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41 Saint Louis, MO Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:43am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
In the interest of finding that me-appropriate girl, let me tell you a little about my interests. I have a dog and parakeets. They are the smartest pets ever, not necessarily because of anything they do, but because they listen to NPR all day while I'm at work. I'm very happy with my life and my job, once in a while I like going out to check out a new restaurant or a new exhibit somewhere; at the end of the day, I like coming home, having a great meal, watching tv or a new movie, and being a house guy. Bottom line, I'm a guy who has simple tastes and simple pleasures, who happens to also want a relationship as well as great friendships.

What I want: someone who is happy. Someone who knows the balance between being out and being at home. Someone who likes food, I love to cook. If you like spicy food, great! Someone who thinks 'How I Met Your Mother' is....wait for it....awesome television. Someone who suggests you know what would be fun for Halloween? Someone who can spontaneously prepare a road trip we both want to go on over the weekend. You like being outside, you love storms, and you prefer warm weather over cold weather. You like to read. You like animals. Liberal. The Simpsons. You've got to like brainy down-to-earth guys. You want the world to be a better place than what it is right now.

For a laugh, here is my complete list of women's dating headlines as written by me:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Back in 2008, I left my job as a cubicle monkey and went back to school to study graphic design. I finally have my dream job: I'm a project manager, web-designer, and creative writer. That's not to say I don't have my rough days but it's infinitely more rewarding than what I used to do and I love going to work facing a creative challenge.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I love to cook, and I really enjoy toiling in the garden. I love photography, and I feel I'm a great judge of character.

I make fantastic tomato soup.

Other things I love to cook: tamales, enchiladas, grilling outside, pork steaks, chicken stir fry, hamburgers with bleu cheese, chili, beef stew --- I'm always up to try a new recipe. I try to avoid processed foods and I avoid salt. One of the reasons I learned to cook is because I used to be a bit of a picky eater as a kid. I am adventurous with my recipes but im still kind of a picky eater.

Photography: I have my own digital studio and try and take an interesting photo every day. I love storms, macro photography, love light and shadow, and nature. If you want to look at my work, I'm at
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes, I think. That, or my hair. I'm preppy, even when I'm just wearing a T-shirt and trainers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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TV: Sherlock, House MD, Frasier, King of Queens, HIMYM, Scrubs, Master Chef, Gordon Ramsay, DS9, Big Bang Theory.

Books: The Modern Mind, Ideas, (both by Peter Watson), DK books, Tim Ferriss, self-improvement books (no I won't apologize for reading them), books on graphic design and photography.

Movies I'll stop and watch when I see them on TV: Braveheart, the Devil's Advocate, the Patriot (such a shame about Heath Ledger), the *original* Karate Kid trilogy.

Movies: The Dark Knight series, Iron Man, The Avengers --- I'm sure you're seeing a pattern emerging --- I also like dramas. I'm also a fan of older movies: Citizen Kane, Harold Lloyd silents, Compulsion, Arsenic & Old Lace, Patton. I missed out on seeing Argo and Lincoln in the theater (DVD, baby) and I'm looking forward to the new Superman movie coming out this summer.

Music: I love obscure folk girl singers. Kelly Buchanan (such a shame about her brain injury), Kate Micucci, Allison Weiss, Katie Herzig, Allie Moss, Jess Klein, Danielle Ate The Sandwich. I'm also a fan of Liz Phair, Green Day, the Who, John Williams scores, and classical music. Bree Sharp makes me unbelievably happy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dog, my friends and family, my iPad and other computers, and my love of learning (just discovered the Khan Academy, oh my -- I barely have time for online dating just because of that alone). :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Philosophy. I'm a rhetor. That's a fancy way of saying I believe in looking at things with an amoral eye and I definitely believe you can have multiple opinions at the same time.

I'm also a Taoist. I see evidence of God in nature and I feel whatever is at work that keeps things in balance and imprints patterns all over the universe is a mysterious wonderful thing --- something I can see with my own eyes that doesn't require a man made book of dogma.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing in one form or another. I'm absolutely in love with the fact the Art Museum stays open late on Fridays; one of my favourite past-times is to go there in the dead of winter and people watch. Then off to enjoy a hot beverage and decompress from the long work week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can't stand Garrison Keillor.

I once met a psychiatrist on here who pulled my medical records and started asking me questions only I should have known. When I called her on it, she said it wasn't unethical, people Google each other right?

I'm pretty much an open book but only with the right people. If I like you, I'll tell you almost anything you want to know.
You should message me if
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This is my area where I choose to ignore the "you should message me if" and instead impose my list of disclaimers. Don't worry, I'm not that much of an asshole.

There's a lot of pictures on online profiles of girls shooting guns. Guns freak me out. And if you think that makes me sound like a perjorative term for someone who is weak, I'll respond that my Dad was hurt from being shot with a gun. That should be all I need to say.

There are also a lot of pictures of girls in groups. Nothing wrong with that. Hey, I get it, you have friends. However, when every picture is a group shot or you a hugging a friend or sibling, you might want to clue me in from the start which one's you, because I don't know. Nothing says awkward like getting the wrong idea of what you look like from the very start.

I also don't really drink. Never really got the taste of it but I still try. As much as I say I don't judge, I kinda do. No, I don't mind you checking out wineries or having a glass with your meal, that's actually kinda fun. What I mean is all these pictures of you hanging out in bars; for me bars are hang outs for people who live and breathe sports scores, getting more obnoxious by the night, talking about my friend's attributes or things they'd like to do if I weren't around. That's probably not you and your friends but trust me, I've watched this scenario play out more times than I can count and as a result, to me the bar isn't the harmless, let your hair down place you probably think it is. So when I see you hanging out at a bar, I get a little uncomfortable. Sorry.

I'm a talker. I talk about my feelings, I feel about my talkers. Wait, that doesn't make any sense. What I'm trying to say is I think about who I am. A LOT. I'm trying to figure this whole life place thing out and it would be nice to have someone who can offer some insight into the topic. That insight thing is really important to me because it demonstrates you're thinking too and can give me a different angle on the subject. If I don't get that communication, then I start to think the whole introspective, understanding yourself and your place in it is kind of dumb. And it's not. It's really not. So I need someone who can feed my nourishment. For lack of a better explanation, someone who "gets it" because they do it too. Trust me I'd rather be alone than with someone who says I think too much. Not only can I not turn that off, but more importantly, what went wrong in your life that you decided the need to understand yourself better was pointless.'

Let's also get the fact I'm an only child out of the way. Some people audibly groan when they find that out about me and sometimes they'll follow it up with an uh-oh. First, I can't help my parents decided to leave "Quantity 1" on their financial burden cart. I grew up in a rural town as the smart kid and I'll fully admit that probably didn't make me the most well adjusted kid / grown-up out there. But I can identify with love, the need for people, the gratitude one has when you have really great people in your life, and I get really sad when sometimes I'm awkward with people in general. I don't know where awkwardness comes from or if it needs a superhero origin story, but when you associate it with me being an only child, that makes me sadder. Not only can I not do anything about it, it makes me yearn to understand what about me is broken, and try to fix it. Trust me, that's a tall order. What I also notice is that people with hordes of friends and family around them often don't understand what true isolation means. You get the feeling some of these people have never been alone before. Alone isn't necessarily a bad thing, and sometimes you need that alone time to figure shit out. So if my being an only child causes you to judge me, trust me, I'll be doing the same right back at you.

Please DON'T message me if you don't know the difference between woman and women. I'm serious, I see so many ads on here that say "I'm a single women". OMG, you're an idiot.

Speaking of idiots, which is bigger: the earth or the sun? It's THE SUN. IT'S THE SUN! IT'S THE SUN! OMG, I cannot believe how many people get this wrong. They're not trying to be funny or like, oh aren't these questions dumb, I'll answer wrong, NO, people don't know that the sun is bigger than the earth. This boggles the mind. Aren't they supposed to hold you back in school if you get something this fundamentally wrong? Come on! 108 earths lined up side by side by side can fit across the sun, DOOFUS! Look, if you answer this wrong, we're done.

Also, I type fast. I abbreviate. I absolutely know the difference between you and u. If i were writing a legal brief, or a college dissertation, I'd write 'you'. But this is the Internet and I'm not going to bust your girl balls if you transpose a letter here or there, or if you abbreviate you with u. I know, the Internet generation wants a level of smartness and this is their way of demanding it. That's great, but, if this really really upsets you, if this is a deal-breaker, then we're not going to get along. Spelling errors do annoy me, don't get me wrong, but I'm trying to meet new people, not grade anyone's homework.

If you're not interested, please just say so. I'd rather face a couple seconds of honesty than wonder.

I know you girls get tons of responses. As someone who doesn't nearly have that problem, it's really disheartening when you write a heartfelt hello, or long email trying to coax someone to banter you with you, only to see the next hour progress with the status message CuteGirl53 has just answered 1115 questions! Really? You couldn't stop for 5 seconds to tell me to go to hell, thanks.

Some of you girls ask what kind of experiences us guys have with okcupid. Here's one: I wrote this very cute and very smart girl a message, I wasn't trying to flatter, but apparently I did. She writes back, I come online to respond, and I see she's available to chat. We chat. We start to have fun talking to one another. I learn she's an exchange student, which I think is interesting, I think there's all kinds of stories to be told there. She refuses to tell me any details beyond sending me an email that says her name, address, and exchange student. Happy? She tells me she's hungry, I tell her I've already eaten, not taking the hint. We talk some more, I look at her profile to look at her picture, read some more about her, you know to see what else I may have missed to talk about with her. She sees me looking at her profile and accuses me of not believing she is who she says she is. Weird right? I explain myself but I don't think she believes me. She says quote: "if you don't believe me in anything, so skip and go to th next page/lady and "when you started cheking me, your sunshine gone... ". Suffice it to say, she's annoyed, she doesn't like me asking about where she's from, we go back to talking about dinner and it's never clear if she wants me to take her out, so I just ask if that's what she wants. We agree, she's still annoyed that I'm not there yet, she gives me an address, I go. I don't have her phone number so I trust it'll work itself out. It's almost 9pm at this point and I have to get ready, get gas, drive 20 minutes --- she has no car and is, I think, at her workplace (because when I asked her to clarify if the address was her work or her home, she goes, oh you're that kind of guy). I get there, it's at a facility where it's not clear where to park (or you have to enter a code to enter their private parking area), I had to park 2 blocks to find a place that ultimately, I wasn't comfortable leaving my car. I walk in the cold to her building, go on the elevator, get off on her floor, and find only an entrance, blocked by a glass wall and a glass security door with no clear intercomm. Again, she's not given me her number, not agreed to meet somewhere specific, I don't have a smartphone so I can't message her --- I just go back home. I get home, and I explain this. She says "what the hell?" but later apologizes, she didn't know. What she didn't know is never clear. Then she tells me while she was waiting, she got a letter, that one of her peers is disappointed in her. She's going to go, she's very sad. Good-bye. Fast forward two days to today. It's 2:28pm and while I'm in a business meeting, my ipad goes off. I check and it's her. She says: "Hello, how are you doing this Friday? I was thinking of you ;) " --- So I figure I'll talk with her later. Near the end of the day, around 5 --- I'm getting ready to leave work; I quickly check my email, and I check OKC again, it's still logged in from when I checked it at 2. Before long she sends me 2 more messages: "Welcome, we all are waiting for you. Okupid stuckers." --- 4:56pm and "oops! you decided to avoid me. as you wish. have a nice weekend!" -- 5:17pm. To this girl, I just want to say thank you for an awesome story to add to my profile.