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37 M Phoenix, AZ

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Last Online
Yesterday – 6:22am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
A self-summary
It seems so arbitrary
My own summary

Haiku-ing is fun, isn't it? What can I write that would summarize me to a complete stranger? Gay pride was going on in Phoenix this weekend and I didn't go. I'm sure that says a few things about me, though I'm not sure what. I'm supposed to be working on a paper right now but I'm doing this instead. So I guess that would say that I can sometimes procrastinate. Before starting this I spent an hour cleaning out my closet. Further evidence of wanton procrastination. I use Apple products rather than Windows. Except for Word. I mean, you kind of have to, right? I like to travel. I'm going to Europe for the summer. Leaving next month (in 39 days...not that I'm counting). London first, then Paris. And then...we'll see.

What else? What else? Hmmm...I change my mind often and I don't like deciding until the very last minute whenever possible. But, I don't like it when others wait until the last minute to decide. The power of last minute decision making should rest with me alone. So, that says that I'm fickle and I'm a hypocrite. I'm also honest. I have always thought of myself as overly-emotional, but it turns out that many of my intimates think I'm emotionally reserved. So while I feel as though my emotional state is obvious, those around me can't seem to tell what I'm feeling, which has tragically lead to some people mistakenly thinking of me as frigid. I'm not. I'm a contemplative observer.
What I’m doing with my life
At this very moment, nothing that I'm supposed to be doing. In terms of the bigger picture, I'm a graduate student. I also have a job, but it's just for money. "Graduate student" paints a better picture of what's going on in my life.
I’m really good at
Not deciding where to have dinner. I really like it when someone else decides. (It's just that there's so much good food out there! How can I be expected to choose?!)

I'm pretty intuitive. I'm good at gauging someone's mood (part of the contemplative observer thing I mentioned). And then still managing to say the wrong thing.

I'm good at analysis. I often think I should've been a lawyer. But there are just way too many lawyers. My powers of analysis are better used in other ways.

I'm pretty good at making a dirty martini.
The first things people usually notice about me
Recently a young woman approached me and said that she really liked my style and thought I looked like Jude Law. I've gotten the Jude Law comment a few times, although I absolutely do not see it. Must be my receding hairline and my generic any-white-man features.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
It's impossible to list a favorite in any of these categories. I'm always reading something. Being a student in my area of study requires an abundance of reading. I just read "La symphonie pastorale" by André Gide and absolutely loved it. Also finished "Trois contes" by Gustave Flaubert and didn't like that so much. I guess I'm not a big fan of French literary realism. Although I love painterly realism (Gustave Caillebotte is one of my favorite artists). I really enjoy reading 17th and 18th century English satire. I also like more contemporary fiction. Right now I'm reading "The War of the Roses" from 1981. I saw the movie years ago and enjoyed it. I'm hoping the book is even better.

I watch the Next Generation when I need comforting. I guess it reminds me of my childhood or something, I dunno. I loved the series "Looking" that was just on HBO. It just seemed so...real. So unvarnished. That's really why I liked it. It's the first "gay" television show I've ever seen that doesn't show us any kind of idealized stereotype. I also really enjoyed (in a totally different way) True Detectives (I think that's what it's called) on HBO. Oh and of course House of Cards on Netflix.

My taste in music is rather varied, I suppose. I like to listen to fast-paced dance music when I'm running (which I do often) but I listen to Baroque while studying or working. I guess I don't really "listen" to it, it's just on in the background while I'm focusing on other things. Occasionally I do stop and listen to something, though, when it catches my attention. I guess I just like music that suits my mood. Sometimes that means The Black Keys and sometimes that means Adele and sometimes it's Madonna.

I will eat just about anything. At home I keep it simple, mostly vegetarian. I get Thai and Chinese take out way too often. I do crave a big juicy steak sometimes. Like at this very moment. (Durant's anyone...)
The six things I could never do without
Never? How about the things I can't do without for now:
1. Passport
2. Family/Friends
3. Inter Library Loan
5. Sharpie medium point ink pens in black, green, and red
6. Noise canceling headphones
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Places I'd like to visit. People I'd like to meet. I have a very active imagination and can get really lost in it sometimes.
On a typical Friday night I am
At a friend's house. Cooking, talking, drinking, and eating.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Private? This is the Internet. I'm pretty sure we're not doing private these days.
I’m looking for
  • Gay guys only
  • Ages 27–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You aren't afraid of a fickle hypocrite.