I can be serious when need be, but I'm very creative and passionate (a very feminine woman), so time spent with me is always fun as I'll keep you guessing what I'll do next! Let's laugh and enjoy life! I'm down for trying new activities. I like to plan things but can be spontaneous also. But a first meeting is usually easier planned though.
PART TIME RELATIONSHIP?
(I have copied parts from the article in Glamor Magazine by Gena Kaufman, which I have included below, "Would You Ever Go for a Part-Time Relationship?")
Most people these days have a lot going on, and plenty of them use it as an excuse to avoid the dating scene. They're extremely busy, tired and overworked.
I'm intrigued by this new solution offered by a British website: Part-time dating. Started by relationships author Helen Croydon, parttimelove.co.uk is a new site launched for those who want to find love, but not be overwhelmed with obligations. Says Croydon:
'It isn't about no-strings hook-ups, nor is it about finding The One. It is aimed at singletons who want the sparks and fireworks of a genuine love affair and the regularity of a committed partner but don't have the time for a conventional, full-time partnership. They're likely to include single parents, new divorcees, the career-focused and those who travel a lot.' Are you into the idea of a part-time relationship? Do you find yourself too busy to commit enough time to another person? Does your schedule conflict with your guys?
To be honest, when I initially clicked on the Metro article on this site, I was prepared to make fun of this. But when you put it that way, this idea actually does make sense for people with really busy or non-traditional schedules (I'm thinking on-call doctors and nurses), who can still probably find some time to date, but need someone that will be understanding of their unusual hours.
And aside from busy work schedules, I don't even hate the idea of people who just frankly don't want to spend all their time with a new partner, and who value having their own space and activities. Some people like spending all their spare time, especially at the beginning of a relationship, with their lover, and that's fine too. But it can't hurt to make it clear from the beginning how much time you're willing to devote to another person, right?
I feel most relationships are pretty much this way anyway, as both people are usually working and can't be with a person every single day and night. So both people still have their own activities on their own and/or with friends, and work schedules, and their own residences, but the key here is that they are committed to seeing their partner regularly and are exclusive with them, it's just not every day. Disease wise, I won't gamble with my body to be with a man who tests drives lots of women, he's just too risky (STDs) and I'm not that way. I'm a very passionate, playful person who loves intimacy, but only with someone I'm involved with in a part time or full time thing.
So as we all do with a partner anyway, we make the most of the time we can find together each week, whether it's a few days or more, without living together or marrying them, so we both keep our own living space.
This equates to me, as all the good parts of a relationship with spending a decent amount of time together and exclusivity, without the pressure to spend tons of time together, get marriage and have babies. If it develops into anything else then it's a bonus, but not required. ..only if we both want more.
It lasts for whatever length of time we want it to. If either wants to cheat or date others, we break up, as with any relationship. (Although I have never cheated once in my life, I won't. I'll end it first before I hurt a guy like that.)
This is what I'm looking for with the right guy. So if you can't be with just one woman and want the smorgasbord of them offered on here for a one time taste test, you're not right for me, so plz x out of my profile. I'm a wonderful entree' not just an appetizer. Of course none of this happens until we date some and determine we want this. I feel that a part time relationship is a good option to a full time one. What do you think?
I won't pressure you for the white picket fence fantasy that the 20 and 30 something breeders do, for marriage and babies (or they trap you by letting themselves get prego), or try to make you jealous and play constant games with your mind. That path doesn't interest me. I'm enjoying single life for now, until I find someone worth while for more. I'm not seeking to change you or to be changed, we're both the people we've developed into.
Being SINGLE doesn't mean you're WEAK. It means you're STRONG enough to wait for what you know you deserve and not merely to settle. Life is too short to sit on the sidelines...go ahead, take a chance.... I'm looking forward to hearing from you.... Sherri