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38 Phoenix, AZ Man


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Nov 30
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
A self-summary
It seems so arbitrary
My own summary

Haiku-ing is fun, isn't it? What can I write that would summarize me to a complete stranger? I'm supposed to be working on a paper right now but I'm doing this instead. So I guess that would say that I can sometimes procrastinate. Before starting this I spent an hour cleaning out my closet. Further evidence of wanton procrastination. I use Apple products rather than Windows. Except for Word. I mean, you kind of have to, right? I like to travel and luckily, I get to do that pretty often. Well...every summer for the last few years (I'm in graduate summers are uncomplicated).

What else? What else? Hmmm...I change my mind often and I don't like deciding until the very last minute whenever possible. But, I don't like it when others wait until the last minute to decide. The power of last minute decision making should rest with me alone. So, that says that I'm fickle and I'm a hypocrite. I'm also honest. I have always thought of myself as overly-emotional, but it turns out that many of my intimates think I'm emotionally reserved. So while I feel as though my emotional state is obvious, those around me can't seem to tell what I'm feeling, which has tragically lead to some people mistakenly thinking of me as frigid. I'm not. I'm a contemplative observer.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I realize that I've spent a lot of time trying to please some guy I've never met. Attempting to please an ideal who may or may not exist is a really bad idea. And a huge waste of time. So, I'm focusing on doing the things that make me...feel really good. Traveling. Studying. Looking at art. Making art. Lying on a beach whenever possible. Educating myself. Seeking the sublime and accepting nothing less. That's what I'm doing with myself.

And also, I'm really sick of being demure. I'm smart. I'm funny. I'm interesting. I'm stylish. And I'm not all that hard to look at.

I'm looking for a guy with the whole fucking package. I want smarts. And culture. And education. And good sex. And someone who knows how to cook and has a passport (and has actually used it). And someone who can fix my leaky faucet. I take that back...fixing the leaky faucet isn't necessary. It's better to call a plumber, anyways. And now that marriage is legal...maybe I want that, too. I hadn't really ever considered it since it was pretty much impossible. But now...I don't know...maybe...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm pretty intuitive. I'm good at gauging someone's mood (part of the contemplative observer thing I mentioned). And then still managing to say the wrong thing.

I'm good at critical thinking and analysis. I often think I should've been a lawyer. But there are just way too many lawyers. My powers of analysis are better used in other ways.

I'm also pretty good at making a dirty martini.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Recently a young woman approached me and said that she really liked my style and thought I looked like Jude Law. I've gotten the Jude Law comment a few times, although I absolutely do not see it. Must be my receding hairline and my generic any-white-man features.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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It's impossible to list a favorite in any of these categories. I'm always reading something. Being a student in my area of study requires an abundance of reading. I'm currently reading something about the French slave trade in the sixteenth century and also Rochefoucauld's Maximes.

I watch the Next Generation when I need comforting. I guess it reminds me of my childhood or something, I dunno. I loved the series "Looking" that was on HBO. It just seemed so...real. So unvarnished. That's really why I liked it. It's the first "gay" television show I've ever seen that doesn't show any kind of idealized stereotype. Right now I'm totally into re-watching Torchwood. And also Californication. David Duchovny just gets sexier the older he gets.

My taste in music is rather varied, I suppose. I'm in a big early-90s metal phase right now. "I remember you" just seems like an anthem for everything and I'm not sure why. I like to listen to fast-paced dance music when I'm running (which I do often) but I listen to Baroque while studying or working. I guess I don't really "listen" to it, it's just on in the background while I'm focusing on other things. Occasionally I do stop and listen to something, though, when it catches my attention. I guess I just like music that suits my mood. Sometimes that means The Black Keys and sometimes that means Adele and sometimes it's Madonna. (Update: I just realized that I'm a total poser for even using the word "baroque" in my profile...what an asshole!)

I will eat just about anything. At home I keep it simple, mostly vegetarian. I get Thai and Chinese take out way too often. I do crave a big juicy steak sometimes. Like at this very moment...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Never? How about the things I can't do without for now:
1. Passport
2. Saucony running shoes
3. A magnifying glass (so I can check out the details)
5. Sharpie medium point ink pens in black, green, and red
6. My phone having recently been stolen, and me having suddenly felt completely adrift in an ocean of nothingness, I must now add "iPhone" to this list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...why John Barrowman isn't my lover and what the hell I did wrong.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At a friend's house. Cooking, talking, drinking, and eating.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Private? This is the Internet. I'm pretty sure we're not doing private these days.
You should message me if
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You aren't afraid of a fickle hypocrite.