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31 M Bloomington, IN

My Details

Last Online
Jul 13
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Okay), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Disclaimer: If you happen to be Ben Wyatt (Adam Scott) from Parks & Rec, stop looking. I'll marry you tomorrow.

In very short form, I'm an opera singer who is trying to find his way in a world filled with less-than-fantastic people. Prove me wrong! Open for chat, dates, and fooling around.

In a bit more detail, I have three degrees in music, have played piano since I was 4, and I'm a countertenor. If you don't know what that is, I'm more than happy to talk about it until your eyes glaze over from boredom. :-)

My ideal career trajectory would involve touring/singing with various opera companies, concert venues, and chamber groups for no less than 10, no more than 20 years, and then relaxing into a faculty position at well-funded (for the students, not for my paycheck) university, teaching voice, theory, music history, pedagogy, whatever. I also have some interest in being a professional vocal coach, but...I'm not sure my piano skills are up to par for that.

I'm vaguely familiar with German, Italian and French, and I'm learning Mandarin. I was learning it for my ex, but that isn't the case anymore - now it's for me. (As it should be...)

So, now that I've mentioned my ex... The man I thought I would spend my life with told me at the end of the summer that he had come to terms with the fact that he wasn't actually in love with me. It sucks, yes, but it was the only decent thing for him to do. He knew I would be hurt, but he also ended it the moment he realized the truth, so as not to hurt me any more than was inevitable. All in all, he's a good human being, and that fact alone set up a scenario in which I will be able to heal with relative ease. I'm emotionally hesitant now, because of being so sure of that relationship, but I'm not broken, so don't be afraid!

Am I looking for love? Yes.
Do I have an IMMENSE amount of love to share? Yes.
Do I think I'll find "the one" through a website? Who the hell knows?
Do I think that it's possible? Yes.
Am I open to just having a good time? Sure thing.
What I’m doing with my life
Training as an opera singer, and striving to better myself daily. For more info, see above. :-)
I’m really good at
Exacting situation-specific advice that can actually benefit my loved ones
Staying open-minded
Coaching voice
Making guys moan (I mean, I'm just saying...)
The first things people usually notice about me
Eyes, eyelashes, or smile...depending on the day. Also, I'm opinionated - that tends to stick out :-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
N.B. In the following lists, everything is in an arbitrary order, with the exception of the first item in the section. That one is my favorite! :-)

American Gods - Neil Gaiman
Mistborn Trilogy - Brandon Sanderson
Rama Tetralogy - Arthur C. Clarke
2001 Tetralogy - Arthur C. Clarke
Life of Pi - Yann Martel
The NeverEnding Story - Michael Ende
Fight Club - Chuck Palahniuk
How I Killed Pluto, and Why It Had It Coming - Mike Brown
The Elegant Universe - Brian Greene
The Dark Tower Series - Stephen King
Harry Potter - J.K. Rowling
The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe - Douglas Adams
Temperament - Stuart Isacoff
The King and I (Pavarotti's exposé) - Herbert Breslin
From Eternity to Here - Sean Carroll
I Am a Strange Loop - Douglas R. Hofstadter

Lord of the Rings Trilogy
Alien Tetralogy
Harry Potter Octalogy (Totally made that word up)
Alice in Wonderland (1985, made for TV)
Star Wars (Originally trilogy)
The NeverEnding Story
Galaxy Quest
Star Trek (all movies)
The Fifth Element
Event Horizon
Donnie Darko
Despicable Me
Best in Show
Waiting for Guffman
Baby Mama
Sordid Lives
The Truman Show
Scott Pilgrim vs. The World
Toy Story Trilogy
The Social Network

Golden Girls
Star Trek (all of them)
The Big Bang Theory
30 Rock
Parks and Recreation
Arrested Development
Battlestar Galactica
Family Guy (but only the first 7 seasons)
Hot in Cleveland

Music and Food to come!
The six things I could never do without
Hot Water
Unlimited access to information (a/k/a The Internet)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to bring beautiful music to people in a way that will positively affect their lives.

How to find a healthy outlet for the love I have to share.
On a typical Friday night I am
Curled up on the couch, watching a movie...ideally snuggling with someone cute :-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
After such a crushing emotion blow recently, there are very occasional times at which I'm legitimately surprised that I can still find joy in my life. However, I DO keep finding joy. In fact, while watching "Parks and Rec" I'm typing this, and I literally burst out laughing! The world does keep spinning, and the endorphins do keep flowing :-)
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You wanna ask me any questions, about anything really.