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  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
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Last online
Yesterday – 9:43pm
Asian, Hispanic / Latin
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Used up
When drinking
Atheism, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from law school
Rather not say
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Most days. . . I feel like all the world is a tuxedo, and I’m a pair of brown shoes. This, I’ve decided, is generally a good thing. If this metaphor makes sense to you, let’s talk sometime.

My hardest earned lesson has got to been how to err on the quirky side rather than the neurotic side of the line. . .the results have been pretty good so far. Being eccentric, I've decided, is what happens when the neurotic grow up.

My sense of humor has been described as drier than the Sahara. I think that was a compliment. A love of the absurd, I've decided, is the surest way to shore up my sanity. It's kind of nice to be a cheerful nihilist. Seriously .
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm in something of a self-imposed exile (read: I moved to the suburbs to be closer to school).

I just completed my first year of law school. I suppose I should add the standard disclaimer, that I'm not "one of those" law students. I left a career in child protection so that I could get a law degree, so that I could return to child protection and advocate for kids. Everyone, after all, deserves an advocate. . . or some shit like that. (See Self Summary.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people comfortable, without getting all hippie about it. . .
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've heard a number of things. . . I'm not sure how, but people seem to pick up on my eccentricities within the space of a few words. . .

And, as of July 2013, the fact that I'm in a wheelchair. . . life definitely threw me a curveball on that one.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier And Klay (just got done), Portrait of An Artist as a Young Man, Assassination Vacation. . . and hundreds more. If you're lucky I might let you pick through my library.

FYI--I have a hard time understanding people that don't read. As noted American philosopher, auteur, and cultural critic John Waters said, "If you go home with someone and they don't have books, don't fuck 'em!"

I'll also confess that I have a secret soft spot in my heart for the hilarity that are chick tracts.

Movies: The Big Lebowski, Party (The Peter Sellers Movie), Dr. Strangelove, A Clockwork Orange. I think the trend is that I like movies with lots of great one liners.

Music: This could be a long list. . .I tend to go in phases. Right now seems to be my WWI french chanson phase. Before that it was underground hip hop. . . and before that it was early folk/country. . . my CD collection is kind of eclectic.

Notably missing from my album collection, however, are jam bands. This will never change.

food: SUSHI! and many others.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Occasional alone time.
2. sex.
3. I hate to admit it, but my car.
4. Teh innerwebs.
5. Books.
6. Good company.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything! Only child = rich inner world. Below is a short/random sampling.

1. How to be better.
2. Existentialism as a means of empowerment and happiness (it's not a paradox, trust me).
3. What it'll be like to not have student loans someday.
4. The sorry state of the country.
5. sex (who doesn't?)
6. Zen
7. Zen and existentialism.
8. History (mostly international lately).
9. How to promote healthy, affirming and positive sexuality.
10. How to help promote healthy and affirming body image.
11. Where gender roles meet biology, and how to negotiate that.
12. Understanding whether morality is an action or a state of being, or both.
13. How to understand human dignity as an atheist.
14. How to be an atheist without proselytizing, but demanding respect for my views.
15. Pretty girls.
16. What books I need to read.
17. What the next steps should be in my life.
18. How to be supportive of my clients and realistic at the same time.
19. The edges of tough love and meanness, and the usefulness of either.
20. Being a man and a feminist.
21. The war.
22. International relations.
23. The birth of the subject in a hegelian, nietszchean, freudian way.
24. The intersections of religion, politics, and ethics.
25. If I do enough good in the world.
26. Distinguishing between altruism and martyrdom.
27. How to make all my computer stuff open source.
28. Whether I'm too old to be considered a nerd at this point.
29. Civil liberties and the principles embodied in the constitution.
30. Money, and how to square idealism against legitimate financial concerns.
31. How my thoughts on all of the above can be as amusing as they can be serious.
32. The intersections between neurology, biology, and the mind.

etc, ad infinitum
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Taking refuge in my underground crypt; where I rejuvenate myself.

Some Fridays, though, I just like to hang out with my friends playing scrabble or something.

I really do pride myself on flexibility. . .
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have an enormous man crush on Ira Glass.


I'm not necessarily as vanilla as I look. . .


Despite being in a wheelchair I'm still capable of having sex. . .


I probably care more than I let on.
You should message me if
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For the record, I tend to get a little weak in the knees for the compassionate, unconventional, and eccentric types.

and. . .

You understand that there are plenty of different ways to have meaningful relationships.

or. . .

You feel as out of place in the 'burbs as I do.