I have to admit that I don't actually know how to date. My tendency has been to fall into long-term relationships with good friends, so dating seems like an entirely different world to me. I'll appreciate your patience as I stumble along!
I keep having to revise this paragraph to reflect some convergence of what I desire and what I actually have time for. I've read much about polyamoury and it appears to encompass the relationship styles that best fit my desires and my understandings of life and love. Even so, I'm still relatively new to poly in practice. I believe one can love multiple people at the same time; I believe friendships can include varying degrees of intimacy, including romantic, sensual, and/or sexual components; and I believe there are many relationship styles in between and around these that are equally worthy of recognition and respect. More than anything, I am committed to poly's ethical orientation. I have recently begun coming to terms with the fact that I'm really not all that interested in sex, and am finding reflections of myself in writings by the asexual community.
Though I hesitate to put too much stock in documents that single out one individual as representative of an entire movement or lifestyle, I still find this interview about asexuality to be pretty amazing. The second half, in particular, really speaks to me: http://therumpus.net/2011/08/the-rumpus-interview-with-david-jay-star-of-the-new-documentary-asexual/
This is one of the best pieces I've ever read on polyamoury, and I strongly encourage you to give it a whirl: http://www.makezine.enoughenough.org/newpoly2.html
I should also mention that my politics are pretty anarchistic--I won't stand for any racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, classist, ableist, sizist, or otherwise oppressive "jokes" or comments, so if that's your kind of humour then don't bother to contact me. That being said, I also recognize that nobody is perfect and that we all make mistakes and errors in judgement--myself included. As someone who is always trying to be a better person, I want to be informed (gently) if I say or do problematic things, and I expect my friends and partners to be equally open to it.