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58 Seattle, WA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 42–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:21pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from law school
Politics / Government
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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What do you look for when you read these descriptions? Someone who likes what you like? Does that really tell you what you need to know about someone you might want to date? Probably for most people. Me, I want to know how she thinks, what makes her smile, laugh, or cry. I am less interested in whether she wants to accompany me on a hike, to a concert, or at an ethnic restaurant than I am in how much of herself, "good" and "bad," she will share with me or want me to share of myself. Whether we can be who we truly are with each other. Exactly the sort of thing you cannot discern from a 1500 word essay.

So for those of you who are looking for me to expand on the laundry list of my attributes and interests in the other sections of this profile, you will be disappointed. Indeed, you no doubt have already stopped reading and gone on to the next one. And that's okay because we are not what each other wants, and it's better to know that sooner than later.

But I will say that there is far more to me than can be captured here. I am warm and passionate but can find it challenging to be present. I often laugh and occasionally cry. I am articulate, intelligent, and well educated yet not always smart. I am understanding, sensitive, empathetic, I seek to heal, and I crave touch but -- actually there is no "but" to those aspects of me. I enjoy being around people (particularly one on or in small groups) and I need and relish my time alone. I use humor quite a bit in professional and social situations (which you may find hard to credit based on what I have written here), and I have moments when I am serious and intense (which should not be difficult at all to believe). I love to write creatively (currently have a young adult novel in progress) while devoting most of my writing to legal and policy issues. And I just did what I said I wouldn't do.

I am complex and multi-faceted, full of what may appear to be internal contradictions, yet at the same time my primary desire (after being the best parent I can be) is simple, if elusive: I want a relationship with my best friend; someone with whom we can be ourselves yet challenge and inspire each other to be more than we are; a woman who takes my breath away, who I cannot pass in the hall without touching, and who feels the same way about me.

A final note in the interests of full disclosure -- the dog in one of my pictures really is as cute as he looks (although he is full grown now), but he is not mine. Shameless, I know. But consistently inconsistent.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am working for the state in a job where I make a difference in people's lives; being the best parent I can be to my middle school-aged daughter, by unfortunate necessity on a part-time basis; exercising both my creativity and my body (generally not simultaneously) to the extent time allows; hoping to find someone to share my life who will share her life with me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening without judging; thoughtfulness; writing, notwithstanding what I have written in this profile; I would like to say being a father, but I too often fall short of my parenting aspirations; being too hard on myself on occasion (see previous statement); my job.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My warmth. Even animals notice. I can't count the number of times a dog or cat has shown me affection and his/her owner has said, "He/she is never like that with strangers!" I am a genuinely nice guy (even though that tends to be the kiss of death on dating sites, regardless of what women say they want) but with an edge that I generally do not let people see -- the legacy of having moved around so much as a child (14 different houses by the time I was 16) and surviving by learning to fit in.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love reading fiction, recent favorites include A Prayer for Owen Meany, The Shadow of the Wind, and The Fault in Our Stars, although no one can approach Shakespeare for his use of language.

In movies, I tend to like romantic comedies, drama, animation, and action/adventure, with favorites such as Shakespeare in Love, When Harry Met Sally, How to Train Your Dragon, Braveheart, Avatar, Pirates of the Caribbean, Legends of the Fall, and Sliding Doors.

I don't watch television (except for the occasional sporting event or the Presidential debates), although I liked Seinfeld and Friends back in the day, and the couple of episodes of the The Big Bang Theory I have seen online were funny. I don't see much live theatre because I am generally disappointed with the quality (having trained as an actor, I have a heightened sense of -- and little patience for -- bad or even mediocre acting, which is easier to hide in films).

I like a variety of music, particularly classical (especially Mozart, Haydn, and Beethoven), folk (Kate Rusby, Dar Williams, the Rankins), rock (Alanis Morrissette is amazing, although somewhat less now that she is happy -- great art tends to require a fair amount of suffering), soundtracks (Some Kind of Wonderful, Pirates of the Caribbean, Shakespeare in Love), and the eclectic or miscellaneous (Enya, the Chieftans, Frank Sinatra). But I love to discover new music (which when I find something that strikes a responsive chord I will often listen to over and over again), so I am open to listening to -- indeed anxious to hear -- music that others like.

I enjoy most kinds of food from the standard American fare to various European, Asian, and ethnic cuisines (with a special fondness for French, Italian, and Mexican). But I am game to try just about anything.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love in all manifestations
Every other emotion
Beauty in all forms
Connection of all types
Chocolate of all varieties
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why . . . .
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't have typical Friday nights. I have done something different on each of the last few Friday nights, including making dinner and watching a movie with my daughter; making dinner and watching a movie by myself; meeting with my book club; working late; writing my novel; going out to dinner with a friend; and going to the symphony on my own (I love classical music and am not going to refrain from enjoying concerts simply because I don't have someone to accompany me).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can think of nothing I would not be willing to tell someone who genuinely wants to know, although the depth of what I say will depend on my relationship with the person to whom I am speaking.
You should message me if
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you have read my entire profile and feel as if you could have written much of what I said about yourself. Especially if you could have written it better.