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52 Brooklyn, NY Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 40-49
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Yesterday – 7:06pm
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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New Englander/Eastern Seaboarder by upbringing, but have been enjoying New York for the last 20+ years. Several years ago, after many years in Manhattan, I decamped to Brooklyn, and have enjoyed the contrast, if not the slightly longer commute. I do occasionally miss the old Village nabe (esp. the close proximity of so many great jazz clubs), but it's been fun to explore the many interesting enclaves in the County of Kings. I also try to get out of town fairly regularly, for cultural events, hiking, skiing, flyfishing, and visiting friends and their families beyond the city limits.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've spent the bulk of my career in the investment management and management consulting industries, which I've generally enjoyed, and also had a stint in book publishing. Recently, I changed careers, transitioning to a senior management role at a prominent local university. Prior to moving to NYC for grad school, I worked in Wash, DC as a Democratic aide/speechwriter on Capitol Hill. Not surprisingly, I still follow politics and current affairs, and, yes, I enjoy House of Cards (despite the implausible/gothic script flourishes).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Have been told I'm a decent listener and fluent conversationalist. Adept at chatting up strangers, NYT crossword (good app for the subway), programming weekends out of town (esp. if it involves dining at quaint pub or inn), and discussing books across a range of genres. In recent years, I've gotten fairly interested in food and cooking - have this absurdly aspirational cookbook collection - don't ask...if you have even a modicum of interest in cooking, that would be great. (Make an okay pie's yours?) I've also resolved, finally, to learn to play the piano, which I'm finding to be a rewarding, if humbling, endeavor.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Fairly upbeat personality, maybe? Sometimes people tell me I look like a politician or newscaster (I suppose I look more conservative than I am).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Old Europe, Angkor Wat, Berlin, Tokyo, the Edinburgh Festival. Foreign and indie films. Read a fair amount, esp. current affairs, psychology, and essays/criticism, as well as quality fiction. Recently read Patti Smith's Memoir, Just Kids (and keen to check out her new book - she's got the gift), and re-read Macbeth (the latter to bone up for a film screening - I can be a dork that way, though I do enjoy the Bard). Next up: Listen to This, by The New Yorker's Alex Ross, and Knausgaard's My Struggle. What else...enjoy theatre, both plays (Albee, Churchill, etc.) and classic musicals (my grandfather was a Broadway composer and musician). MoMA, BAM, NYCB, Paul Taylor, Half King bar, book readings, Village Vanguard, The Times, the New Yorker, NPR. Former amateur drummer and fairly omnivorous music person (though less so in recent years). A brief list of faves: the Smiths, the Elvises (Presley and Costello), Handel (Messiah), Satie, Arvo Part, Gospel, Elvis singing gospel (sublime), Beatles, the Doors, Ramones, Radiohead, Jimi, Miles, Coltrane, Mingus, etc. On TV, I don't watch a whole lot, but as I'm a bit of an Anglophile, Downton Abbey and Sherlock are good fun (I was a Python and Benny Hill fan as a kid).

Enjoy playing tennis at Prospect Park, squash at NYSC, and pick-up hoops games at local courts. Relish winter sports like cross-country/downhill skiing and ice skating. Also enjoy diving, and thinking about doing the next certification level. And I love flyfishing in the Catskills (a lot). Other faves: the Strand (any used book store, in fact), raw bars, dim sum and the bakeries in Chinatown, pretty much anything with truffles or truffle oil.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Well, more than six, actually:

Hope about the future
Companionship/trusted friends
Music (would be fun to compare desert island selections)
The assumption one gets wiser with age
Something to read on the subway
The change of seasons
Indian, Middle Eastern and Japanese food
Hearty bread and good butter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lots of things, so sorry if I meander a bit here. Highly unoriginal, I know, but I try to be grateful -- for family, close friendships, health and other blessings -- rather than lament what might be missing, or paths not taken. Social justice is important to me, and informs my worldview and politics. On the lighter side, dealing with the sensory overload of NYC living, and the surfeit of interesting things going on, like what exhibits, plays or performances I want to check out. And always on the lookout for intriguing travel, cooking and reading suggestions. Lately, have been thinking I've been remiss in not volunteering more; but talk is cheap, and I've yet to get off my arse and actually do something about it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Varies quite a bit. Perhaps grabbing dinner and maybe a flick, play or live music with friends. In winter, maybe hitting late Fri hours at the Met or Whitney. Sometimes driving to the mountains or out to the East End. Home reading a book. In nice weather, I enjoy unwinding from the week by hitting the Park for 3-4 loops on the bike.
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When we meet perhaps...
You should message me if
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You're at all inclined noted above, I enjoy meeting all kinds of people, and am confident we'll find something in common.