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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 47-65
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 20
5' 2" (1.57m)
Body Type
Other but it’s not important
Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm laid back, creative and tolerant. I try to be compassionate and non-judgmental towards others bc this is a tough ol' world sometimes, and who couldn't use a little occasional tenderness?

I've also been blessed with a passion for the arts, in particular visual arts and dance. In my wayward youth, I spent time working as a professional artist (that's "working as" not "earning money as" ;-).
I also clamored for dance classes (ballet, jazz) as a kid, and kept at it well into adulthood, adding belly-dancing and flamenco lessons along the way.

I am fortunate enough to enjoy deeply caring relationships with family, friends and colleagues. I'm comfortable with myself, independent and self-supporting, and I would welcome a passionate connection with the right man.

Interestingly, my "personality" tab here suggests that I'm slightly more old-fashioned than the average okcupid user. Hell, I don't think I'm old-fashioned. Although I do still embarrass my 22 year son sometimes, so maybe I am ;-).
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Recently finished law school and am now a lawyer in Portland. This is my third career out of the three we're all supposed to now have over the course of our lives. I love the type of intellectual reasoning required to interpret laws, and I love being an advocate. I'm grateful to have found a profession that will challenge and engage me for the rest of my working life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Kissing. Throwing back my head to laugh. And being goofy whenever I can.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have no idea . . . my smile? my eyes? how my hair looks today? That's what I notice about me anyway. I should probably ask my friends about this one of these years.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: good non-fiction/investigative journalism, modern day noir mysteries (some great and gritty Irish and Brit series out there right now), well researched and well written historical novels. A good mystery set in another time and place is the best of both worlds. I read Harper's and the Atlantic for current events, despite the fact that the Atlantic sometimes irritates the hell out of me. I love good graphic novels. Good noir graphic novel series - Scalped, The Boys, 100 Bullets - top my list, what a surprise ;-).

Movies: I tend to watch good series tv these days more often than I go to the movies. Old favorites are The Wire, Mad Men, Deadwood, Southland, Carnivale. Current faves: The Bridge, True Detective, Orchid Black, Sons of Anarchy, Homeland, American Horror Story, Ray Donovan, and Boardwalk Empire. Love Steve Buscemi - great actor. Though he is kinda funny lookin.

Love all types of food; I'm not a fussy eater as long as it tastes good. Draw the line at insects and certain internal organs though.

I have eclectic musical tastes that range through time and genre. I don't like today's pop music though. All sounds the same to me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My son
The rest of my wonderful family
My friends
Coffee, the elixir of life
My restless, curious brain
A sense of serenity
Whoops, that's seven. Oh well. Can't do without my mildly rebellious streak either ;-).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
At the risk of sounding like a cliche, I think a lot about the unique journey we're all on. That's 6 billion+ unique journeys on this planet - not counting non-human species. Pretty amazing when you think about it.

I think about how important it is to maintain a sense of balance. To embrace joy and not turn away from pain, because really, you can't have one without the other. And by mid-life, we've all weathered our share of the latter.

I think about how blessed I am to have a small but wonderful family, and loyal, stand-up friends in my life. I'm grateful for the measure of peace I have with myself now.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing at home with a good book or dvd, or out to dinner and/or music with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Wouldn't be private anymore then, would it.
You should message me if
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You are self-aware, honest, intelligent, and comfortable in your own skin, and are secure and confident enough to appreciate the same in a woman.

You aren't intimidated by the fact that I'm a lawyer. I've held lots of jobs in my life, from waitress to academic, and I don't categorize people based on their education level or income.

You understand that real intimacy is about mutual chemistry, companionship, openness, and respect - deep friendship. And you know that sex is SO much better with one's best friend.