'What is sacred?'
'Of what is the spirit made?'
'What is worth living for?’
and ‘What is worth dying for?'
The answer to each is the same.
I’m here to find people who I can connect with, who get me (this isn't always easy), and actually want to take the time to get to know me. I'm interested in finding romantic companions, with an emphasis on intimate relationships. However, I want to be clear that intimate doesn’t necessarily equal sexual. I am looking for someone who is legitimately going to care about me and be willing to get close to me; someone capable of deep love. I have had more than my fair share of people who just wanted to fuck me, and I’m done with it. I am not looking for a “friends with benefits” relationship. Sexual encounters would depend on your willingness to invest in me. If I get the impression you’re not planning on sticking around for a little while, the likelihood that sex will come into the picture is very slim. I need to know I can trust in you first, and that I'm more than just a body to you. I assure you there is MUCH more to me than that.
So who am I? Seriously, if you figure it out, please let me know… I'm still trying to. Haha. The following is by no means the sum total of all my parts. I am in the process of redefining myself and what I believe in.
I consider myself warm, caring, honest, up front, open-minded, spiritual, practical, fragile, friendly, responsible, weird, transparent, mellow, tactful, genuine, whimsical, loyal, counter clockwise, dorky, sometimes lazy, sometimes negative, sensual, shy, persistent, intelligent, independent, and compassionate. I'll add more to this list as I remember/discover it.
I believe in the Wiccan rede "Do as ye will but harm none" (No I don't identify as Wiccan, they just said it best.) I believe in justice and more so fairness. I have often been guilty of over thinking things or looking too deeply into something. I strongly value open communication. I am in Indigo. I really appreciate honesty and integrity, and am fully capable of both. If you're a liar, fuck off! I'm pretty forgiving and too accepting for you to ever have to lie to me. If I'm wrong I admit it, and am not above apologizing. I believe honesty and tact are not mutually exclusive. I have a dirty mouth and even dirtier mind, and I'm not afraid to use them... seriously, sometimes even sailors would blush. I'm one of those people who is easily amused, and I love to laugh. I don't like to be tickled. I'm a bit zany, to say the least. My mind is often dizzying to follow. Sometimes even -I- get lost...
I’m not fanatical, but my spirituality is really important to me. I have been working hard on practicing the things I have learned over the years, but Ego makes it more difficult than I’d like. One day I hope to transcend that. I don’t have any place in my own life for religion, as I feel it separates people. I have my own version of what I think God is. I promise I won’t try to force it on you. To each their own. I’d be happy to discuss it with you though, if you’d like. Ideally, I would like to find a person who is also seeking spiritual evolution...
"I believe we are all connected. I believe in positive energy. I believe in the power of prayer, I believe in putting good into the world. And I believe in taking care of each other." -Harvey Fierstein ... and don't forget the power of positive thinking!
I’m pretty eclectic in my interests. I LOVE going for walks in the rain, horseback riding, camping, fishing, sculpting, yoga, and singing, to name a few.
I'm into most things metaphysical. I took level one Healing Touch, and have been attuned in level 1 Reiki. One day, I will open a metaphysical shop, perhaps here in the Springs. I've known I am a healer for most of my life and it would be good to put it to use helping others. I’m always trying to help…
There is a large space in my heart for animals. I value them equally as any human life. I currently live with two cats. Over the years, I've shared my home with an iguana, bearded dragon, leopard geckos, various hamsters, mice, a rat, a ferret, and a few bunnies. I identify with the spirit of the bunny, and spirit of the cat.
I'm infatuated with a starry sky, and my "ruling planet", the Moon. The sky captivates me. I love learning about anything celestial.
I dig faeries, dragons, elves, pixies, and various “otherkin”. I try to embody or have in the past embodied the spirit of the Fae and the unicorn. Don't laugh!
Chances are good you'll find me at the local Renaissance Fair dressed in costume.
I game a little, but I can walk away when I need to. I've ALWAYS loved Super Mario Bros. and Zelda. I played Diablo I and II religiously for a very long time. I’m holding off on Diablo III for my family’s sake. Haha! I even played Ultima Online for a while when it came out. I have an original NES, Wii, Playstation 2, and Xbox that rarely get played, because playing alone just isn't fun for me. In fact most things aren't fun for me if I have to do them alone, so I often don't get into much.
420 friendly, but I try to keep my son away from it. I prefer sativas to indicas. Recently, I have put smoking on hold because it's been giving me pain in the muscles in my back when I come down. Every one I have mentioned it to has thought this very bizarre. I would love to have experience with other psychedelics, like ayahuasca, peyote or 'shrooms in a Shamanic setting. No this isn't a subtle way of looking for drugs. I'm open to consciousness expanding experiences to further my understanding of spirituality.
I have a guitar and would love to learn how to play it. I've tried teaching myself, but I just don't have the discipline. Want to teach me? I'd also love to learn to play the djembe I bought my husband for his birthday.
I don’t do sports, or politics, and can do without the daily news.
If you didn't already notice the "details" section, I'm full figured. If this bothers you, tough shit. I really don't care to have friends who are that shallow. True beauty comes from within, even for gorgeous skinny people. Being overweight doesn't make me any less awesome. *shrugs* Your loss if you don't take the time. Seriously. You'd be missing out.
Since this is a dating site, I feel it best to mention right up front that I am married, but polyamorous. This means my husband is aware that I am seeking the romantic companionship of other people and is ok with it. I promise it's not as daunting as it sounds... Our relationship is very flexible. While he is my primary, this role has potential to change depending on my situation. We are really more like two friends raising a kid together. We do have sex from time to time, but it's few and far between. So if you're interested please don't let my relationship with him deter you. He is, however, my best friend, and was here first. Don't expect him to disappear. Anyone interested in becoming a part of my life must accept this or move on. If you don’t think you can be respectful of my relationship with him, please don’t bother. I put a considerable amount of energy into my relationships and prefer not to waste it.
We have a son who is two as of July ’13. He’s not going anywhere. Please realize he will often be with me, as I am a stay at home mom, and my husband works long hours. It would be best if you were capable of embracing this as opposed to wishing he would just go away.
If sharing my beautiful life sounds like something that might interest you, feel free to message me. I'm a little picky, so please don't be offended if I don't write back though.
Good luck finding your happiness, in whatever form it takes, and thanks for taking the time to read my profile.