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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
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Doesn’t want kids

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My self-summary
Thanks for checking out my profile! Here are some things you might want to know: I'm not going bald, I'm really fun, and I don't require medication to maintain my sanity. I also have two super powers 1. I stay fit without worrying about what I eat or exercising. 2. I don't get hangovers. These things often amaze and annoy people at the same time.

How about something a bit more serious for paragraph two… I'm originally from the midwest but have been on the west coast for about 10 years. My degree is in art/design but I work with a bunch of accountants doing geeky computer stuff. I appreciate honest, positive, caring people. I'd like a committed relationship but if you just want to be friends that's good too. We'll start there anyways. If you want to know more send a random get-to-know-you question my way!
What I’m doing with my life
I reject this category and substitute my own! I think this should be a mini blog. Todays entry is:

March 3rd, 2014
I've given a girl I know the nickname "horrible". I know that's mean, but I think you'll understand why after reading this.

Horrible is currently dating a guy who's 5'7" and 140 lbs. He's small, but since she's 5'2" and 120 it should be OK right? Wrong. His size makes her feel fat. Still, she says she loves him and wants to be with him. You might think she'd try dieting and exercise to loose weight. Or you might think she'd learn to accept herself the way she is and love her boyfriend the way he is. Nope. She's making him bulk up with steroids. When he protested by asking "Aren't steroids toxic and really harmful to your health?" she replied "These are the least toxic ones available. Just take them!" Horrible, you're horrible.

Dumb things I've said to women - episode 4:
"Gross! Call an escort service!"

March 3rd, 2014
The worst enemy of a mini blog could be boringness. In my case it's lazyness. Life throws lots of blogging fodder my way but, lately, instead of writing I just took a nap. No more! Today you're getting not one but TWO blog entries!

Late last year a good friend said to me "Steve, I feel like I need to be married. Will you marry me?" Uh... OK, what the hell. Facebook status updated and somehow she felt better. About a week later I visited a friend who blurted out "Steve, let's get married!" then jumped up to give me a leg wrapping hug. This girl had three boyfriends but OK, what the hell. Another week and another friend decided she didn't want to be left out. "Steve, can I be you wife too?" Might as well pile the crazy a little higher... OK, what the hell. Of course these "marriages" didn't last, but I'm wondering why did they start in the first place? I'm pretty sure it's not my new cologne. Ever felt like you needed to be married?

December 10th, 2013
Is almost Christmas! Santa is going to get me a membership to E-Harmony this year. And by Santa I mean a girl I dated a while back. Have you ever used E-Harm? What did you think? I was in a consumer study about dating websites once and E-Harm was the sponsor (which I didn't know at the time). In short, they were trying to see how people felt about a dating site algorithm picking someone for them. Everyone was, in a word, skeptical. I'm pretty sure they didn't need a study to learn that. Anyway, I think Santa wants me to try it because she wants to try it. Does that seem a little weird? Does it seem weirder than someone calling their ex Santa? ;-)

September 28th, 2013
Tell me what you think about this dating story... Years ago I met a girl on-line. We didn't date at that time but when we did recently here's how it went: First she wanted to see me occasionally. Then she didn't want to see me at all for a year. A few weeks later she wanted to take me to Vegas for the weekend. After that she said we would never work together but still wanted me to call her daily and see her as much as possible. Then she told me she was going to go out with someone she had been e-mailing on OKC and I had to convince her that she and I were going to work out because she knew things were going to go well with him even though she hadn't met him yet. It didn't work out and now she wants to see me again.

And on that note I think we should have another episode of...

Dumb things I've said to women - episode 3:
"I know nothing but booze and bra."

September 18th, 2013
Big news dating blog followers! After exchanging a bunch of messages with a gal I asked her to meet for a drink. She replied with an enthusiastic "Yes please and when?!" Then she sent me her schedule, I picked a place, and logged on to tell her the deets. Except I couldn't because her profile was deactivated. That's odd... Must have been a glitch in some OKC algorithm ;-)

August 25th, 2013
Dumb things I've said to women - Episode 2:
"Are you my arch nemesis?"

As a side note, I'm not driving to Burning Man on the Sunday before Labor Day for the first time in 7 years. I decided to stay home and go on an OKC date instead. And I don't have a date yet so you better message me. Right now!

August 4th, 2013
In this blog I occasionally quote things women have written me. Things they probably shouldn't have said if they wanted a reply. Today I thought I'd turn the tables and post something I've written. And I'll take it out of context with no explanation so it sounds as bad as possible.

Dumb things I've said to women - Episode 1:
"My pubes are out of control. Can you shave them for me?"

July 11th, 2013
"You sound like a douche bag!" This is what a close friend thought when she read my profile. It was good to hear. Of course she went on to say I'm not a douche bag in real life. Much the opposite, but apparently that doesn't come across. Another gal friend suggested I remove a couple pics. In one I was shirtless and a girl was drinking from a straw by my crotch. I'll admit, it was douche-ish. But it was funny and the same gal admitted I looked hot. The other pic wasn't douche-ish. She said it just wasn't a good pic of me and I agreed that I should say douche douche douche douche douche in this paragraph as many times as possible ;-)

May 30th, 2013
Did you see my new pics? It was about time for an update. And apparently it was a good update since I've heard "Snap! You're handsome!" And "Gosh you're pretty" after adding them. I'm not sure pretty is the best compliment for a guy but it was still a sweet thing to say. Most of the new pics are from a recent trip to Las Vegas. That place always strikes me as odd... Sort of like if aliens abducted you and created a simulated city so they could study you in your natural environment. Close, but somehow not right.

April 16th, 2013
OK Cupid DOs and DO NOTs:

If you're not feeling well and can't go on the date you have planned, DO NOT give your phone to a friend and ask them to politely cancel/reschedule for you via text. This will result in your message not being received due to an incorrect phone number. After you correct the phone number issue, this will also result in a ridiculous picture of you in a two piece, green velvet outfit being sent to your former date.

If you've been messaging someone as friends but haven't met them yet, DO suggest that you meet for drinks when they tell you a close friend is visiting from out of town for the weekend. This will result in laughs and good conversation. This will also result in a meandering cab ride to a warehouse party where you can introduce them to other fun friends and keep them dancing until way past their bed time.

March 26th, 2013
Do you remember that song I Don't Want To Miss A Thing by Aerosmith? A classic buttrock ballad. When I heard it the other day it made me want to watch Armageddon, or as I like to call it "the most unrealistic movie ever made". I think a bunch of scientists from bizzaro world wrote that script. Still a fun flick though. I watched it and found myself laughing on cue and crying at a couple of the cheesy sad parts. But never mind that. You're here to read about OK Cupid and I have news! A date is near! This is becoming an annual tradition since my only other real OKC date was about this time last year. So as is traditional, wish me luck. Or better yet, guess the mini blog movie connection and I'll tell you if the luck you wished me was good or bad!

January 22nd, 2013
This site never ceases to entertain in multiple ways. Just recently I got a message from a woman who couldn't believe I was on this site for 6 months before getting a date. And when I asked her why she thought that was, she wrote me a considered and honest reply. We'll see if that conversation continues but nice gal either way :-) On the other end of the spectrum I got a message from a woman who begged for a picture of my ass. I normally wouldn't quote a message directly but this chick seemed like the stalker type who's probably reading this right now and laughing about it. "I want a picture of your ass, since I was already looking forward to ogling it and I feel cheated. I'll totally send you a picture of my breasts for you to stare at. It will be just like a romantic first date, only just the staring at each others bits part and not much else. C'mon...pleeeeaase? I have really nice breasts! They're totally stare-worthy!" In her defense, she wrote about deeper subjects as well. What I really appreciated is that she made a genuine effort, even if it was a little… whatever you call that.

December 10th, 2012
My first hate mail! I never thought about on-line date hate before but somehow my profile really upset a girl. She made it very clear she would not want to be my wife because if she became paralyzed I wouldn't drive her to the hospital or help with the medical bills. She said a lot of other things too. "I think you're shallow" sums it up. Sorry! Do words make me a bad guy or was she having a bad day?

October 11th, 2012
It's my 1 year OK Cupid anniversary! Well, give or take a few weeks. I don't remember exactly when I signed up. How has it gone over the year? Here are the stats… I've met 4 women. Two were dates (one of which only lasted 5 minutes thank God), one recognized me at a club and said hi, one I met as friends and we're still friends after almost a year. I'm going to see her tomorrow as a matter of fact. I get a lot of e-mails I don't want just like everyone does I suppose. I've sent messages to 54 women total either initiating or replying. And I've seen 3 profiles that genuinely peaked my interest. One wrote me a very nice reply saying we weren't a match, one didn't write back at all, and one I haven't e-mailed yet even though I found her months ago. So what do you think? How does your last year compare? I think it's time for change and, despite a number of compliments, I'm going to rewrite my profile. Something more direct. And more brief! Have you seen the length of that thing? Sheesh… Does this guy think I spend all day on this site?

September 8th, 2012
Back from a burn filled with wonder, joy, sadness and the unexpected. And after all that I think it's time for a date. Are you cute, smart and fun? E-mail me!

August 3rd, 2012
I decided to stay in tonight. I'm about to watch an old movie called 12 Monkeys with Bruce Willis and Brad Pitt. But tomorrow I need to be productive because the man burns in less than a month. OK, gotta go. Bruce is wearing a plastic suit, he just put a cockroach in a jar and now he's being attacked by a giant bear.

May 10th, 2012
Not much activity on OK Cupid lately... I did get a reply from a from a gal who said she didn't want to meet me because she was overwhelmed by the online dating process. She also said her Midwestern politeness compelled her to reply even though she wasn't interested. If she does that with everyone no wonder she's overwhelmed! How about you? Are you feeling overwhelmed? Perhaps from reading all my babbling? :-)

March 13th, 2012
It's my birthday! I had an epic 40th bash on Saturday with all my friends, international DJs, performance art and good times that went on until morning. You may have been there too. Did you see a guy in the VIP room wearing a tux? That was me. Did you see a guy wearing a t-shirt with red furry letters? That was me too :-) And... I've got my first ever OK Cupid date tomorrow. Wish me luck!

February 6th, 2012
Should I lie about my age? I ask this because a friend of mine who's on this site complained that she wasn't meeting the kind of guys she wanted. She subtracted a decade and seems to be having much better luck. What do you think? If she meets someone and they're both happy does the lie matter?

December 29th, 2011
Tomorrow I fly to LA for the weekend. Should be a great time! I'll be meeting up with a few friends and going to the NYE DDP ( I'm sure I'll have OK Cupid locals up and running on my iPhone so feel free to find me and say hi.

December 13th, 2011
Last week I saw Sting at the Paramount. Great show! He played a lot of lesser known songs I hadn't heard in concert before and there were no flashy theatrics to detract from the music. Sting tends to poke his head forward chicken dance style when he's walking on stage. Seems odd for an international music icon… This Friday I'm going to see Guns N' Roses which I'm sure will be just the opposite of Sting. I'm expecting a lot of sparkly lights, explosions, profanity and bikini chicks. Should be awesome :-)

November 23rd, 2011
It's been 1 month since I joined OkCupid. How's it going? I've contacted 6 women and received 3 replies. Some of my messages were pretty lame so I don't blame you for not writing back :-) 17 women have contacted me and I've replied to 4 of them. I've also met two women in person - both on the same day. With one, we had planned to meet as friends. The other came to the same club and recognized me. Yes, it was kind of weird. Anyway, for now I'd say it's going less than OK, Cupid. Wanna send me a message and change that?

November 15th, 2011
My first log-in in a week and 6 new messages to welcome me. Not sure if that's a lot or a little but most don't say very much. Usually it's something like "you sound interesting" or "I like your profile". That's not much to go on… I don't need your life story but a little more would be nice :-) Have any of you been to All kinds of nerdy data about dating put into cool charts and graphs over there. I highly recommend it. Lastly, a note about friends. I like 'em! I started a conversation with a gal by saying I didn't think we'd get along dating and we've been chatting for a few weeks now. Looks like she could be a potential new friend. Maybe you could be too :-)
I’m really good at
Not being too concerned about what I'm writing here.
Making nachos.
Forgetting my dreams when I'm sure I'll remember them.
Being there for my friends.
Entertaining you.
The first things people usually notice about me
A few people have said my arms but normally it's my eyes. I was at a party once when a girl came up to me, got in my face and said YOU HAVE THE MOST AMAZING BLUE EYES! I took a couple steps back and said thanks before walking into the other room.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm just about finished reading Life of Pi. Before that it was The Field by Lynne McTaggart. I usually prefer independent short films. One fav is called How To Get Laid which actually isn't about getting laid. A couple friends were in it. Click if you're curious. TV is usually binge watching on Netflix. I think Magic City will be next. I also like dorky old sci-fi shows from when I was young like Dr. Who or Star Trek. My musical tastes are eclectic. I usually don't like rap, country or classical. I like house music and a couple of my buddies DJ around here regularly. For food, I'd say Paseo, Pecos Pit and The Kingfish Cafe.
The six things I could never do without
I think there are way more than 6 of these things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The things I haven't checked off my mental to do list yet.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out somewhere... I'm pretty active. I've been trying to stay in more lately. Just come out with me sometime and I'll show you what a Friday night is like.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Let's change this to the negative qualities I'm willing to admit. I'm not embarrassed about them and if you're cool you'll find out about them sometime anyway. I have a little gray hair. I bite my nails sometimes. I've actually made a friend vomit with one of my farts. I'm lazy and unmotivated at the office sometimes. Once in a while I can be too much fun. You'll probably catch me staring at your breasts on our first date. I'll always tell you the truth but sometimes I don't always feel like talking so you might have to work for it. And many more such things you're sure to have a great time discovering.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You want a new friend (regular or boy).

You like what's above and could be described by what's below…

You're local. I probably won't respond if you're from the Philippines or other such far away places.

You don't want kids. I'm not completely opposed but If you're dead set on a family you should probably move on.

You're youthful. Most of my friends are about 10 years younger than me. They seem to have more energy. I've dated older women though. My last girlfriend was 5 years older but you'd never know it. Plus I think she was a vacuum in a past life.

You're the right size. At 6' and 170 lbs I'm not a big guy and if a girl is too big it just doesn't feel right. Know what I mean? This is sort of like girls not wanting guys that are shorter than them. If you want numbers I'd say probably under 5'10" and under 140 but if it feels right we'll know :-)

You like my pictures. Looks aren't everything but it'll be a lot better if you don't have to turn off the lights and imagine someone else.

You have some duality. You're sweet and caring, yet seductive and naughty. You're candid and open, yet leaves something new for me to discover. You value what I believe, but have your own beliefs and won't alter them on a whim.

You're not materialistic or judgmental.

You're honest and open-minded.

You're independent. If you need to borrow one of my craptacular cars, are usually short on cash or otherwise can't take care of the basics in our society I'm probably not going to be interested.

You've got a positive outlook and see the good in things :-)

You're fun! I like girls who are outgoing and have an energy that makes me smile even if I'm not in the mood. Spontaneity and a sense of adventure are great. Maybe some aggressiveness and unpredictability too.

I'd say the things above are qualities I have. I hope you'll also have some differences you're willing to share.

Still here? Then you should message me!