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40 M Oakland, CA

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Asian, Native American, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), German (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly), Ancient Greek (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Life is so beautiful. And though I don't know you, you are too.

It seems like my top match percentiles are consistently from Brooklyn and Oakland. Should I move back? Hmm.

I'm at camp La Calaca at Burning Man. 2:45 & J & K. Come by for luxury spa treatments and gourmet dinners!

I'd be a millionaire right now for all the times I've won on Jeopardy (from the couch)! I am a lover of the written word, no matter whether it is from the Great American Novelist, or the back of a cereal box. According to the Meyers-Briggs personality profile, I am an ENFP, and according to the enneagram, I am a 7, the Enthusiast.
UPDATE: Well I was a 7 for a long time, but I just retook the test, and I'm now a 5, the Thinker. Hmmmmm.
What I’m doing with my life
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I live in the beautiful San Francisco Bay Area, California. I'm currently into my fourth year of an originally 6 month tour of Mexico, which I've extended indefinitely. I keep saying I'm going back soon, cuz I gotta keep a foot planted in the Bay. Eventually, I want to split my time between both places.

Anyway, I completed a six month Spanish language program at a funky art school in San Miguel de Allende, and now I've got projects that keep me busy but I also do a lot of hanging out. Like going to brunch on a weekday. Going out on weeknights. Taking road trips. Going to the hot springs. Checking out the flea market. Poaching the free booze at art and restaurant openings.

I wear many hats and have multiple passions.

I'm deeply involved with social, environmental, & food justice. I have a deep passion for gender equity, and I am an unabashed fan, supporter, cheerleader, lover, guerrilla fighter and all around badass for women...which means giving up my bullshit, stepping up, and playing big. The macho crap's played out, fellas.

I love working with my hands. I own a business designing and growing organic veggie gardens (on hold while I'm in Mexico) and have taught urban veggie gardening in Bay Area schools.

I used to be the quintessential Bay Area workshop junkie, and now I love coming up with my own and teaching them, like cooking, veggie gardening, permaculture design, direct action civil disobedience training, and massage courses. I've done media and communications strategizing and consulting for grassroots organizations and non-profits developing pressure campaigns to take on big, bad corporations and politicians doing shitty things in the world. Love it!! Modern day David & Goliath work. Feels amazing to do an honest day's work by sticking your thumb in the eye of an evil corporation and getting paid for it.

I love to cook & I especially love to cook for friends. I show love by sharing food. Food brings us together. It's the foundation of life.

UPDATE: I've been creating pop-up restaurants in San Miguel. Big fun. I get to mix my pleasure of entertaining guests, cooking and making some money. What I've done thus far: Vietnamese, Indian, Japanese, Mexican, Middle Eastern/Mediterranean.

I am a lover of the senses. I am a renegade massage therapist and bodyworker, a body alchemist if you will. I call myself renegade, because I hate, HATE New Age anything, especially music. I refuse to play Native American flute music played by some baby boomer white guy with ocean waves crashing in the background remixed with synth sitar accompanied by Indian mantras with horrible American accents. I refuse! I believe that the pathway to divinity is through the body. Touch is my passion. It builds more empathy and connection with our fellow human beings.

I spent the first four months in Mexico teaching organic veggie gardening & permaculture to elementary and middle school aged kids at a Montessori school here in San Miguel. I developed and taught a delicious, natural foods cooking course here. Mmmm....Que rico! I'm co-producing my sixth TEDx conference here in San Miguel. Check it:

I'm also co-producing the third TEDxBlackRockCity conference at Burning Man this year. We've got an amazing lineup of speakers, so if you're on the playa check it out!

Currently, I'm building out a rooftop veggie & flower garden and bedroom for my friend and teaching a workshop on eco-architectural design. UPDATE: Built, planted and growing.

Here's something crazy about Mexico. Most middle-class educated folks here make about $4,000 pesos a month, which is a little less than $400 U.S. dollars. An a**hole gringo on a tourist visa can roll into town and make $500 pesos per hour doing massage, which is around $45 dollars. Which is exactly what I did.

I live in a resort town, and demand for good massage is high. The problem is, is that the local Mexican massage therapists generally aren't trained well and are paid low wages. So, a gringo like me comes along and takes their job. The spas love this set-up, because they mostly cater to English speaking clientele, while the therapists are left with no power, no real skills, and are easily replaceable.

So, I decided to start a massage program where local Mexican women can learn advanced level bodywork, high-end luxury spa techniques, make great cash, and be so good at what they do that they can roll into any resort city in the world and be the a**hole taking someone else's job.

I have two current projects that I'm really excited about. The first is that I've teamed up with a friend in San Francisco and we just started a business doing luxury retreats to Mexico. Massage, yoga, meditation, horseback riding, hot springs, Mexican cuisine, and nightlife. Our first group is coming in October...a bachelorette party. Should be fun.

This is the third year that I'm co-producing an arts and music festival during the week of Day of the Dead called, La Calaca. I get to bring some of my amazingly talented and creative peeps from around the world to Mexico for a week to participate in the Day of the Dead celebrations and to perform. I love it when my different communities converge.

Check out the website here:

Our Facebook fan page:
Check out our new promo eo for 2014:

Here's a longer six minute version you can check out. It's really quite beautiful.

I hope you can come to magical San Miguel de Allende and check out the La Calaca festival!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Teaching workshops, massage, gardening, grassroots organizing, leveraging mass media for social change, public speaking, cooking and producing popup restaurants.
The first things people usually notice about me
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They can't quite put a finger on my ethnic background...but I've been said to have elfin and Pan-like characteristics.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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BOOKS: Open Veins of Latin America, 500 Years of the Pillaging of a Continent--Eduardo Galeano; - Chalice & the Blade--Riane Eisler; -Illuminatus! Trilogy--Robert Shea & Robert Anton Wilson; -No Logo--Naomi Klein; -Golden Gate Gardening: The Complete Guide to Year-Round Food Gardening in the San Francisco Bay Area & Coastal California--Pam Peirce; -Mind Games--Robert Masters & Jean Houston; -The Magus--John Fowles; -The Fifth Sacred Thing--Starhawk; -In the Spirit of Crazyhorse--Peter Matthiessen; -Globalize Liberation--Ed., David Solnit; -We Are Everywhere--Ed., Notes from Nowhere Collective; -Focualt's Pendulum--Umberto Eco; -Perfume--Patrick Suskind; -Orientalism--Edward Said; -Hero With a Thousand Faces--Joseph Campbell; -Food of the Gods--Terence McKenna; -The Silent Language--Edward T. Hall; -Griffin & Sabine--Nick Bantock; -Lady Sings the Blues--Billie Holiday; -Ender's Game--Orson Scott Card; -Snow Crash--Neil Stephenson; -Natural History of the Senses--Diane Ackerman; -Philip K. Dick; -Kurt Vonnegut; -Italo Calvino; -Parable of the Sower--Octavia Butler

MOVIES: Let the Right One In, Once, 1 Giant Leap, I love documentaries...The Corporation, End of Suburbia, Latcho Drom, Decline of Western Civilization, Fed Up!, Baraka, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, The Shining, Blade Runner...

TV: The Boondocks, Top Chef, The Daily Show


I love spending my summer Sundays at the Stern Grove festival.

Dengue Fever, C2C, Ladi6, Rupa & the April Fishes, Céu, Sade, Betty Davis, Cat Power, Fela Kuti, Gigi, Andy Palacio & the Garifuna Collective, Novalima, Orchestra Baobab, Staff Benda Bilili, Gogol Bordello, Natacha Atlas, Khaled, Fela Kuti, Fat Freddy's Drop, Samia Farah, The Pogues, Ben Harper, Lyrics Born, Dead Can Dance, Lisa Gerrard, Ekova, PJ Harvey, Nick Cave, Fields of the Nephlim, Sisters of Mercy, Love & Rockets, Revolting Cocks, My Life with the Thrill Kill Kult, Kruder & Dorfmeister, Local SF DJs, Dead Milkmen, Manu Chao, Moloko, Portishead, Nina Simone, John Lee Hooker, Miles Davis, The Coup, Blackalicious, Public Enemy, Ozomatli, J-5, Paris, Immortal Technique, Dead Prez, Ministry, The Smiths, Ben Harper, Sweet Honey in the Rock, Parliament, Tricky, Pixies, Bomba Estereo, Calle 13, Systema Solar, Ludovico Einaudi, Lost at Last, Vas, Niyaz, Azam Ali, Souad Massi, Samia Farah, Djivan Gasparyan, Latin, North African, & Middle Eastern beats drive me to euphoria! Flamenco, Salsa, Bossa Nova, Afrobeat, Asian Underground, Wax Trax!, KMFDM, Nitzer Ebb, Industrial, 80's Goth, 80's Punk, Funk, Ska etc. I don't really listen to the hard stuff anymore, but queue it up for a good laugh down nostalgia lane.

FOOD: Sushi...Ethiopian...Injera--yum!...Shwerma wraps...Falafel...Hummus...Gormeh Sabsi...Tadik... Red Wine... Udon noodle soup...cold soba noodles on a hot summer day...sliced homegrown tomatoes with basil and fresh mozzarella, drizzled with olive oil and cracked pepper...Vietnamese Pho...Thai...Indian...anything SPICY!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, Books, Wikipedia & Google News, KPFA, delicious food, sharp kitchen knives, massage oils & table, toothbrush. I know, I know, this is more than six, but I can never stick to the rules.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I have a sardonic worldview. Here's the prize at the bottom of the cereal box. Lucky Charms. This year, 2012, has so far been filled with weddings and funerals. Love. Loss. Joy. Pain. Yin. Yang. Life. Death. Duality. Who really cares about fluffing up our egos on dating sites? Is there a possibility of authenticity online? Be fearless. Go for what truly matters in your life. I'll do the same. Because this is all we have. Honesty. Integrity. When we do, it inspires others to do the same. That's it.

I spend a lot of time engaging in:
Global Justice, food justice, social movements, urban gardening, cooking, bodies, altered states, massage, sensual living, gender fluidity, politics, social dynamics of power, utilizing the media as a tool for social change, activism, institutionalized oppression, myth, spirituality, ancient cultures, Western culture, mixed-race identity, ecology, climate chaos, alternative energy, uprisings, the future of Homo Sapiens, building a culture of equity & beauty.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I could be at home reading a good book or throwing/attending a dinner party, shakin' booty on the dancefloor, or camping.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was a child actor on Days of Our Lives.
You should message me if
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Only if you like eating delicious food, getting massage, having exciting adventures & intellectual stimulation.