Does anyone want to just simply go dancing from time to time? Ballroom?

I'm glad you found me. I'm an open book, and I'm worth the read. "Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." -- Anais Nin

So, if you're the kind of person that loves to honestly, and without-agenda, engage in interesting conversation to observe and analyze human behavior, or break into song at any moment, all while laughing your ass off, any or all of that - - then you're going to like me, lots.

I'm looking for passionate people for partners in life, to have fantastic and flirtatious fun with, people who are authentic, transparent, and who are extremely independent and responsible for how they think, feel and act, in the highest integrity as they have worked passionately to define. Anyone who is passionate (I love that word!) about anything usually connects with me. If you relate to my grandfather's favorite saying, "The more I know, the more I know that I don't *know* anything", you will rock my world and I will rock yours. I love life, and have an abundance of gratitude and appreciation for those who are active in pursuing it to its' beautiful edges. I examine my life - my thoughts, my feelings and my actions, each breathing moment.

I hang around (and want to meet people in) the cities of NYC, MSY, PDX, MSP, BNA, DFW-AUS-HOU, DC and my hometown of BOS. I'm open to other places too. I often travel to the Caribbean and to Europe, and want to travel more Asia and S.A.; if you're looking for a terrific travel partner, whether you want a lover or not, then at least say, "hi." I was born with a GPS in my head and I'm handy along those lines. When I got a B.A and Master's in Geography, it was only because it was low-hanging fruit.

I'm a logical, scientifically minded but sometimes-ridiculously-goofy, sometimes-extraordinarily-suave, always debonair, very independent-minded entrepreneurial philanthropist who travels the world - both literally and figuratively, because it's what I consider to be fun. Fun is my purpose in life. "Fun" for me includes having integrity at all levels, and acting on it, and pursuing passions, but it doesn't mean that I don't do things that most people find to be difficult: It's a matter of the mind. But I also have "fun" in the process - including doing/experiencing the things that most people feel pain over. My only requirement for me is that my fun align with my integrity as I define it. You'll have to ask me if you want to find out what things align with my integrity. Hopefully, you've figured out your own integrity too, and passionately follow it.

So, here's what some gal-friends who know me - grew up with me, wrote about me to put on a profile (Note: we were at a bar, after a class reunion, when they found out that I wasn't married - nice friends!): "He's loving, communicative, a twin, a father, strong & healthy, a dreamer, an eternal optimist, active thinker, is incapable of jealousy, always in love with life, joyful and happy, way independent, trusting, passionate, compassionate, a vanilla fan, daring, unconventional (very), a nonconformist, non-judgmental, amazed (and amazing), and wanting the most love possible for others - whatever the cost. He's a food critic and appreciates the "fine art of cooking", chooses raw foods over processed ones, but will eat anything. He's not into religion, but very interested in spiritual things. He laughs often, sometimes so hard that he hurts himself. He especially laughs at his own bad jokes. He's idealistic, because he thinks that we could all live in peace and love "if we tried (big discussion)", and the joy of life itself always gets him out of the sadness. He loves people who thrill at discussions of spiritual philosophy and science, and who enjoy the likes of Patanjali, Rumi, Buddha, Dyer, Eisenstein to Einstein, Hawking, Tesla, and those who came up with the "String" Theory. He's honest to the core, pierces through to others' honesty. He thinks there's nothing such as "brutal honesty", he likes looking at people's eyes, and adores people who dive into life regardless of what others think. He owns a tux, knows how to use it, but is at home whether on the top of a mountain or in the middle of the city, but he wears jeans as much he can. A fav quote is from Einstein, "Few are those who think with their own head and feel with their own heart." He innocently finish people's sentences, and loves to talk to people who do the same. He's an accomplished musician; loves any music, but especially music that reveals the soul. He'll go out of his way to watch a good ballet, and likes to dance any kind of ballroom."
Another friend just called me a, "Gladwell Outlier", and told me that I really should read the book. But, I write the book, constantly.
[My friends got me right] On of my friends just called me an "outlier". I haven't read the book, but she told me why. Again, my friends "get" me.

I've recently realized that there is only one god: Murphy, the Goddess of Irony. You remember Murphy of "Murphy's Law"? Yes, she's the Goddess of Irony, and she's evil (I kinda' like evil.) She rules the planet. She knows my every move, and counters it with her magic. That's my theory. Oh, and she knows that I'm hopelessly romantic, in the "really romantic" way.

I live with an adventurous daughter, a to-the-core honest best friend TruePathLupinand another daughter of mine lives near, and is a beautiful and self-aware ballerina. I recently started a new business with friends, it will change the world (I'm an optimist!) I'm an individualist, of the Ayn Rand type, both in the way I do business and the way I do the rest of my life. [A quick note to you Ayn Rand haters - I am *not* her, so quit sending me hate notes. Besides, I'm issue-driven, am *not* conservative or liberal, *not* Republican or Democrat, but I *am* compassionate and passionate in everything I do, think and feel. If you identify yourself by some political party - good for you, now leave me alone. I'm not a political partisan, and if you are, you'll likely have no idea who *I* am.

I'm often out feeling the pulse and energy of the city, but love hiking. I just got back from a long trip in Europe. Paris and I will soon have a month-long date where I'll write the poetry I've experienced (it's has been needing to be put down on paper since then.) I've traveled Africa (been in jail in Cameroon), and in the Middle East. In the past 10 years, I've toured Europe on the trains, driven the jungles and plains of Africa, dived in shark infested waters off of Key West, and danger doesn't frighten me. I dive into all cultures because I love the diversity. I also love the folk music from anywhere, opera, good ballet, and swing dancing. In contrast, I backpack in the mountains, kayak on lonely rivers or inlets, and do those activities at least once a year. Nevertheless, I am passionate and compassionate, and dedicated to easy smiles. I work for myself, so I have plenty of flexibility to go whenever and wherever I feel the call. I've recently acquired a decent camera and some lenses, so I'm starting to delve into photography too!

. . . most everything. I figured out that experience is the playground where I can go to learn wisdom.

I'm probably best at seeing the grand picture, laughing, playing air guitar/drums, being silly, playful (but always sharp), being generous and flexible. My life this time around has included projects of hope around the world, lots of physical fun (e.g., running, tennis, kayaking, sailing, biking, and extremely good at ping-pong!), lots of different "professions," bassoonist with symphony orchestras (I play most wind instruments, and presently love to play Irish Whistle - and i wrote a song about unicorns), a computer geek, an elementary school teacher, a trial attorney, a judge, a co-author of provisions for women's suffrage in an Arab country, a philanthropist heading up a drive to donate computers into the Africa, to name a few. What's next? We'll see... wherever and whatever passions bring me.

Oh, I think kissing, passionate long deep kissing, is underrated and underutilized.

is the color of my skin, saying that I look like Bruce Willis. A suggestion for all you racists out there: How about *not* noticing that for once, and instead discover the content of my character?

**The Missing Piece Meets The Big "O" - If you know this, then you see my basic philosophy! If you are a Big "O" (like me), then call me *now*!**

I'm also a fan of Chogyam Trungpa.

Music - the artists with names beginning with "A" on my iPod shuffle right now (it changes) are: Aimee Mann, Alanis Morissette , Albert Collins, Alison Krauss, Altan, America, Andrae Crouch, Andrew Llotd Webber, Anemo, Angelique Kidjo, The Animals, Anthrax, Aretha Franklin, The Atlanta Symphony and Chorus, and Australian Crawl. The "B"s are BB King, BTO, Bad Company, Barrett Strong, The Beach Boys, The Beatles, the Bee Gees, Bette Midler, Bill Withers, Billie Holiday, Billy Joel, Bing Crosby, Bjork, Blood Sweat and Tears, Blue Oyster Cult, Blues Brothers, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley, Bonnie Raitt, The Boomtown Rats, Boston Symphony, Bottle Rockets, Boys of the Lough, Brandi Carlisle, Braveheart, Bruno Prevedi, Buckwheat Zydeco, Bulgarian Women's Choir and The Byrds. As you may notice, my music tastes are eclectic and diverse!

Recently read, "The Mastery of Love" - anyone else?

Movies & TV - I have a DVR for Syfy and South Park, I have Monty Python and Mel Brooks DVD's (along with many "classics"), sometimes I take time to watch Discovery, History (especially when there's WWII interests on), The Flight of the Conchords, and occasional SNL, and even anime (Mushi Shi.) Some fav movies are: Groundhog Day, Band of Brothers (series), Waking Life, Fight Club, Casa Blanca, The Matrix, South Pacific, The Life of Brian, Fiddler on the Roof, Life Is Beautiful. Uhm, I own a Tardis, I've lived several lives, and people call me "The Doctor".

I prefer theatre to theater, and am an Opera and Ballet fan.

- Intellectual Stimulation
- The Company of Good Friends! Wo all understand being responsible for how they think, feel and act, and not for others.
- My Freedom, even if it just in my head
- Music, even if it were just in my head
- Love
- Joy - and this includes lots of laughing!
[None of this is in order!]

- Honesty and "truth", and why there are so very many condemning, judgmental people who claim to be open minded and honest - but are anything but. Someone said, "I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for what I'm not”. And trust me, you'll be loved for who you *are* if you just let it out.

- Transparency - and how weak-minded people try to manipulate those who are transparent, using what they *think* they discovered to put themselves superior above another; Yeah, you know who you are (and if this is you, please read the "IMPORTANT READ THIS" section at the end of my profile. Go there now.)

- Things that I have appreciation and gratitude for (which is about everything!)

- Social and Political Systems and how they relate to the ideas of personal responsibility, compassion and love. I think that people can't be forced by others - whether it's a person or it's a government - to be charitable, but I vehemently have as part of my integrity that I as an individual should *choose* to do so. Politically, I don't subscribe to politics at all, but my philosophy is aligned with the libertarian approach. Don't have to assume anything here, because if you do, you'll most likely be wrong. I am much more than any knee-jerk reaction to a word.

- The principles of personal responsibility for one's own life, one's own thoughts-feelings-actions.

Wow, I don't have "typical" Friday nights!

is that I have a very good-looking exact identical twin brother.

I'm not kidding about the twin. He's *that* good-looking.

My FB profile is here: http://www.facebook.com/Bennett.Stephen

[OK - so what else can I do to show you that I'm into full disclosure?]

-You're from another planet. No, really, I mean it! Greys, even Orions. Bring it on!

-You *feel* like you must be from another planet, or if you're a scientist, or both. I love logical, factual, thought-out discussions about anything.

or

-You've liked what you've read so far, you're brave, and you're absolutely responsible for your own experience of life
-You want to live unconditionally with the risks that come with it (hint: those risks aren't really risks, and they are in fact a fast track to self-awareness and maturity)
-You are responsible for how you think, feel and act, without blaming others for anything that you don't like in your life, and are not looking for me to make you safe and secure. If you're overly-intimidated, find someone else. If you want to breath deeper, I'm your man.

or

- You'd like someone to unabashedly do *anything* with; If you'd like to do something crazy or go some place exotic, or simply explore the depths of relationship philosophies. And especially if you like to be silly, be flirtatious, like to laugh or kiss (uhm, kissing is fun, 'ya know. More about this later.)

or

-You *at least* would like a fun and interesting date, who will be attentive and interested in you -- you'll be glad we met. At the least.

or

-You really like to make out, and you're good at it (or at least you're willing to practice a lot to get better!), no strings attached! With this activity, I don't have an age range! Oops, Ok, no one under 21. (I just got a OKCupid from a 18-year old, probably a scammer, but had to say this just in case!)

Please don't require me to be political, unless it's at the local level; I don't trust national politics. I'd rather get involved with people on a personal level, and I'm passionate when it comes to helping people.

Bonuses: You like to waltz. Or if you like Blues. Or you're a painter, of the artistic kind. Or if you're a real scientist. Or if you are excited about anything. I really like people who get excited.

"In every moment the only choice we have is love or fear. " -- Rilke

IMPORTANT - READ THIS: While I have only "been" with three people in my life, and have previously been dedicated, committed and monogamous, I don't like the limitations and codependency that the "monogamy" part of that brings - it doesn't match my individualism or how I see romance, and it limits extremely deep relationships where nothing is hidden. I'd like to find people who are so happy, and love themselves so much, that the relationships in their lives would not limit love and romance, but would *expand* those things. I mean, not limit those things in any way, being open to polyamory, but in a sane, wonderful, fearless yet committed-to-my-integrity-and-to-the-people-in-my-life way. I have found at least one person that fits this criteria, and while we aren't everything to each other, we do have a wonderful committed friendship. My ideology is that openness, goodwill, truthful communication and ethical behavior should prevail, always.

AND PLEASE READ THIS TOO!: Don't Message me if:
- You want to complain about anything I've said here.
- You act, think, talk, have the emotions of, smell or emotionally feel like a child or an old lady. Don't mistake me here - age is *not* the problem. I can see being with anyone of practically any reasonable age, just please be emotionally mature (except for having tons of exuberance is great!) and personally responsible for yourself!
- You're looking for a "Dom" or a "Sub" (unless you mean a sandwich.) Seriously, ladies, I'm not into this -- though I'm open to it, I just don't want to make a relationship about it! So quit asking, until we at least get to know one another!