Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
" ... I want to do with you what spring does to the cherry trees
~ Pablo Neruda
This is long ... if that is potentially bothersome, well then, no
need to bother. I'm an extrovert, I love words and I'm a writer.
There you have it.
I've been blessed with incredible life experiences that have shown
me the value of both play and depth in my life. I have dear friends
who mean the world to me. I have work I love that matters to me. I
have a spiritual life that is the foundation when the road gets
rough and tumble-ly. I have a joie de vivre that is wonderfully
infectious. I have a solid sense of self and I am seduced by the
mystery of it all. I have so very much and yet, I long too for that
one missing ingredient of beloved partnership ... could it be with
Here are a few things I think I know:
Attitude is everything.
Beauty is everywhere.
Nothing is black and white.
Nature can teach us so much.
We will lose everyone we love.
We simply must love anyway.
Music is the universal language.
Joy and pleasure are our birthright.
Life is so very fragile and temporary.
Conflict is natural and so is harmony.
The human heart is amazingly resilient.
We humans take ourselves way too seriously.
Intention really does make a world of difference.
Love is the most powerful force in the Universe.
My Relationship Desires:
I'm looking for an amazing, extraordinary man.
I want us to be utterly devoted to one another.
I want to share a life that invigorates, challenges and comforts
I want to honor one another's solitude and balance that with deep
I love expressing love with physical affection, attention and words
of appreciation and delight in my partner.
I want to share the psychological, emotional, sexual, intellectual
and spiritual dimensions of ourselves.
I’ve been around long enough to balance romance with realism and
can differentiate fireworks from what it takes keeping the home
I don't need to be completed or rescued, nor do you; but we
recognize that sharing the journey of love and life, in all its
dimensions, makes both of us more whole.
I welcome, learn from and respect our different perspectives and
yet realize that similar world views and lifestyles are important
components in creating a life together.
I am ready to replace the “I” with “We.”
Some things that matter to me:
Laughter, laughter & more laughter
Conversation that absorbs & engages
Sharing cultural experiences of music, dance, theater
Showing up, with all of who we are and knowing it is more than
Faith, hope and trust that anything is possible, leaving little
room for a feeling of being put upon or victimized by life
Assorted tidbits about me:
I'm learning to love what is.
I live life intensely and deliberately.
I'm allergic to dogma and absolutes.
I know how to listen and pay attention.
I'm curious, optimistic, smart and sensual.
There's both a gypsy and a homebody in my soul.
I am capable and competent, yet I know a little something about
I know how to be with the sacred and I'm irreverent when the moment
calls for it.
My inner authority and intuition are well honed and are my finest
I love being in circle with kindred spirits, whether we are
singing, sharing deeply, laughing or being silent.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Keeping my heart open
Writing and performing my one-woman show
Learning to be as loving of a human being as I possibly can.
Learning to wish that everything should come to pass exactly as it
Recognizing that it's time and I'm ready to share my life in
soulful, intimate partnership.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Finding my way in foreign places
Oh yeah, I can't help it ... spelling
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, now, I have no idea ... want to weigh in on this question?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My interests may be interesting and I'm more than them; although of
course they reflect my values, perspectives and some of what
matters to me.
Sue Monk Kidd
Rainer Maria Rilke
Clarissa Pinkola Estes
Terry Tempest Williams
and a kazillion more.
Prefer Indies and Foreign. If it must be Hollywood, I prefer
something with a message, something provocative, something
inspiring, something that makes me laugh hard. No interest in
shoot-em-ups or sophomoric romps.
Life of Pi
Pina in 3D
Snowflower & The Secret Fan
amongst many, many others
Pride & Joy
The T Sisters
Hot Buttered Rum
The Glide Ensemble
Edwin Hawkins Singers
Sweet Honey in the Rock
Golden Gate Men's Chorus
San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus
and way more
Italian Red Wine
Raw or very rare ahi
Fresh, local, in season
Buttery, Oak-y Chardonnay
Kale, Quinoa and Ben & Jerry's
Summer Rolls from Nings in Pahoa
Bruschetta from Sugo's in Petaluma
Chocolate Tantric Pie (ask me about this!)
Pasta pescatore at Caffe Giostra in Petaluma
Strawberry, goat cheese, hazelnut, arugula salad
Italian, Greek, Mediterranean, Thai, Vietnamese, Indian
Ice Cold Ruby Red Watermelon on a sweltering hot day
Anything on the menu at the Garden Snack Club in Hilo
The Big Island
The Cook Islands
The Greek Islands
All over Nicaragua
Ninh Binh, Vietnam
The Sonoma Coast
Salt Point State Park
The beaches of Maui
Koh Chang, Thailand
The Marin Headlands
Luang Prabang, Laos
The Cinque Terre, Italy
The Amalfi Coast, Italy
Angkor Wat, Cambodia
Almost any National Park
Just about anywhere in Italy
The Lakes District of England
Any place I haven’t been before
Lava flowing into the ocean in Kalapana, Hawaii
The bottom of the Grand Canyon from a rafting boat
The Sierras, especially wide outcrops of huge granite
So many more magical places on this stunning planet
Anywhere I am with my beloved right next to me ...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
7. The Sea
9. My passport
10. The Life Force Energy of Eros
11. Deciding for myself how many items oughta be on this list
The six things I can do without:
8. Cold weather
9. Rules for Rules Sake
10. Evangelism, including the New Age variety
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where my next trip will be.
How incredibly fortunate I am.
How to manifest an enlivening, loving partnership.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't understand the question.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I used to like the Captain and Tennille.
Okay, here's my 'real' answer:
Online dating confounds me. Somehow I feel like I don't quite know
how to do it - write intimate details about myself, read them about
others and then make some determination based on words and photos
on shimmery white screens and algorithms and questions and on and
on and on. Huh? It's very cart-before-the-horse-ish. I love the
allure and the slow (and not-so-slow) unraveling, exploration and
discoveries that come with courtship. I love finding out who we
are, where we've come from, what we've learned and how we want to
move forward by being in the same place, breathing the same air -
moment to moment - and sharing luscious, languid time together. I'm
not much of an old-fashioned sort, but I'm quite enchanted by that
fluttering in my chest when I see someone across the room and they
see me, too and suddenly it feels like a gust of fresh air has
moved through and the din of conversation around us fades away and
it's only the mutual, magnetic eye contact and energy between us
that exists. That kind of experience obviously can't happen in this
limited dimensionality and yet I am an ever-optimistic and
determined sort. So I'm here, I'm in and I'm available to do this
dance, albeit with a bit of stumbling and even some bruising along
the way. Pardon me if I step on your toes. I'm doing my best and
trust that you are, too.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to do your part to revive the lost art of kissing.
You're open to an easy meeting with no pressure and plenty of room
to be real. Even if the sparks are not ignited between us, we can
take a walk or share a beverage or a meal, enjoy each other's
company and wish one another well without taking it all too
We have geographical compatibility. A long distance thing is just
not my thing.
You are available and interested in partnership and I seem like
someone with whom you'd like to explore the possibilities.
You've been around the block and you know there's plenty more to
this life and you want someone with whom to live and laugh and grow
and learn and travel and oh, so much more.
If these words resonate with you ... well then, come ... take my
hand and let's dive in.
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