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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 12:46pm
Open relationship
Relationship Type
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism and it’s important
Post grad
Might want kids
Has cats
English, Japanese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Fresh out of the gate 30-something (only slightly in denial) ginger in a polyamorous/open married relationship with forest_kodama, meaning that we both have had significant others since being married. About three years into the process, and we've both had multiple relationships; it has worked surprisingly well. I am looking to meet women interested in both long-term grounded relationships and those of a casual nature; both are enjoyable and exciting prospects.

Have hopped from Kansas to Missouri and now VA/MD; enjoying everything but the cost of living. I am a very sociable person but I do not get out as much as I would like; too many things need done. Very much into pushing my comfort zone as it's the only way we grow; I think it's important to not stagnate.

I bounce around hobbies very regularly depending on the season and who is available. As fall approaches I am trying to get the most of the outdoors before it gets too cold; essentially this means running, kayaking, and hiking. I am a Hefeweizen drinker when not sticking to a Miller 64 (yes, I realize its swill), and a whiskey sour man when it's a liquor night.
What I’m doing with my life
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I LOVE indoor rock climbing now, transitioning to Manassas from Rockville and looking for a new lead partner. Working out 3-4 times a week, primarily cardio/aesthetics as well as climbing strength and endurance. Trying to get into drone/UAV development or 3D printing, both have too much potential not to get involved in.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Learning new concepts/adapting to new things
Abandoning new hobbies after a couple weeks
Keeping seriousness to a minimum
Spending too much time at sushi restaurants
Religious/philosophical debate, although I try to avoid it
Not making it awkward
The first things people usually notice about me
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My shaved head and facial hair; makes me appear a little stoic. After you say hello things change quickly; I treat almost every situation with levity, especially when others try to make them serious. Not many things are more satisfying than defusing a tense situation with a facetious joke.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Have finally committed (translation: started) a new fantasy series: Malazan Book of the Fallen, Steven Erikson. Have been burned before by the Wheel of Time series, so I hope this one doesn't lose my interest 10k pages in. If you already know that it's good or terrible let me know... Otherwise, Jo Nesbo and Terry Pratchett have been recent favorites.

I thoroughly enjoy anime, but am terribly uneducated in what is good and bad; I learn the hard way more often than not. Studio Ghibli does a great job, favorites being Spirited Away and Graveyard of the Fireflies. Layer Cake, 13th Warrior, A.I., Hero, Heathers, Pan's Labyrinth, and The Dark Crystal are some of my favorite 'regular' movies; I have yet to meet a Tim Burton movie that I did not love.

I try very hard to stay hip with Alt Rock and some pop music now, but I am secretly stuck in the late 90's-early 2000's emo rock era; Taking Back Sunday is simply epic. Saves the Day, Alkaline Trio, Local H and their like make up my top notch favorites. That said, I still listen to everything from about 1975 on including country to a touch of metal, but I never have gotten into rap barring a couple Outkast songs. Latest interest has been JRock, but I need exposure to some new material.

Diet has become a much more important part of my life, trying not to eat complete garbage now; fortunately forest_kodama cooks very well, unfortunately she is now out-of-state and I have to fend for myself. As far as restaurants go, almost all genres are fair game; Thai has been the recent favorite.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Open and honest communication
Technology - no back to basics for me
Free speech
Freedom of religion
A project to keep me driven
Eggs Benedict (bacon, no ham)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future of humanity
The legitimacy of tradition and social norms or the lack of
Whether or not I will be playing video games after 40
What to do with myself in my 30's
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Searching for an alternative to watching a movie I have already seen, or trying to climb up something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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To date, the only movie to drive me to tears is A.I. (Artificial Intelligence). Teddy is the most endearing anthropomorphized toy ever conceived...
You should message me if
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You can, and want to, banter for hours over beers
You are in the Burg and want a workout partner
Climbing appeals to you in any way and will forgive my occasional diatribes
You are into polyamorous men that put too much effort into their Halloween costume