I'm playful, passionate, emotionally accessible!
Curiosity intact. Resourceful, healthy, active.
Zany (this is a good 'zany').
I love to be in nature. Including the
wilderness we call cities.
Je ne parle pas français.
My strengths lie in bringing people to themselves. Facilitating understanding until alignment and coherence occurs. All outer conflict starts from within. The resolution of all conflict occurs in the calm eye of the storm. I'm here to uplift people, to co-create a shifting of the ground of Being.
Language for most people most of the time is a series of cliches. Browsing through the galleries of OKCupid is peering into successive windows of the desire of awakening into truth.
Although I don't look at male profiles, I do believe I'm viewing the more colorful half the rainbow.
If you have no idea what I'm saying so far, we probably are not a match.
I believe we are here on Earth to have fun, to experience joy, to continually achieve and then reach for new goals.
My goal here is to find one woman, the right one, and then
begone forever from this "modern" phenomenon of the online dating site.
I'm trustworthy and don't act my age!
Being positive in outlook, I understand the value of disciplined thinking (which we must do, given all the gunk in our minds and in culture in general).
There's no moment when our thought is not busy creating our future NOW.
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an alternate view below:
Conversation between OKCupid (a female staff
person, hereafter called OKC) and StarbuckJ
(hereafter referred to as JS):
OKC: "What are you doing here on this site?"
JS: "Looking for a lover and best friend."
OKC: "Pretty much everyone is looking for that."
JS: "Yup, I know. With a few variations here and there."
OKC: "Is it important to 'put your best foot forward'?"
JS: "Certainly. This is a game of impressions, first impressions. Plus, the way it works for women is different than the way it works for men."
OKC: "How so?"
JS: "Well, women tend to make decisions more by feeling, while men do so by thinking. Which doesn't mean women don't think or men don't feel, but it's just referring to the dominant modality in each case."
OKC: "Does this lead to misunderstandings between the two genders?"
JS: "Yup. That John G. guy wrote that Mars and Venus book years ago. And there have been many other presentations of this dynamic. But guys, I know since I am one, are always being confused about the signals they get from girls, and so they clam up, and then girls think that guys are unemotional and distant and wish they, the guys, would talk to them, the girls, more."
OKC: "Isn't that an oversimplification?"
JS: "Of course! But why don't you ask me something else?"
OKC: "Do a lot of people get it right, this coupling thing?"
JS: "Sure. And an awful lot of the people on this site have had a lot of success already, even in their so-called 'failed' relationships. Then, also, there are those who were happily married and are now widowed."
OKC: "Talk about honesty."
JS: "Honesty is overrated."
OKC: "Huh?"
JS: "How about if I change the subject instead? How about if I tell you what a great lover I am?"
OKC: "No, please..."
JS: "I could talk about attraction, what it is for women."
OKC: "OK."
JS: "For women, it's just a feeling, an impression, a sense that they feel and they usually feel it right away, in a split millisecond after seeing or meeting the guy. Although, sometimes it kind of evolves and then all of a sudden, she notices that she's attracted. And it all happens without a lot of thought or analysis, even though there could have been fifty million thoughts going on the whole time. And, of course, really attractive women, oh, I change my mind - I won't talk about really attractive women, who cares about them. It's only the one I'm attracted to that matters. It's fascinating, this whole business, don't you think?"
OKC: "Do you golf or fish or play tennis?"
JS: "Not much. So far at least."
OKC: "Do you work out and take care of yourself?"
JS: "Yeah. I'm very active. D'ya wanna see my chest?"
(starts pulling his shirt up)
OKC: "NO!!!! (looking down and blushing, resisting a smile)
But tell me, what do you do for a living?"
JS: "I'm a therapist and life coach."
(tucking his shirt back in)
OKC: "You mean a psychotherapist?"
JS: "Yup."
OKC: "What else do you do? What interests you?"
JS: "Standing on my head, as in the yoga pose. Also, becoming immersed in the wilderness."
OKC: "Did you vote?"
JS: "Yes, how about you?"
OKC: "What else should women know about you?"
JS: "How about if we make a plan to meet again later and I'll answer that and other questions? I have to get ready now to go see some clients."
OKC: "OK. When can we meet again?"
JS: "Here's my card with contact info. When's good for you?"
(OKC is seen handing JS her contact info)
TO BE CONTINUED.................
Today's koan, for you to contemplate: THERE HAS NEVER BEEN A BETTER TIME THAN NOW!
Curiosity intact. Resourceful, healthy, active.
Zany (this is a good 'zany').
I love to be in nature. Including the
wilderness we call cities.
Je ne parle pas français.
My strengths lie in bringing people to themselves. Facilitating understanding until alignment and coherence occurs. All outer conflict starts from within. The resolution of all conflict occurs in the calm eye of the storm. I'm here to uplift people, to co-create a shifting of the ground of Being.
Language for most people most of the time is a series of cliches. Browsing through the galleries of OKCupid is peering into successive windows of the desire of awakening into truth.
Although I don't look at male profiles, I do believe I'm viewing the more colorful half the rainbow.
If you have no idea what I'm saying so far, we probably are not a match.
I believe we are here on Earth to have fun, to experience joy, to continually achieve and then reach for new goals.
My goal here is to find one woman, the right one, and then
begone forever from this "modern" phenomenon of the online dating site.
I'm trustworthy and don't act my age!
Being positive in outlook, I understand the value of disciplined thinking (which we must do, given all the gunk in our minds and in culture in general).
There's no moment when our thought is not busy creating our future NOW.
----------------------------------
an alternate view below:
Conversation between OKCupid (a female staff
person, hereafter called OKC) and StarbuckJ
(hereafter referred to as JS):
OKC: "What are you doing here on this site?"
JS: "Looking for a lover and best friend."
OKC: "Pretty much everyone is looking for that."
JS: "Yup, I know. With a few variations here and there."
OKC: "Is it important to 'put your best foot forward'?"
JS: "Certainly. This is a game of impressions, first impressions. Plus, the way it works for women is different than the way it works for men."
OKC: "How so?"
JS: "Well, women tend to make decisions more by feeling, while men do so by thinking. Which doesn't mean women don't think or men don't feel, but it's just referring to the dominant modality in each case."
OKC: "Does this lead to misunderstandings between the two genders?"
JS: "Yup. That John G. guy wrote that Mars and Venus book years ago. And there have been many other presentations of this dynamic. But guys, I know since I am one, are always being confused about the signals they get from girls, and so they clam up, and then girls think that guys are unemotional and distant and wish they, the guys, would talk to them, the girls, more."
OKC: "Isn't that an oversimplification?"
JS: "Of course! But why don't you ask me something else?"
OKC: "Do a lot of people get it right, this coupling thing?"
JS: "Sure. And an awful lot of the people on this site have had a lot of success already, even in their so-called 'failed' relationships. Then, also, there are those who were happily married and are now widowed."
OKC: "Talk about honesty."
JS: "Honesty is overrated."
OKC: "Huh?"
JS: "How about if I change the subject instead? How about if I tell you what a great lover I am?"
OKC: "No, please..."
JS: "I could talk about attraction, what it is for women."
OKC: "OK."
JS: "For women, it's just a feeling, an impression, a sense that they feel and they usually feel it right away, in a split millisecond after seeing or meeting the guy. Although, sometimes it kind of evolves and then all of a sudden, she notices that she's attracted. And it all happens without a lot of thought or analysis, even though there could have been fifty million thoughts going on the whole time. And, of course, really attractive women, oh, I change my mind - I won't talk about really attractive women, who cares about them. It's only the one I'm attracted to that matters. It's fascinating, this whole business, don't you think?"
OKC: "Do you golf or fish or play tennis?"
JS: "Not much. So far at least."
OKC: "Do you work out and take care of yourself?"
JS: "Yeah. I'm very active. D'ya wanna see my chest?"
(starts pulling his shirt up)
OKC: "NO!!!! (looking down and blushing, resisting a smile)
But tell me, what do you do for a living?"
JS: "I'm a therapist and life coach."
(tucking his shirt back in)
OKC: "You mean a psychotherapist?"
JS: "Yup."
OKC: "What else do you do? What interests you?"
JS: "Standing on my head, as in the yoga pose. Also, becoming immersed in the wilderness."
OKC: "Did you vote?"
JS: "Yes, how about you?"
OKC: "What else should women know about you?"
JS: "How about if we make a plan to meet again later and I'll answer that and other questions? I have to get ready now to go see some clients."
OKC: "OK. When can we meet again?"
JS: "Here's my card with contact info. When's good for you?"
(OKC is seen handing JS her contact info)
TO BE CONTINUED.................
Today's koan, for you to contemplate: THERE HAS NEVER BEEN A BETTER TIME THAN NOW!
