or more) from some arbitrary random place. I do the same thing with favorite TV shows like episodes of The Sopranos, Brideshead Revisited (the mini-series, not the movie), OZ or Mad Men. It helps break a throught pattern, change my mood, or otherwise transport me from wherever my head was before I started watching. It can also be inspiring.

(click to see)Carousel Scene in Mad Men

The Halloween scene in In America, when the two little Irish girls meet "the man who screams."

(click to see) The trailer scene in True Romance between Christopher Walken and Dennis Hopper, where Hopper tells Walken about Scilians.

The scene in The Sopranos episode where Christopher is at the carnival, high on junk and the Fred Neil song, The Dolphins, is playing.

(click to see) Of course the famous "plastic bag in the wind" scene in American Beauty.

Music - we don't have enough room but a start would be:

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Miles Davis
The Beatles
Nick Drake
Laura Nyro
Big Star
Thelonious Monk
Antonio Carlos Jobim (read the lyrics if you don't speak Portuguese)
The Kinks
Gato Barbieri
60's and early 70's Motown
Maria Callas
The Grip Weeds
The Ramones
Pablo Casals
Bessie Smith

Food - I don't eat red meat or poultry. Occasionally I eat fish and seafood so most ethnic foods are good. I tend to avoid dairy. I like it but it doesn't like me. That said, sometimes I just can't resist pizza. I recently came up with an awesome non-dairy version of mac and cheese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
To be honest there is very little I couldn't do without, but there are things that I'm grateful to have:

People I love
Those all too fleeting times of clarity, consciousness and presence in the moment
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Situations where we find someone here who sounds, looks and seems perfect for us, we write to them and never hear back, because obviously the feeling wasn't mutual. I think about how curious it is that one person sees something so clearly and the other simply doesn't.

I think about how much time is spent here, looking for someone, having meaningful exchanges and then it doesn't go anywhere, i.e., no real world meeting. Don't get me wrong, I've met people here, but sometimes it feels like you just have to go through so much and so many to get to one. It's a real numbers game, like looking for job.

I wonder if some of us just want the attention or we really have nothing better to do, get bored, and that's that; we got what we needed from that person and that encounter; then on to the next. Do we really want to meet someone?

Also, I spend way too much time thinking about the plethora of increasingly disturbing things that are happening in this country and the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home alone, sitting in the dark, chain-smoking Camels, chain-drinking scotch, wondering where you are! J/K! (although hopefully that was obvious).

Friday nights could be anything from hanging at home sometimes cooking something good for dinner, watching a movie, reading a book, writing, listening to music or practicing. Or I could be playing music somewhere or watching it. I might be hanging with a friend or family.
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