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SpirDir

64 / F / Gay / Single

Arlington, Massachusetts

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My self-summary
Feet on ground - writing, decluttering, gardening .... some $, some not; head in clouds - nose in daffodils, red-winged blackbird on my ears ... gratitude, joy!

Spring 2009. Drive to NOLA.

Here still.
The blessings of the Creator
open before me
brush softly past.
Miles of tender touch

Tell me
How could I not
long for you?

© JAS
What I’m doing with my life
Living with joy and integrity, and making ways out of no way.

Oh Dumpster Goddess
Your steely frame holds barbed offerings
Guarded by metal and glass
You repel the advances of the timid
They did not understand your worth
- or appreciate your depth -
only revealing your treasures to we
the patient and dexterous
your worshipful scavengers
You go by many names-
Refusia,Dumpsteria, Debrisia
but in all your incarnations
one thing remains the same-
You demand a bloody tribute
before yielding up Your gifts.

© JAS
I’m really good at
Appreciating. Well mostly ....

MIDNIGHT CHOCOLATE LAYER CAKE

Midnight
chocolate
Layer Cake

I'm looking for a response
a particular reaction

eyes closing
a soft breath
nostrils flaring
the slow smile
as your blood
spreads warm
and
you remember
tasting.

© JAS
The first things people usually notice about me
I should know this, shouldn't I?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Poets: Mary Oliver, Naomi Shihab Nye, Audre Lorde,Adrienne Rich, David Whyte,Robert Bly, Hafiz, Angela Magara. More, more! Someone stop me!!

Non-fiction: PemaChodron, Starhawk, Anne Lamott, Serene Jones, Naomi Levy, Victoria Safford; Terry Tempest Williams, Janisse Ray; Michael Durall

I wish everyone would read: Portia De Rossi - Unbearable Lightness; Ex-Gay No Way by Jallen Rix; On the Edge: Political Cults Right and Left by Tourish and Wohlforth; Crisis - Growing Up Gay in America edited by Mitchel Gold; Moving Millions - How Coyote Capitalism Fuels Global Immigration - Jeffrey Kaye.

Fiction: I love mysteries by Laurie R. King (esp. the theology, and Mary Holmes being so much younger than Sherlock)and Jacqueline Winspear ( a multi-faceted main character who is sensitive to issues of social class). Did you read Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese .. (I loved the AfterBird :) Jo-Ann Mapson writes so well about women. Alexander McCall Smith - the ones set in Scotland. Of course Stieg Larsson! The youth/adult novel by Jan Donley called "The Side Door" - fabulous! And when is Dorothy Allison's She Who coming out?!!

Movies ... not so much, but The King's Speech moved me deeply. Old ones .... Notting Hill (I so identified with him!); Finding Nemo ... Ellen, more please!;those Madagascar lemurs :) Documentaries: Out in Silence; Your Mom's a Lesbian; Two Spirits; and go to his website and order Doin' Time in the Homo Nomo Halfway House by Peterson Toscano!

No TV but I watch things on my laptop: Rachel Maddow - yes!! - and Democracy Now; Bones, Body of Proof, Castle, Chuck, Lie to Me.

Music - classical, folk, country, praise. So .... Mozart, Gorecki, and Thomas Stumpf (he's alive!); the Story, The Weird sisters, Indigo Girls, Eve Cassidy, Mary Chapin Carpenter; Carolyn McDade, Jennifer Berezan, Bluegrass Gospel Project.

Food. Ah yes .... cook vegetarian peasant, sometimes fish; summer fruits are coming! Still eat meat sometimes when I go out to dinner.
The six things I could never do without
Birdsong-Nature-wonder.
Dance-movement-prayer-journey.
God-Spirit-Oneness-Love.
My heart breaking at so much unnecessary suffering.
My dearly beloved friends and community.
OK, it's true ... coffee.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Someone I care about who pretends to be fine but is suffering.
Injustice, meanness, and abuse and how it gets internalized.
How I can inspire us all to know we are truly worthy of loving and being loved.
Why won't my hibiscus flower?
Where is that patron? :)
Dear President Obama, please do the most loving thing for LGBT people, all immigrants, all people in the bottom half of the income scale, anyone who may ever be ill ......
On a typical Friday night I am
On my way home from work or meeting a friend for dinner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have felt deep despair knowing that it doesn't matter how much I love someone, I cannot save them from self-destruction.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 42–100
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You are not rule-bound or conservative, but have ethical guidelines; are kind and thoughtful ... most of the time; love yourself well enough to be able to love others. Oh, and still believe in magic, serendipity, a guiding presence ... something like that!