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SteelyTom

55 M Brighton, MA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:58am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.76m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Law school
Job
Law
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
The quintessential unreliable narrator, I'm the last person to ask. Let's see-- benignly eccentric, urban, sensual, artsy, overeducated, and sane... That's a start.
What I’m doing with my life
Observing. Planning my next Vineyard trip. Asking questions to which there are no answers. Engaging the they. Finding humor, against all odds. Breathing in, breathing out, repeating ad infinitum.
I’m really good at
Listening.
Forgiving.
Withholding judgment.
Pausing a bit to make sure I'm reacting wisely.
Irony.
Positive reinforcement makes the world go round.
The first things people usually notice about me
That my physique demonstrates I can't cook for myself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Well, here's an idea. Flicks: L'Avventura, North By Northwest, Lost in Translation. Tomes: Pale Fire, White Noise, Money, Let It Come Down. Food: most anything, though I'll never have a foodie's sophistication. Tunes: the Prince of Venosa's madrigals. Gregory Porter. The Creator Has a Master Plan. Alexandre Tharaud's Scarlatti, Andras Schiff's Bach. Silvestrov, Vasks, and other denizens of the post-Soviet space. Morton Feldman. El Cantante. Ozamena Nsugbe. Greg Brown, Fred Neil, Nick Drake.
Tom, Chico, Edu, Marcos.
The six things I could never do without
Pasta.
My Sally Mann prints.
Running shoes.
Miles.
Black t-shirts.
The generosity of my friends, God love (or help) them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why there is something and not nothing. Tomorrow morning's breakfast. The relative merits of the various versions of Bruckner's Third Symphony. How it is, exactly, that so many people, against all the odds, manage to mate. Whether there's anything Kurt Elling didn't completely lift from Mark Murphy. The theyness of the they. Whether the country will ever actually get out of this mess. Well-turned ankles. That sort of thing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Restoring my spirit with music, and maybe taking a walk out to Coolidge Corner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am a lifelong abuser of salt.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 31–55
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Any of this resonates, and you're prepared to believe, personal observation to the contrary, that the sun is indeed larger than the earth.