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Sosthenes

31 / M / straight / Single

Metuchen, New Jersey

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 8" (1.74m).
Body Type
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New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism and laughing about it
Sign
Sagittarius but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of college/university
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs
Languages
English (Fluently), German (Fluently)

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I am amusing, absent-minded, and alliterative.

My Self-Summary

I am a figure of romance; of spirit and action, but at the same time humble and tender. I am a man of iron with the soul of a poet. I am adventurous, but with a lovers brooding melancholy. I live for a sigh, I die for a kiss, I lust for the laugh, ha!

I'm also heavily infringing on copyright law here, a slight geek and a perpetually confused romantic cynic and childish stoic. I am, for a lack of a better word, me.

What I’m doing with my life

Confusing Americans with my knowledge of US pop culture and other trivia. I found my true purpose!

I'm doing fine in my professional life (IT geekery), although I'm still optimistic enough to think that the early 30s would be "young" enough to suddenly change venues. There were times in my life when I though I had fewer options. I like my new care-free self. (Personal life? Too much moving.)

I’m really good at

...building IKEA furniture. I'm the Supreme Master of the Allen Wrench! Look upon my works oh mighty and despair!
...coming up with unexpected solutions. Don't expect precise engineering, but I'll find a way!
...stealthily skipping.
...procrastinating.

The first things people usually notice about me

Girls, it might come as a surprise, but "What's my best feature?" isn't a common topic in male conversations. "Bob, how would you describe my cheekbones?" just. doesn't. fly.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

I just threw away some books because I was moving out of my apartment. That hurt. So I could call the ones left my favorites, but I don't want to speak ill of the ones who I had to let go.
I read a lot of non-fiction and try to keep up on news, so a lot of book reading is more of the escapist nature -- which was worse in my utterly dorky youth. Still, fantasy and sci-fi are welcome distractions. I usually try to cleanse my palate with some "serious" fiction. Preferably some of the classics that I haven't read, as the "important" stuff of the last 50 years is way too self-involved.

Movies. I might be somewhat nerdy, but I actually prefer the movies before CGI and instant celebrities abounded. Something that doesn't try to be to ironic, or grim-dark. Exceptions do happen. Perennial favorites: The Princess Bride, The Court Jester, The Maltese Falcon, Young Frankenstein, Star Wars, Shawshank Redemption, Almost Famous, Mallrats, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, Blade Runner, Harry & Sally, The Draughtsman's Contract, Duelists, Henry V and everything John Huges made.
Of this years movies I really liked Inglorious Basterds, District 9 and The Hangover.
The JJJ rule hasn't disappointed me yet (Watch anything by Jeremy Irons, Jeff Bridges or John Cusack)

I like my music even more escapist than my fiction. And I adore a good melody, even if unaccompanied by a voice (but not for too long). That tends to lead me again and again to prog rock, classical music, symphonic metal and good singer/songwriter stuff. Examples: Rainbow, Mike Oldfield, Blue Oyster Cult, Angra, Kansas, Camel, Alan Parsons Project, Beethoven, Bruckner, Bach, Rush, early Genesis etc.
(A bit disappointed with current bands. Those that are able to play their instruments often just go for camp, and most of them seem to have better hair than musical chops. Darnit, I'm too young to sound so curmudgeonly)

Hah, I'm much more tolerant about food. I like my ethnic stuff, I like a good 'burger, I have a deep-seated love affair with peas and could be converted to a rather weird faith if it just included enough rice pudding.

The six things I could never do without

A genie that would grant me six more wishes!
Contact lenses to actually see him.
A computer to show him what I actually meant.
Comfortable pants. (Couldn't ask the genie for one or I'd just wind up with Harem/Hammer pants)
Music & Books (again, asking the genie would be bad, as a "good book/song" is a rather subjective choice.)

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Whether the "Location: New Jersey" text is causing me trouble. I'm not from here! I don't like sports bars! I wouldn't know a Camaro when it hit me!

Why almost every woman here has 'chapstick' in their 'six things' list. No, really, why?

Whether having a zero percentage on "Enemy" would be a good or a bad thing.

Oh, and zombies and ninjas, of course. Let's hope they'll never create a hybrid.

On a typical Friday night I am

dancing. Which is bad when I have to work long. Offices aren't made for the tango. On the other hand, nothing really is made for what I would call 'tango'.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I do sweeping operatic gestures to cheesy metal a lot when I'm alone.
I wore a skirt on two occasions (and no, it wasn't a kilt).
I'm apparently developing a snorting addition to my laugh.

You should message me if

...you want to go the circus with me.

They just built a tiny one where I live (well, used to live now), and I realized that it would be great if you could just ask someone if you want to go visit it without getting funny looks. I think that watching a small troupe of people who travel around to entertain people would be more romantic than candle-light, ornate mirrors and snotty waiters.
(Not that I wouldn't understand being creeped out by clowns. That's why we have to go together!)