Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
It was about time I overhauled this profile and started over! It's
still me, obviously, but I've pared things down a little and made
Politically, I'm an anarchist. I have profoundly egalitarian ideals
and spent several years involved in activist projects, union work,
and collectively running an anarchist bookstore/library. After a
few years' respite, I'm taking stock of where I'm at and where to
direct my limited energy.
I consider myself genderqueer and I tend to be interested in men. I
lost interest in sex for a few years, but I've recently begun to
rediscover it. If we have the right chemistry, then I'm open to
exploring that. I enjoy (negotiated) power-play and identify as a
I'm polyamorous: I believe one can love multiple people and
maintain multiple ongoing, loving, committed relationships. This
doesn't mean all my relationships look the same; it means that I'm
open to exploring various kinds of connections with new people and
I do not treat dating as a stepping stone toward monogamy. If you
are currently partnered, please understand that I am not interested
in becoming an accessory to your relationship. I am not into
hierarchical poly configurations, which tend to treat non-primary
partners as disposable, and I don't do vetoes or DADT. I do want to
build romantic relationships and intimate friendships (lovers,
playmates, cuddle-buddies) with single and paired people who
recognize me as an equal participant in the decisions that affect
me. I am interested in building life partnerships, but recognize
that those connections are rare.
I finally read the new poly book More Than Two: A practical guide
to ethical polyamory, and it is easily the most interesting and
useful thing I've read on the subject thus far. If you need further
convincing, it includes references to Emma Goldman, Neil deGrasse
Tyson, *and* Douglas Adams! 'nuf said.
What I’m doing with my life
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After spending too many years in school pursuing degrees in
subjects that no longer brought me joy, I decided to try my hand at
organic farming. I'm currently farming a small plot of rented land
in the city but I'm not sure if I'll be able to make it a viable
long-term thing. Essentially, I'm trying to find a balance between
my values and paying the bills, but in a way that doesn't bore,
hurt, or exhaust me. I'm considering attending library school in
2016 to build a solid Plan C.
I love to grow, cook, preserve, and find creative ways to prepare
food. I've worked in health food retail, sold my own produce and
homemade preserves, and worked on organic farms. I have a couple of
food-related jobs that shift with the seasons. My free time usually
involves hanging out with friends, playing my banjo or manjo,
cooking/canning/dehydrating food, or working on a variety of
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Critical thinking while also being very open-minded. Reading books
while walking. Empathy.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My tattoos, usually. Also, my eyes and the fact that I'm always
smiling. I've been told that I have a "sunny" personality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anything by Ivan E. Coyote, Dean Spade, or Douglas Adams. I
feel drawn to material from/about the Appalachian region, such as
works by Harriette Simpson Arnow and Mary Noailles Murfree. I like
a lot of nonfiction as well, including Emma Goldman's "Living my
Life" and various works on anarchist theory & practice (esp.
Cindy Milstein), alternative relationships, discussions of
gender/sexuality/queer issues, alternative mental health, prison
abolition, some labour history, transformative justice, food
politics... Oh, and Pride & Prejudice & Zombies.
Movies/TV: I'm a sap for terrible rom-coms, and I really like
British humour, sci-fi comedy, zombie and apocalyptic themes, and
the occasional documentary.
Music: I'm generally pretty fond of DIY folk-punk, punk, folk,
bluegrass... I love banjo music so much. Saves the Day and Chopin
will always hold a special place in my heart.
Webcomics: xkcd, Homestar Runner (esp. Teen Girl Squad!), and
sometimes PhD Comics.
Podcasts: Poly Weekly, The Ruminant, Vinyl Cafe, Grownups Read
Things They Wrote as Kids, Tell Me Something Good...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I don't like this question. I devour audiobooks and podcasts while
farming, so that's important...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Food. Prefigurative politics & practice. The state of the
world. Consent & boundaries. Accountability.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not private about this at all, but in 2008 I had my tubes tied
to guarantee that I will never bear children. Thank fucking
I should also mention that I have a pretty terrible memory. I can
usually remember how I felt about a book I've read or a movie I've
seen, but it's pretty unlikely that I'd be able to synopsize it for
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're welcome to message me if you think we might hit it off or
find some sort of special connection, but I tend to ignore and/or
delete (and/or troll) obnoxious or canned messages.
I want more people in my life who are trying to become the best
possible versions of themselves, especially in terms of how they
treat other people. My Myers-Briggs personality type is INFJ, which
means I pretty much have a built-in asshole- and bullshit-radar and
prefer to spend my time with people who are honest, caring,
genuine, sincere, etc...
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