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29 M Portland, OR

My Details

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Today – 8:57am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I take hedonism seriously. I want to drink life from a fire hose. I want to find my limits and push them. I cherish new experiences, I'm infatuated with being outside of my comfort zone. I want strong passions to overload my natural tendency to intellectualize my feelings. I want to meet people with whom I might explore new territory.
What I’m doing with my life
Living! I used to be more driven by professional goals, but at some point my type A personality led me to near my breaking point and I started slowing down and enjoying the moment more and worrying about tomorrow less. In part, this was motivated from a few years of working in healthcare with a very ill population. People dying all around you really makes you think about what life is all about. I've finished a B.S. in Washington before moving to Portland, and one day I will go back to school for a masters and hopefully beyond. My life is full of biking and hiking and enjoying my family and listening to music and making music and sadly, working too many hours.
I’m really good at
Trying to say something simple using at least three times the amount of words needed by most normal people to express the same sentiment.
The first things people usually notice about me
If I'm working: how fast I'm moving, multitasking, and talking.
If I'm biking: how fast I just passed you and the massive legs I've got to help me do that.
If I'm drunk: how much I love to ramble on, usually steering any conversation towards philosophy, ethics, or science.
If you're an astute and erudite OKC user: probably my appreciation of the oxford comma despite my other linguistic transgressions.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Science non-fiction & philosophy. Bertrand Russell, Stephen Pinker, Dan Dennett, Michael Shermer, Jared Diamond, Jennifer Hecht, Pete Singer.
Voltaire's Candide means a lot to me.
Fiction-wise I love Vonnegut, Tom Robbins, Anthony Burgess, Camus. Hemmingway's Old Man and the Sea means a lot to me.
Movies: Eraserhead, Dancer in the Dark, Terry Gilliam's Brazil, Jacob's Ladder, Waking Life, Requiem for a Dream, Pink Floyd's The Wall, Yodok Stories. You could say that I generally stick to simple, feel-good movies.
Music: Lately a lot of RJD2, Frank Zappa, The Mountain Goats, and Woody Guthrie have been on rotation at my house. I need loud music to keep sane. I have a few hundred records, around 100 gb of mp3's. I would love to exchange music with you.
The six things I could never do without
I've had this old Della Reese record for over 10 years - The Story of the Blues. It's still one of my favorite albums. When I didn't have a working turntable at home I would bring it to university and listen to it in the library's basement. Won't you let me share it with you?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The mind-body problem. Humanist ethics. How to improve myself. How to sublimate my catholic guilt into something useful. How to live the good life. Social immobility. The problem of evil. The meaning of life. What my next hiking/biking adventure should be. How to be a better dad/partner/citizen/sentient being. How I miss being part of a triad and am afraid I might not find myself within another. How much I miss playing in a band. How I guess I don't have the free time for friends anyway. Kink.
On a typical Friday night I am
Stabbing people with needles. Scrubbing blood off of walls. Pounding on people's chests. Staying up till 8am Saturday. Washing my hands 250 times. Trying not to be bothered by the stink of B.O., shit, vomit, bleach, or halitosis. Once in a while however, I have a Friday night off.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit

When I left NY, I sent a girl I had a crush on my paperback copy of Dostoevsky's The Idiot. In the middle of it I had highlighted a single sentence. I never got a reply. Too much of my life is like that story and it's often my fault.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
- You want to go for a bike ride sometime. The more challenging the better.
-You want to jam with a casual, amateur musician, listen to some records, or try to expand my horizons with new music.
-You want to go hiking the gorge or Mt Hood with me and you can keep up.
-You're poly friendly and able to communicate your needs clearly.
-You think you know what's up with my username.
-You have an old NES we can sit around and play.
-You're looking for a natural contrarian to play devil's advocate on the topic of your choosing.